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I’m honestly so frustrated and I need advice, especially from people who know the Islamic ruling on this.

I already wear hijab outside. I was basically forced into wearing it by my family, and even though I still wear it now, sometimes I feel like I’m only doing it because I don’t want to disappoint my parents. Seeing them upset with me hurts, so I feel like I don’t really have a choice, and I already struggle with the fact that I want hijab to be something I do for Allah, not just for my parents.

But now my mom is also telling me I need to cover up inside my own house.

She doesn’t want me wearing tank tops, shorts, or having my hair uncovered around my dad or my brother. She says it’s shameful for them to see me like that and tells me I have “no shame” if I don’t cover myself properly around them.

What confuses me is that my dad and brother are literally my mahrams. She also expects me to be extra covered around my maternal uncles even though they’re my mahrams too.

She has also told me that if I don’t cover up properly at home, the angels won’t give me barakah or that angels will leave because they can see me without hijab. I genuinely want to know if there is any Islamic evidence for this because I’ve never heard that before.

This isn’t only happening to me either. Pretty much all the girls and cousins in my family were forced to wear hijab, and even though we all wear it outside, our parents still expect us to cover up heavily at home too. The other day my cousin got a whole lecture from her dad because she was wearing shorts inside her own house.

I understand that Islam still has rules about awrah and modesty even around mahrams, so I’m not saying someone should just walk around practically naked. But is a woman actually required to cover her hair around her father, brother, or uncles? And what exactly is she required to cover in front of mahrams?

I’m honestly just exhausted. Home doesn’t even feel like the place where I can take my hijab off, put my hair down, wear comfortable clothes and relax anymore.

And being constantly told that I’m shameless or that Allah/angels won’t give me barakah if I don’t follow my family’s rules is making my relationship with hijab feel even more forced.

I would really appreciate Islamic sources or advice from other Muslim women who have dealt with something similar. I want to know what Islam actually requires versus what might just be cultural or family expectations.

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Hi everyone! I have dry skin and recently started using the ANUA PDRN cream, then applying the BOJ sunscreen on top. Ever since I started using this combo, I’ve noticed lots of tiny flesh-colored bumps on my face (they’re not really red or itchy).
Has anyone else experienced this? Could the products not be layering well together, or could one of them be causing clogged pores? I don’t usually get bumps like this, so I’m wondering if it’s the cream, the sunscreen, or the combination of both.
Any advice would be appreciated!

Has anyone taken History 2951 this summer? Have your final grades been posted on Student Center yet? It’s been about 15 days since the final exam and I’m still waiting for mine, so I’m just wondering if anyone else is in the same situation.

Hi everyone,

I'm wondering if anyone has experience qualifying for university bursaries when their family is on ODSP.

I'm a student with no personal income, and my household's main source of income is my father's ODSP disability benefits. I'm trying to figure out whether students in situations like mine typically qualify for need based bursaries or other financial aid.

If you've been in a similar situation, were you eligible for bursaries, and was there anything specific you had to provide when applying im looking to appky for one this up coming school year!

i’m looking for honest advice because i’m struggling with whether this is a compatibility issue or not.

i was raised in a muslim family where we only ate halal/zabiha meat. it’s never been something i questioned because it’s how i grew up and it’s important to me. my dad was actually a meat inspector for many years, so this issue was always taken seriously in my household.

there’s someone i’ve cared about for a long time and marriage has been discussed in the past. the problem is that he was raised differently. his family eats from regular restaurants and doesn’t follow the same standard when it comes to halal meat. i don’t really blame him for that because that’s how he was raised.

the issue is that i realized i don’t just want my future children to eat halal. i want my husband to eat halal too. for me it’s not about controlling someone, it’s about wanting to share the same values and practices in our home.

another thing that makes this difficult is that my family takes this issue very seriously. if my dad found out i was considering marrying someone who regularly eats non-halal meat, he would be genuinely disappointed. i know the same would likely be true for other members of my family as well. i’m not saying that means they should make the decision for me, but it’s definitely a factor and part of why i’m struggling with this.

part of me feels guilty because i know he didn’t choose how he was raised. another part of me wonders if i’m being unreasonable because some muslims genuinely believe eating non-zabiha meat is permissible.

has anyone dealt with a situation like this? did you consider it a compatibility issue? if your spouse had different views on halal meat, how did you handle it? i’m especially interested in hearing from married muslims rather than theoretical opinions.

i’m looking for honest advice because i’m struggling with whether this is a compatibility issue or not.

i was raised in a muslim family where we only ate halal/zabiha meat. it’s never been something i questioned because it’s how i grew up and it’s important to me. my dad was actually a meat inspector for many years, so this issue was always taken seriously in my household.

there’s someone i’ve cared about for a long time and marriage has been discussed in the past. the problem is that he was raised differently. his family eats from regular restaurants and doesn’t follow the same standard when it comes to halal meat. i don’t really blame him for that because that’s how he was raised.

the issue is that i realized i don’t just want my future children to eat halal. i want my husband to eat halal too. for me it’s not about controlling someone, it’s about wanting to share the same values and practices in our home.

another thing that makes this difficult is that my family takes this issue very seriously. if my dad found out i was considering marrying someone who regularly eats non-halal meat, he would be genuinely disappointed. i know the same would likely be true for other members of my family as well. i’m not saying that means they should make the decision for me, but it’s definitely a factor and part of why i’m struggling with this.

part of me feels guilty because i know he didn’t choose how he was raised. another part of me wonders if i’m being unreasonable because some muslims genuinely believe eating non-zabiha meat is permissible.

has anyone dealt with a situation like this? did you consider it a compatibility issue? if your spouse had different views on halal meat, how did you handle it? i’m especially interested in hearing from married muslims rather than theoretical opinions.

Hi everyone,

I have two upcoming interviews for summer camp counselor positions and I'm feeling a bit nervous. I'm a university student and I have experience working with children, plus I have CPR, First Aid, and AED certification.

What kinds of questions should I expect? How can I prepare beforehand, and what are interviewers usually looking for in camp counselors?

Hi everyone! 😊
I’m currently looking for a job in the London, Ontario area. I’m especially interested in positions working with children, such as camp counselor, recreation, or youth program roles, but I’m open to other opportunities as well.

I have Standard First Aid & CPR-C/AED certification, HIGH FIVE Principles of Healthy Child Development certification, and experience in customer service. If you know of any places that are hiring, please let me know. Thank you!

Salam, I’m a 19-year-old university student trying to find a part-time job, and I honestly feel so defeated right now.

I’ve been applying and making a lot of dua. I prayed so much, especially during Ramadan, hoping things would work out, but I still can’t seem to land a job. I look around and it feels like everyone around me has one except me. It’s starting to make me feel like I’m doing nothing with my life.

I can’t stop crying because I feel discouraged and stuck. My dad is on disability and my mom doesn’t work, so we live off government support Alhamdulillah, I’m grateful for what we have and I’m not trying to complain. But I really want to work so I can afford my own needs and help myself out instead of feeling like I’m depending on others.

I know I’m only 19, but I feel like I’m falling behind in life and I keep comparing myself to everyone around me. Has anyone else gone through this? How did you deal with feeling like a failure while struggling to find a job?

it’s been almost 2 months since i stopped stalking my ex. i deleted all my social media, but i’m getting the urge to check on him again. tell me something that’ll stop me from doing it or make me not want to stalk him.

genuine question for men: if your friends constantly talked badly about your girlfriend, would you drop them, defend her, or just let it happen?

i’m asking because i genuinely don’t know if i’m overreacting anymore. my boyfriend (probably about to be my ex at this point) tells me his friends and even friends of friends say things like “you can do better” or “find a prettier girl.” he says he gets mad and defends me and tells them he already found his wife, which is me. but then he comes back and tells me the things they said and it honestly hurts so much.

maybe i’m doing it to myself because sometimes he’ll say “i had an argument with someone” and then say “i don’t wanna hurt your feelings,” and i end up begging him to tell me because my mind starts overthinking. then i hear what was said and it just sits in my head for days.

one thing that really got to me was some guy he isn’t even close with saying “at least i don’t date indians.” i’m not even indian, but that’s not even the point. the point is why are people comfortable saying weird disrespectful things about me when they barely even know me?

i’m starting to feel like i’m being judged by people i’ve never even met. it makes me feel ugly, unwanted, and honestly embarrassed for no reason. i keep wondering if i’m supposed to just accept that this is how his friend group is because he says he’s known them for 10 years and can’t just drop them.

i’m not even asking for him to cut off everyone in his life. i just want to know: if people around you constantly disrespected your girlfriend, what would you actually do?

My best friend (22F) wants to come over for her birthday, but I’m (22F) in a low-income situation and can’t really afford a gift right now. I got her something last year, but she didn’t get me anything for mine (I don’t really care about that part).

I feel guilty and like I’m not being a good friend. She still wants to celebrate together at my place.
How should I handle this without making things awkward between us? I don’t want her to feel bad or for it to seem like I’m making a big deal out of it, but I also don’t want to feel stressed about it. Should I send her a message beforehand explaining how I’m feeling, or just wait until she comes over and act normal? I’m kind of overthinking it and not sure what the best way to approach it is.

TL;DR: I don’t have money for a gift, my friend is coming over, and I’m not sure if I should say something or just act normal.

i broke up with my ex because our relationship had become really toxic and unhealthy for both of us. we’d been together since we were 15 and we’re 19 now, so it was a long time and things just weren’t good anymore. a month after the breakup he came back begging for me back, but we ended up arguing again and in that moment he said he wished he never had s*x with me, called me filthy, and said a bunch of really hurtful things. ever since then i can’t stop replaying it in my head. it honestly triggered every insecurity i already had and made me feel disgusting to the point where i felt physically sick. i know logically i shouldn’t let his words define me, but i’m struggling to get them out of my head and it’s affecting how i see myself. if anyone has any advice on how to cope with something like this or move forward and stop ruminating, i’d really appreciate it.

hi, i don’t really know how to word this properly but i just need to get it out somewhere.

so basically my mom and her three sisters have beef with their own family, so they don’t talk to their older sister and they also don’t talk to their younger brothers’ wives. my mom still talks to her brothers but not their wives. me on the other hand, i’m actually close with my mom’s younger brother’s wives. i genuinely like them, but my mom doesn’t like that at all and she gets jealous and starts stirring stuff up.

she makes up things about them and slowly tries to make me stop talking to them. over time she had me thinking they were bad people when really it wasn’t even like that. now i’m realizing it was mostly her twisting things and it’s honestly messed with my head so much.

and it’s the same thing with my dad’s best friend’s daughters. my dad doesn’t talk to that family anymore but i still do and i’m close with them. every time my mom finds out she gets mad and starts saying stuff about them too, like they’re gossipers or bad people and tries to make me believe it. and i just keep noticing it’s always her and her sisters making up stuff and pushing me away from people i actually care about. it honestly feels really manipulative and like gaslighting.

when i hang out with them or talk to them, she gets upset and tells me to block them, delete their numbers, and tries to convince me they’re bad people, saying they gossip about me, create drama, etc. but i know them and they’re actually good people who don’t do any of that. it feels like she’s turning them into villains in my head.

i haven’t talked to her for 5 days now. i’ve only been talking to my dad but he doesn’t even really know what’s going on. i’ve just been mentally not okay. i’ve been depressed, i don’t get out of bed most days, i feel drained and exhausted all the time. my mental health has honestly been really bad because of all of this and it’s been going on for years now and i’m just tired.

i don’t really know what to do anymore, i just needed to get this out somewhere. please give me any advice

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