u/Cosmic_Berry039

Wait... Telegram got banned in India? 😭

I just got a message saying "Telegram is back in India" and this is literally the first I'm hearing about it. I never even noticed it was gone.

What happened? When did it get banned? Or was it never actually banned and I completely missed some drama?

Today is OPs birthday, turning 24.. and for the first time in a long time, it feels different..

Pata hai aaj kya hua! Nothing dramatic.. bas chill. I haven't taken a single picture today. No rushing to find the perfect angle. No forcing a smile for Instagram. No trying to capture every moment so people know I'm having fun. I haven't posted a story.

I wasn't checking. I wasn't waiting to see who wished me on their story and who didn't. I wasn't keeping score. Jinko yaad h, yaad h. The people who wished me, wished me. And I'm grateful for every one of them.

That's enough. And maybe that's why today feels so different.

Since 2017, I've pretty much always been in a relationship. Precisely 2 loves. Obviously one relationship after another. Every birthday came with expectations attached to it.

You know how dating is a sin in desi homes. Either I couldn't celebrate with them and felt guilty. Or they couldn't meet me and felt disappointed. There were secret texts, secret video calls, hidden plans, trying to make time, trying to make everyone happy, trying not to disappoint anyone. I loved them with my whole heart. Somehow things didnt work. Cried my heart out, endless questions of why I wasnt enough. Both relationships ended on good terms.

But my most recent heartbreak isn't even old. It's only been around 50 days. For a while, I genuinely felt like a living corpse. Everyone kept saying, " You deserve better. His loss. You'll get over him." And I hated hearing that because I didn't think I ever would.

Then something changed. I still don't know exactly what/when. I started talking to people again. I started making friends without constantly worrying, "What if they cross a line? What if I regret becoming friends with them?"

I cut my hair.. not the dramatic heartbreak haircut, the good kind. Lower layers, some face framings, a little messy, not salon-perfect, but cute.. And somewhere along the way, I started liking myself. My pimples stopped feeling like flaws that needed hiding. My arms stopped feeling like something that needed to be covered up. I stopped looking at myself through someone else's eyes. And for the first time in years, I started seeing myself through my own.

I realized that I am actually pretty... funny.. kind... interesting.. worth knowing.. worth loving..

And one day I caught myself thinking "It's their loss." Not out of anger. Not out of ego.

Just a calm realization that someone had the chance to keep me forever and chose not to.. life moved on.

Today there are no secret conversations. No sneaky texts. No hidden video calls showing off my birthday outfit. No fights. No disappointments. No explanations. No anxiety.

I can leave my phone unlocked on a table without panic. I can text guy friends without feeling like I need to explain myself for this act. Boys can be friends. Apparently that's still a revolutionary concept for some people. There is no guilt attached to my happiness today. Even outside of relationships, life isn't perfect. I didn't get selected for M.Tech until now. A few months ago, that would've destroyed me..making me feel like a total loser.

Today?

I'm okay. I realised I must work more hard and efficient to crack it. If not this, then something else. Not everyone gets the sweet peach on the first try. No comparisons. No feeling behind.

Just moving at my own pace. And honestly, I think that's what I'm celebrating today.

Not my birthday. Not being single. Not getting over someone. I'm celebrating the fact that after years of carrying secrets, expectations, heartbreaks, insecurities, pressure, and disappointment... I finally feel at peace with myself. These days happiness feels expensive. So many people spend years searching for it. Today, somehow, I have it.

Just existing. Just breathing. Just being happy. And for the first time in a very long time, I'M ENOUGH.. after years of carrying everyone else, I finally carried myself!

Pata hai aaj kya hua.. I randomly met this guy at a shop my dad’s been taking me to this week, and I swear I have not felt this intrigued by someone in SO long 😭

I’ve seen him like 3 times already because of errands, and every single time he’s been so gentle, calm, and just… sweet? Not in an obvious flirty way, but something about him feels different. I've got one last chance, after that the work would be dont I cant see him again, ( unless i delibrately make an excuse).

The problem: I knew NOTHING about him.

So naturally, I went full FBI mode:

Tried checking the UPI QR code for his name… turned out it belonged to some merchant account 💀

Tried getting him to call me when the work was done… my dad gave HIS number instead 😭 he later asked me again while writing down another reciept.. but I couldnt dare to give my number, I actually froze.. and my dad did his job..

Finally, my dad casually asked his name, so now I at least know that.

Went through the shops instagram page, but its an all India brand so nothing specific about fhis store or him...

Now I’m sitting here wondering… how do I (normally, not creepily) find out more about him.. and i kinda wanna be his friend, sooo any ideas

For context: I do NOT trust men easily, and I usually get put off by dominating energy fast… but this guy felt genuinely soft, respectful, and cute, and now my brain refuses to move on. Maybe I coupdnt afford a relation but hes driving me insane . Dying out of curiosity..

Please tell me your best harmless detective tips… or tell me I’m being delusional 😂

I've bought this saree in a Chennai shopping mall (it's also available online on some sites) and now I'm wondering how I should style it if I want to wear a sleeveless blouse (and open pallu). It's for my sister's reception. This is my first time wearing a sleeveless blouse with a saree.

thought of having the same blouse as the model, but then I wonder what my jewelry should be like.

If I try for a regular deep blouse for the body, my tailor suggested it would look like a DIY-stitched inner wear and be vulgar.

I am totally stuck and the date is approaching. Please share your ideas and help me slay

Every time I wear a blouse, I feel the side bulges are making me awkward. How do I get rid of such a thing?

Also will there be spillage from the armpit hole? Any suggestions on that??