u/Cool_Ship_5032

I've been reading a lot online, both here and various websites, and can't seem to find a clear answer on both the scale of waiting times, and what routes and/or clinics to go to?

Currently, I'm 16, in the south west, and take non-prescribed HRT (I have done for just over a year).

What I want to do is use the NHS to get phalloplasty, top surgery I'm happy to go private, but for phallo I js don't think I'll be able to afford upwards of 60k anytime without a loan.

I know that the south west clinic has one of the longer waiting times, can I join the list for another? What 's the actual process like after you even get in? How much time do I need to spend on NHS hormones before I can get a surgery referral, or does my current HRT count? What about the waiting time for a phallo consult?

Is it unreasonable to think if I join the list at 17 I'll be able to have phallo before I'm 30?

Passing is genuinely easy if you’re ftm, the only thing that can make you look clocky is height.

If you’re 5’5 or under youre cooked forever and doomed to look 12, but w enough effort u can slightly uncook yourself, mainly tren + working out to look like some kinda homunculus, but at least an adult

I’m just sick of seeing people complain about not passing or seeing people who don’t pass and they’re tall cause how are you wasting your potential it is not hard bro

Im posting this here and on r/asklgbt for more opinions

Basically I am 18, and am transsex ftm. I first realised at 6, came out at 11 socially, then 14 to family. I started testosterone at 15, and have been stealth since 16 when I started sixth form.

I met my friend at school, and we’re in the same friend group and stuff. We hang out together a lot in and out of school. He’s straight (as am I), but recently he’s been kinda touchy with me. Like there’s been a few times when he hit me on the ass as a joke. Also, since I’m short (160) ive always gotten jokes about becoming a femboy (though that’s pretty much the only feminine thing about my frame, I have a passing face and work out regularly to the point I have abs and good biceps), but now he’s started making those types of jokes way more often.

Another thing which was kinda the main thing to set me off was recently I was staying over at his house overnight. We were watch in a movie together sat on a sofa, on opposite sides, then he got up to get a drink, and when he came back he sat closer to me, then started leaning against me. I said “this is hella gay” to get him to get off me but he just said “nah it’s not” and stayed there. Also idk how to explain it but recently there’s been some kinda change to the vibe of our friendship.

I’m worried that he’s realised I’m trans and is tryna fuck me or some shit cause he’s realised I have a pussy (for now) and he gets no girls, but I also could be paranoid and he’s just being weird

Im posting this here and on r/asktransgender for more opinions

Basically I am 18, and am transsex ftm. I first realised at 6, came out at 11 socially, then 14 to family. I started testosterone at 15, and have been stealth since 16 when I started sixth form.

I met my friend at school, and we’re in the same friend group and stuff. We hang out together a lot in and out of school. He’s straight (as am I), but recently he’s been kinda touchy with me. Like there’s been a few times when he hit me on the ass as a joke. Also, since I’m short (160) ive always gotten jokes about becoming a femboy (though that’s pretty much the only feminine thing about my frame, I have a passing face and work out regularly to the point I have abs and good biceps), but now he’s started making those types of jokes way more often.

Another thing which was kinda the main thing to set me off was recently I was staying over at his house overnight. We were watch in a movie together sat on a sofa, on opposite sides, then he got up to get a drink, and when he came back he sat closer to me, then started leaning against me. I said “this is hella gay” to get him to get off me but he just said “nah it’s not” and stayed there. Also idk how to explain it but recently there’s been some kinda change to the vibe of our friendship.

I’m worried that he’s realised I’m trans and is tryna fuck me or some shit cause he’s realised I have a pussy (for now) and he gets no girls, but I also could be paranoid and he’s just being weird