u/CrypticJasmine

Hello good people of ugly reddit! I come to you today with the last post I will post in this community ❤️

NO it is NOT all in your head. If you are ugly, then yes, the world does treat you like crap a lot of the time. This is exactly why you could benefit from therapy more than the average person - to cope with all of the abuse AND the way these experiences have impacted your psychology and the way you feel about yourself. Will it magically fix all your problems? No, of course not, but that's not the point of therapy.

The point of therapy is to 'improve your mental health, enhance your daily functioning, and increase your overall quality of life'. These are all things that can be done even if you cannot change your circumstances or the way people treat you. For example, if your loved one has passed away, you can't change those circumstances and there is nothing you can do about that other than attend to the grief and psychology around it. Some things therapy can help with are:

1. Healing from a life time of abuse
2. Grieving the types of experiences you never had (and may never have)
3. Changing the way you feel about yourself
4. Help to refocus from your appearance to other aspects of life (and I know other people don't let you forget but that's part of the work that also ties in with healing from abuse.
5. Managing thoughts and emotions

If you don't have access to therapy, free online support groups (I saw someone here make a discord which is awesome exactly that type of thing), books and mental health workbooks, can be places to start to care for your mental health. Also there are other forms of treatment that may help besides just 'talk therapy' or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy such as Ketamine Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, etc. The level of distress coming out of this subreddit is pretty severe so I think things like Ketamine therapy and eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy are all things that could be looked into.

There are some debates about what BDD is. Some say it's a focus on your appearance in a way that becomes debilitating. Others say it's that but paired with 'imagining things'. But what if you are not imagining things, can you still have or be treated for BDD? If you are obsessing over your appearance (even if people are abusive to you and you know what you are seeing is not an illusion) yes you can still have OCD/ BDD.

If you are really struggling with the way your appearance is impacting your life, I highly encourage you to get support from a therapist who specializes in OCD/BDD or one of the other forms of therapy because you deserve it. It's too painful and too much of a burden to carry alone. AND if your therapist totally dismisses you, mocks you, belittles you, PLEASE seek out a different therapist!!! Not all therapists are good just like people in any field. I had 3 bad therapists before I had a good one and she genuinely helped me start to heal and shift my life (from CPTSD, not BDD/OCD i'm just now starting with that one)

I learned that people usually wait 10-15 years before they get help for this because 1) they usually spend so much time wondering if they have BDD because they think they are ugly 2) they are usually shamed for being shallow or vain and don't seek help.

If that's the case for people who have BDD just imagine how many people who are ugly don't think they have OCD/BDD because their appearance is 'not imagined'? Just think of how many people don't seek help for their mental health because they think the only way to improve their life at all is to change their appearance. If all you can think about is how you look night and day and it's impacting your life, please consider getting support. You deserve support more than anyone with the way society treats ugly people and again you can still have OCD (BDD). Even if you don't have that specifically, if you are in chronic distress due to your appearance, please consider seeking support. Your mental health matters! I'm not saying don't get surgery or get therapy instead of surgery - do whatever will improve your quality of life. What I'm saying is don't totally neglect the mental health aspect of your life just because your appearance and the way people treat you are outside of your control. There are still things you can do for your mental health within that context ❤️

I joined this subreddit when I had a breakdown two weeks ago and finally admitted to myself that all of my avoidant and coping behaviors were centered around not wanting to leave the house or interact with people because of my face. This is something I have struggled with my whole life. I wasn't sure if I had BDD because I did not think I was imagining things especially since people have called me ugly through my life.

That said, I am going to leave ugly reddit because I believe since I may have OCD/BDD my participation here disturbs some people (as I've seen in various posts talking about people with BDD or people who post themselves online because 'no one who is actually ugly would ever do that' [not true - people do! Plus there's a huge element of control with lighting makeup etc but I digress]). I'm not trying to contribute to making things worse for anyone in this sub. I'm not saying those posts were about me but I'm just trying to be self-aware if the shoe fits, I don't want to contribute negatively. Contributing to distress people in this community is absolutely not my intention at all. For that reason, I encourage other people with BDD or who are not sure if you have BDD to reflect on that too and maybe lets stick to the mental health forums. It's a bit of an uphill battle you have here in ugly reddit because people with bdd genuinely believe they are ugly. I had a family member who genuinely thought she looked like a gorilla/ Sasquatch. People DON'T KNOW It's NOT REAL! Sadly, your train of people with BDD will keep rolling in, most of them who don't know they have it.

Also, I realized since I've been using Reddit more the last two weeks, I can be pretty defensive which is something I'm going to dive into in my own therapy to try to change. I think it comes from a history of people treating ME bad and therefore me assuming the worst of people / getting defensive when I feel attacked. It also comes from feeling misunderstood and demonized by my family of origin, so you know, I've got my own issues. All that to say I apologize if I brought about any distress to anyone by participating here or if I was defensive in any of my original replies. I was looking for community and people who understood me. I will stick to mental health forums since that's my main concern anyway, improving my mental health.

Genuinely wishing you all the best of luck in this life. I hope you find ways to cultivate community, to bridge the gaps of experiences together, and to make the most of this life that you can! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

Ya’ll (I’m from Texas I have the credentials to say ya’ll), reading all your posts makes me so sad. It makes me so sad that society is this messed up that it genuinely marginalizes, shuns, and abuses people for their appearance. That it makes living life so unbearable for most people if they are ugly. The fact that most people in this thread just want to be treated with human dignity and have “normal” human experiences is so sad 💔 and what it highlights about our society is enraging 😡

I wish I could throw the biggest ugliest party on the planet! I wish money was no object and everyone here would be invited. No phones and no videos allowed. Just people hanging out enjoying music and having conversations. Masks ALLOWED if it makes you more comfortable.

Society now is so DULL and social media is making it worse! Everything is about appearance and trying not to be cringe. How BORING!!!

I wish I could party with you people here in this thread! Seriously! The funnest times in my life have been hanging out partying with people and everyone deserves to experience that level of joy. My only fear about that would be the normies of course trying to make a big joke about it 🙄 but in this perfect dream scenario we have security to tackle anyone trying to get in who’s just trying to be an asshole. 😤

Anyway just a fantasy but I wonder how many of you (in this totally hypothetical scenario) would be down to party together? Also what songs would you like to hear at a party? I can make a playlist. Musical tastes can vary greatly but if you wanna hear it it will be played! 🥳🥳🥳

Maladaptive day dreaming is my copium 💖

Hello good people of Ugly Reddit. A rant if I may. So I am rewatching Game of Thrones and I recently got to the scene where we are introduced to Walder Freys daughters. For those who haven’t seen the show, the Frey Daughters are presented in the show as being grotesquely hideous. The very idea of marrying them would be sickening. In the show, their father basically says he can’t GIVE THEM AWAY!

The first time I watched game of thrones was 2018 and I was 28 years old. I have always struggled with being/ feeling ugly. I have a big broken crooked nose with a bump, hereditary bags under my eyes that are always there, messed up teeth, textured skin, a small forehead etc you get the idea. I actually have features that people would consider ugly and have been called ugly / treated ugly throughout my life.

When I first saw the show and this scene introducing the daughters was presented, I was watching it with my boyfriend at the time, I remember wanting to disappear into the pillows. I had a physical reaction to the scene. To summarize my thoughts were 1) OMG THEY ARE HIDEOUS 2) OMG I LOOK LIKE THEM! 3) My boyfriend must be so ashamed to be with me because I look like them - the women who can’t be given away. I felt I looked more like those women than any other woman (all raving beauties) on the show and it caused an intense feeling of shame.

Fast forward to today. I it’s 2026, I’m 36 years old and rewatching the show I was bracing myself for this scene and also curious of what these hideous beasts that created such a panic in me almost 10 years ago looked like. Get to the scene and I’m thinking 1) OMG! These just look like normal regular women!!! 2) why did I think they were so grotesquely hideous before?! Granted, the show is presenting them in such a way and they do have some features that are considered “ugly” by societies standards but I was actually shocked by just how normal they all looked to me. I didn’t even find them ugly AT ALL! I’m not sure if it’s because my own perception of beauty has changed, or if just wisdom has come with age or WHAT but it was such a weird feeling to be looking at the exact same group of women and to genuinely just see that, not a gaggle of hideous monsters but just WOMEN!

Ugliness is so hard because I understand WHY it’s helpful to just admit when you are ugly by societies standards, especially when people keep calling you ugly and treating you like crap. But societies standards are SO FUCKED and it’s only getting worse with social media, filters, surgery and procedures being more common. I see the pain coming out of this thread related to being ugly. I also feel that pain regularly and I know it’s like a sliding scale: the uglier you think you are / ‘objectively’ are the harder it is and probably the deeper the pain. But i just want to rant that that pain exists in the first place because our society is becoming more and more obsessed with appearance and the standards are INSANE!

I’m always thinking about what we can do to make things better for ourselves. How we can create a culture shift even if just for ourselves. We can’t control what society presents as ugly and no matter what people will always fall below the standard - so it’s more about shifting culture to not dehumanize ugliness. Humanize Ugly. I’m also thinking about the locus of control. We can’t control society as a whole or how other people treat us but we can do something. The point we have the biggest lever for change for is our own psychology. If my psychology was able to shift from seeing these women as hideous to just normal women, we can shift our psychology at least so that ugliness and the way society treats us for our ugliness isn’t so painful or at least there are ways to manage the pain that don’t leave people feeling so hopeless. At least I hope so!

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Any ugly people out there who have become more content or even happy in life because of a shift in psychology?

VERY long post so TL;DR: Finally accepting that I have a mental Health Disorder (in my case BDD/OCD) has already started to change my relationship with food, lessen the addiction and food noise, and change my reasons and approach to weight-loss and fitness. 

Hello all! I just wanted to post here because I feel like I found a key that helped me finally break through what felt like a hopeless food addiction. This post will not be for everyone, it will not apply to everyone, and I would never discourage someone from losing weight and getting fit/ healthy. This post is for people who struggle to be consistant to a degree where they feel hopeless. The root cause could be a mental health disorder and by focusing on healing that, you might actually start to heal your relationship with food and your body so that yo have the resources, support, and space to actually stop coping and start being consistent. I wanted to share this incase it might help someone else. While we share similar goals all of our circumstances and details that cause us to gain weight and will help us to lose weight are different. I have REALLY struggled with being able to be consistent and recently had a lightbulb moment! Maybe this will help someone who is struggling in the same way 💖

The example from my own life: I have struggled with my weight for a long time, in a way, my whole life. I have specifically struggled with food addiction and obesity for the last 10 - 12 years. I was a big drinker before then but hardly ate so it was easier to get drunk which kept me from gaining weight. When I stopped drinking as much and started eating MUCH more, that’s when all the weight-gain started. It didn’t help that the last 10 years were rough: I was in survival mode financially and with my mental health , in an unstable relationship and life style that depleted me, and we all know Covid happened, and then my dad was diagnosed with cancer and passed away from it after a brutal two year battle. Through it all I struggled with using food to cope, wanting to get fit and healthy, but not being able to gain control and consistency with my habits around food and activity. 

Fast forward to this year. I cut out a lot of stressors that were contributing to depression in my life: job I hate, draining long term romantic relationship, and other relationships that negatively impacted me. I finally had what I wanted - space to just work on MYSELF. I thought “finally, nothing to get in my way”. All the excuses I had for not being able to lose weight were eliminated from my life and I was left with just me. At first it felt easy, I was happy to be on my own and able to lose some weight. Apply a little pressure or stress, and all the eating to cope would come right back. I already yo-yoed with my weight so many times this year it’s not even funny. I started to question: is it just a habit now that’s so strong I’m struggling to break it? Is it food addiction and should I go somewhere to get in-patient treatment like rehab? The last two weeks I hit a breaking point. I got really depressed due to my inability to be consistent. I felt doomed to yo-yo my entire life and never get the results I wanted. 

Last Monday I was struggling with the feeling of wanting to lay around and do nothing but binge eat. I dug into that. I thought, “why would I want something that actively goes against everything I actually want for myself?” The answer: this behavior is benefiting you in someway - not just the dopamine hit, but you are getting something from it. Okay - what am I getting from it? The answer: comfort. Okay, comfort from WHAT?! The answer: everything I’m avoiding doing - examples: I hate having to go outside, hate having to get ready, dread interacting with people, my world is shrinking smaller and smaller because I’m basically trying to avoid everything. Okay, WHY? And then I broke down crying - the answer: I just feel so hideous all the time and not because of my weight but because of my face. There it was. The answer. I have known this my whole life. Most of the time, I feel grotesquely hideous. I have used various methods to try to cover that up from alcohol, to food, to barley leaving my living space. I hate getting ready because it rarely seems to help- doing make up and all that when it’s said and done I still feel hideous. This time, instead of judging myself for it, I let myself cry about it. I let myself accept that this is true. I’m always so busy trying to mask this or deny this because it’s embarrassing and I’m ashamed to be so impacted by my appearance as a grown woman when there are so many “real problems” in the world. But I could no longer deny this is at the root of what I’ve been running from my whole life. It’s caused depression, social anxiety, agoraphobia, food addiction, and has negatively impacted every aspect of my life. I finally decided to accept I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder and to seek help for that instead of ignoring or covering it up. I joined Reddit threads, found support groups, started going through a BDD workbook, and booked my first therapy session with a BDD expert specifically to focus on that. 

In this process I have learned that BDD is a sub category of OCD. I learned that people often don’t seek help with their BDD until 10-15 years after diagnosis (if they are lucky enough to get diagnosed) even though 80% of the people with this disorder struggle with lifelong suicidal ideation, and most have co-morbid depression, and social anxiety. Why? With symptoms so severe, why is it then that this mental health disorder is so drastically under diagnosed and under treated? 1) People are ashamed. People think those who struggle with BDD or other non-specified OCD revolving around their appearance is immaturity, vanity, or some other moral failure on their part. People often down play the very real and painful impacts these mental health disorders can have on someone’s life. Along with that people don’t want to admit they are ugly or think they are ugly. Struggling with this disorder brings a lot of shame. It’s like double the shame - shame about your appearance and shame that it impacts you so deeply. 2) People who struggle with BDD believe they are ugly and often get stuck in the loop of questioning if they have BDD or if they are just ugly. If they conclude they are just ugly they continue to painfully live with what is probably BDD. Even if someone is not imagining that they are ugly but let’s say by societies standards would be considered ‘ugly’ or even ‘conventionally unattractive’ they COULD still have BDD or some similar variation of OCD that is not talked about nearly as much. What matters most is the obsessive and compulsive behaviors around appearance and the very negative impacts it has on your life. This made me realize, a lot of people are probably struggling with this and are stuck in the same places I was in (shame or uncertainty) and therefore not seeking help. If any of this has resonated with you, I highly encourage you to visit The Center for Clinical Interventions website and work through their BDD workbook: https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Body-Dysmorphia. Also, and possibly most importantly, to try to find a therapist who specializes in BDD / OCD. Find community, even the BDD and other mental health reddit threads are a great place to start and they often have links to helpful resources. 

It has only been a week but my relationship with food has already started to change. Now that I can actually accept and can name clearly without shame  what I’ve been running from (OCD/ BDD) and can work on it directly, my relationship with food is changing. So what is changing already? 

1. A huge desire for me to want to lose weight was so that I could look better. Changing my face mostly would require expensive and dangerous surgeries but losing weight seemed like the thing most in my control. Nothing wrong with that AT ALL. However, it wasn’t helping me because in a way I was fixating on weight-loss as a punishment for my appearance. Even when I tried to approach it with love and care the truth was underneath. I DO still want to lose weight and get fit but not as a desperate fix to look better - which didn’t work because food was my coping mechanism for the exact same problem. It really was a messed up cycle! 

2. Once I realized this, I paused weight-loss as my primary goal and switched to focusing on learning about OCD/BDD and getting help for this. Once weight-loss was put on pause, I was able to better observe and understand my relationship with food. Nothing was off limits, no food was labeled ‘bad’, I was trying to be mindful but not fully restricting. I had tried this approach before but without accepting the root cause for what was driving me to want to eat highly palatable food in excess in the first place, it didn’t work. Now that I had this knowledge, I found myself eating what I wanted but then getting satisfied quicker. Throwing what was left away WITHOUT feeling a sort of grief for leaving food behind. I found myself thinking ‘I already ate something highly palatable today let me reach for protein’. I found myself finally more naturally following all of the good knowledge I had because my main source of internal pain was no longer being ignored. I naturally just had less food noise and less of a desire to cope with food. I also found that on the one day the urges to cope with food were coming back strong - I was more easily able to identify the emotional roots of what I was covering up and pursue that instead of food (even after giving in a little to the food noise at the beginning of the day).

 

I am at the beginning of this process to learn to manage my BDD/ OCD and if I continue to see positive impacts on my relationship with food I will update again. 

I hope this helps someone who is feeling hopeless and secretly (and maybe even unknowingly) struggling with BDD, OCD, or any other unaddressed mental health disorder. Even if you have BDD/ OCD and start to address it and your relationship with food doesn’t start to change right away like mine did, that doesn’t mean there is no answer. Before I got to this point I worked through a TON of other things going on with my mental health especially recovering form growing up in a dysfunctional family system resulting in CPTSD (and THAT took a few years). All of our paths look different but whatever yours looks like I’m rooting for you! Keep going! 💖

Hello all. I just started going through the BDD Workbook today. In module one, I was a little shocked to learn that the average person doesn't get help for their BDD until 10-15 years after diagnosis. On one hand I'm shocked because it's just so long to live with this kind of distress. On the other hand, it makes sense. I knew I struggled with this since I was 15 at least and I'm 36 now so that's actually 21 years before I took this seriously. It's like the module said, a huge part of that was because I was so ashamed. I felt embarrassed for 'being so vain' that my appearance was negatively impacting my life. Also, I was confused about Body dysmorphia for a long time. It's called BODY dysmorphia but my main issue has always been with my face. I thought that was not normal but now I come to learn that a majority of people who struggle with BDD are focused on the (perceived) flaws of their face. I also didn't seek help because I wasn't sure if I had BDD or if I was just ugly. Now I know that regardless my obsessive, compulsive, and avoidant behavior revolving around my appearance is some version of OCD. Whether I actually have BDD or I'm just ugly and have OSOCRD the mental health treatment aspect will virtually be the same so if I move forward with BDD resources and treatment - it is likely to help me. I have my first therapy session focusing on BDD on Tuesday!

How many of you reading this have tried to get help for BDD? If so how long did it take you to seek help and why? Have you seen a therapist? Why or why not? Have you tried the workbook? Why or why not? If you have tried seeking help do you feel you were helped? Why or why not? If you were helped was it what you thought it would be?

If you still aren't seeking help do you have a threshold in your mind for when you think you might seek help in the future?

Just curious what other people's experiences are with getting help and working on this.

Thank you in advance for sharing!

Hello good people of dog subreddit! HEEEELP! Okay so I adopted an 11 month old terrier puppy two months ago. Due to a series of unfortunate circumstances we haven’t gotten far on his basic training. I lack the knowledge to handle him when he gets wild. Main concerns are demand barking and gnawing at me and my hands even when many toys are around and I redirect him to toys. His bark is 95 decibels loud! I know dogs bark but because he’s so loud I’d at least love for the demand barking to stop (I don’t mind when he’s alert barking at the door because he’s a good security guard).

I know he needs outlets for energy. Our first month together we were taking 4- 6 walks a day averaging around 13- 15k steps a day plus I’d take him to the dog park several times a week so he could run. Just this past week I got really depressed in a way I haven’t been in a while. Good thing was I started taking him to daycare everyday. He’d be there all day running, playing, interacting, and come home WIPED OUT! He’d just eat dinner then sleep til our last walk and then sleep all night. It was great! Well Friday he got sick to his stomach. Either he picked something up at daycare or he had too many treats the night before (my fault). Since he’s been sick (and improving) and I’ve been depressed the last four days I’ve just been taking him out for the bare minimum bathroom break walks like half a mile / a mile round trip tops 4 times a day. He has some stimulation at home but probably not enough especially since I couldn’t give him treats, sniffle mat, his usual lick pads, or his Kong wobbler (which he loves) and I’ve been depressed so I haven’t been much fun these last few days.

Anyway fast forward to this morning. On our usual morning walk and all of a sudden he’s acting like he’s never seen a car before! He’s barking and chasing every car that passes! He’s NEVER done that before. He’s never chased someone on a bike or anything. Is the due to the long weekend of under stimulation? Aside from giving him more stimulation again, how can I break the new car chasing habit?

Any advice about this or any other behaviors mentioned are much appreciated! Thank you!

Hello good people of dog subreddit! HEEEELP! Okay so I adopted an 11 month old terrier puppy two months ago. Due to a series of unfortunate circumstances we haven’t gotten far on his basic training. I lack the knowledge to handle him when he gets wild. Main concerns are demand barking and gnawing at me and my hands even when many toys are around and I redirect him to toys. His bark is 95 decibels loud! I know dogs bark but because he’s so loud I’d at least love for the demand barking to stop (I don’t mind when he’s alert barking at the door because he’s a good security guard).

I know he needs outlets for energy. Our first month together we were taking 4- 6 walks a day averaging around 13- 15k steps a day plus I’d take him to the dog park several times a week so he could run. Just this past week I got really depressed in a way I haven’t been in a while. Good thing was I started taking him to daycare everyday. He’d be there all day running, playing, interacting, and come home WIPED OUT! He’d just eat dinner then sleep til our last walk and then sleep all night. It was great! Well Friday he got sick to his stomach. Either he picked something up at daycare or he had too many treats the night before (my fault). Since he’s been sick (and improving) and I’ve been depressed the last four days I’ve just been taking him out for the bare minimum bathroom break walks like half a mile / a mile round trip tops 4 times a day. He has some stimulation at home but probably not enough especially since I couldn’t give him treats, sniffle mat, his usual lick pads, or his Kong wobbler (which he loves) and I’ve been depressed so I haven’t been much fun these last few days.

Anyway fast forward to this morning. On our usual morning walk and all of a sudden he’s acting like he’s never seen a car before! He’s barking and chasing every car that passes! He’s NEVER done that before. He’s never chased someone on a bike or anything. Is the due to the long weekend of under stimulation? Aside from giving him more stimulation again, how can I break the new car chasing habit?

Any advice about this or any other behaviors mentioned are much appreciated! Thank you!

Hello good people of this sub Reddit! I just joined today and as sad as it makes me to read everyone’s experiences, I have never related to a group of people more in my life. While I am sad that anyone else has to experience this. I am also amazed in a way that it’s not just me. Aside from my sisters and mother, I’ve never known anyone who has struggled with BDD. Everyone in my family downplays it or tries to ignore it. It’s difficult for me to do so.

I just realized today that it doesn’t matter if it’s a distortion of the mind or if you’re actually seeing what’s there, but you’re obsessing over it and it’s negatively impacting your life then it can still be BDD. I’ve always been aware that I’ve had it. I used to actually have the dysmorphia aspect in the sense that I saw myself at a different weight than I was now I’m actually seeing reality, but I’m so unhappy with myself that negatively affects my whole life.

I just started looking for therapist to specialize in BDD so I hope to start addressing this head on in a real way that I’ve never done before in my life. As many of you might be able to relate to it can be difficult to talk about or even feel embarrassing because people just think you’re vain or shallow or something like that but that’s not what the experience feels like it feels more just like a very deep rooted shame and worthlessness linked to appearance.

Anyway, once I realized I need to take this seriously I thought I need to find like-minded people who can relate thankful to have come across the sub Reddit and I’ll also be looking for support groups as well.

My main question I guess would be, during a time like this when there’s so much happening in the world that feels so heavy how do you all deal with managing your BDD? many who don’t understand would dismiss it as a non-issue or basically might make you feel something along the lines of “how could you possibly care about your appearance when there’s so much going on in the world?”

This is a difficult and painful thing to deal with so my heart goes out to all of you and I wish you all the very best.

I’ve been pretty optimistic lately despite the constant up-and-down roller coaster of lose weight gain weight, lose weight gain weight. I know what to do. It’s just a matter of fighting the food addiction which has been the hardest part and the part that makes the biggest difference. I’m just feeling a little defeated today. I’d love to hear some success stories from people who were at least 100 pounds overweight for more than a decade and who lost weight after the age of 35. I guess what I’d like to hear most from you is what finally changed for you mentally that allowed you to stay consistent enough to lose the weight and get healthy? If you can pinpoint the biggest shifts, not just in behavior, but in your mindset, I’d love to hear about it. Thanks!

Edit: From the bottom of my heart thank you to those of you who responded and shared your stories, ‘stats’, and gave tips or words of encouragement. I no longer feel defeated! What I love MOST about the responses is it really shows how different everyone’s paths are. Of course there are similarities like counting calories, eating healthier foods, being more active but I also love seeing the differences too. For some once they became resolute they lost a lot of weight quickly for others it was a longer steadier more consistent process and still others it continued to be a challenge for years with ups and downs but you didn’t give up on yourselves and I think that’s the biggest similarity. It’s really reminded me that I can’t compare my process or path to anyone else’s and even if my path looks different, is slower or bumpier I can still get there as long as I don’t give up on myself. Thank you all! 💖 I’ll continue to read any responses people share and I’m saving this thread to come back to for inspiration and motivation for sure! Congratulations to you all for doing it! 🥳💖