43 [F4M] In Person for Texas, Arkansas, Louisiana, Oklahoma
-age 43
-I’m keeping my options open as far as polyamory versus a single relationship. So I’m posting in both.
-Natural chemistry is very important to me. That is going to play a big part in whether I want a relationship with a person. Items on a list only do so much for me, but maybe that is true for everyone.
-I’m a Taurus zodiac Sun sign (I like & place some degree of importance into birth charts- not the daily horoscopes)
-I am a spiritual person, which I realize means different things to different people.
-I’m single (no partners) and have never been married.
-I have no kids. Never found anyone to have kids with, then found out about fertility issues last fall.
-My body is not curvy, and I’m only average looking. And as you know, aging women show more aging and that will only get worse, not better. I don’t have money for all the expensive treatments women get these days. I’m not saying some of you may not find me attractive. Some will find me attractive “enough” and some won’t. Likewise, I’ve got to have sufficient physical attraction to you too for bedroom activity, so it understandably goes both ways. But I do consider myself to be average.
-I’m not nerdy, geeky, a gamer, or a true intellectual. I’m sorry to disappoint since I see so many seeking those aspects in their posts.
-I’m laid back/relaxed/chilled out in my demeanor and persona, but I do experience anxiety and worry.
-I never smoke anything and I occasionally drink.
-If you are drawn to a person who is frequent high energy, bubbly, talkative, has to constantly be active and productive, while I respect those qualities, that isn’t me.
-I am responsible though, and I do like to take on challenges that will facilitate growth for myself.
-I chose to do work for a living that is about significant purpose and designed to foster meaningful and important growth for struggling people, so I don’t make a lot of money.
-I love to travel, but that is usually limited for me due to the point above.
-I’m contemplative, analytical, interested in the “why’s and how’s”, mix of introvert and extrovert, intuitive, simple yet complicated, accommodating, interested in recognizing and supporting the feelings and well being of others. I need realistic hope and future options in life about things to look forward to in order to feel positive enough about life. I am careful and extra thoughtful about larger purchases. I expect myself to be perfect and understanding of all information at hand in whatever I take on - not a good thing all the time, am working on trying to accept that I don’t have to be perfect or perfectly thorough to get something accomplished to a reasonably sufficient degree.
-I have an overwhelmingly strong desire to have an important spiritual purpose for being on this planet, and I also really want to matter to at least a few people. Even though I know that the premise of poly is that no one person is any more important than any other people, I don’t want to be in a situation where I either don’t understand specifically what I’m bringing to the table, or in a situation where I’m only bringing limited and superficial things compared to other women in the dynamic. I don’t want to feel or be used. I know everyone is replaceable in their jobs. I’m hoping I can find a partner who doesn’t view me as being replaceable and interchangeable in the way that people are in jobs.
-I am a pretty straight forward person and have a strong need to know where I stand with people I care about.
-I don’t have a lot of well developed hobbies, so I apologize if you are looking for that. I do like adventure here and there when able.
-Activities I’ve tried that I enjoy- hiking, kayaking, flea markets and antiquing, card games, movies of course, traveling as previously stated, snorkeling, swimming, volunteering.
-Activities I’ve tried that I either didn’t like or could take or leave it- fishing, drawing, painting, sewing, writing poetry or fiction, gaming.
-Activities I haven’t tried but I want to try soon- how to do a variety of home improvement projects in my house, branching out into listening to more podcasts/youtubers. I only watch a few lately.
-It is important to me that you are reasonably intelligent, take care of yourself to a reasonable degree, not a promiscuous person, are empathetic, are not particularly superficial, are not selfish in the bedroom, make wise and fair decisions in life, are ethical, are emotionally stable and fairly emotionally consistent, are not a secretive person by nature (meaning you aren’t the type who lies to people or has a strong need to lie to have your cake and eat it too), are not lazy, and are not bad with your finances.
-If you primarily like horror movies, that won’t work for me.
-If you haven’t figured out how to overcome ED, that won’t work for me either.
-I will require honesty about STD’s and test results of we get to that point.