u/DamnitGravity

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Hey all!

So as the title states, I'm searching for something I'm SURE I heard in one of Nyatalie's videos, and I think it was in the Twilight video.

She was talking about how teenage girls were obsessed with Edward and/or Jacob, and they were constantly being bullied and ridiculed for it.

Then I think she went on a bit of a tangent about how pretty much ANYTHING teenage girls get excited about en mass is treated this way.

I've tried scanning through the video to see if I can find the segment, but I can't find it and don't really have the time right now to watch the entire video.

Does anyone know the bit I'm talking about? Was it in the Twilight video? Does anyone have a timestamp?

Thanks!

OOP: Electronic-Sell-6402

Posted to: r/mildlyinfuriating

Status: CONCLUDED

Mood spoiler: >!A rational HR?! In MY Reddit?!!<

Trigger warning: >!misinformation, idiocy, are-you-fucking-kidding-me energy, some people just want to be offended, HR, common sense, slurs against Sasquash!<

NOTE: all updates were posted in the main post body, so I don't have time stamps for them. It all seems to have happened within one working day. I've separated out the main post, then some comments, then the updates.

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Main Post and Updates: Sept 30th, 2026

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Being told my tea steeper is unprofessional - Sept 30th, 2026

I 3d printed this tea steeper for my desk at work. I thought it was really cute and it makes me happy when I use it. Apparently because I printed it in all white, someone made a comment in front of my bosses boss, that it looks like the little guy is sitting on a toilet. Now I got an email from HR stating that I have "objects inappropriate for the work environment" on my desk, and that it must be removed before the end of the day. Like it's just a dude holding a fishing pole.

So frustrating.

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The post contains two images.

Image 1: a large black insulated YETI mug sits on a white molded base on a dark wooden table. The mug is filled with hot water and has a tea bag steeping inside it. Beside the mug is a small white-and-grey cartoon figure seated on the base. The figure is holding a long fishing pole, over which the string of a teabag is threaded, with the bag in the mug, making it appear the figure is fishing.

Image 2: a close up of the small figure which has a simple rounded white head, two black oval eyes, a white body outlined in grey, and bent legs resting in front of it. Its hands appear to grip the lower end of the long pole, reinforcing the illusion that it is operating the tiny tea-bag fishing rod. The label of the tea reveals it to be the 'Holiday Boost' blend from the English Tea Shop.

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COMMENTS

JaCrispy_Vulcano

>I used to work for a university and I was creating a slideshow presentation for students that showed off local campus attractions.

>I put a photo of turtles in a botanical garden. I was told to remove it because it was inappropriate. Later I was told the way the turtles were sitting by the pond reminded someone of a penis.

>People see what they want to see.

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habitualine-stepper

>Obviously not a toilet... but even if it was, what loser is getting offended over that??

x_Advent_Cirno_x

>The kind of people who are perpetually miserable, so they take it out on everyone just to feel something in their miserable lives.

>So basically a Reddit mod

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reubnick

>The final stage of Capitalism is to ensure all individuality and personality is systemically and surgically siphoned out and fully removed from the workplace until only quiet and relentless labor occuring is all that remains.

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Ducking_eh

>Maybe the problem is the Yeti mug? After all, Yeti is a slur for Big Foot

dfuegz

>Yeti is the indigenous term and it is what they call themselves; “Bigfoot” is an imperialist humancentric term, and is considered highly offensive by the Yeti community. I suggest you check your privilege and you will, of course, be hearing from HR

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zenrd111

>I could think of a much more unprofessional way to hold tea bags with a 3d printed model.

>This is fine.

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zues64

>HR probably doesnt know what item it is that was reported for being inappropriate tell them you don't know what it would be and then ask them if they can identify the item. If somehow they point that out ask them why and what rule it is breaking if they say it looks like its a guy is on a toilet act disgusted and tell them its obviously a guy fishing

OP

>I actually like this suggestion. I think that's what I'll do is ask HR if they can identify the issue causing the problem

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PaleontologistFew128

>Take it into the office and demand to be told why it's inappropriate. This is the kind of nonsense it's worth making a scene over

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Educational-Wish-44

>... does one of your coworkers routinely sit on the toilet with a fishing pole?

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MattyGWS

>I would go to HR and ask them what item they're talking about, then when they say this item... You ask what is offensive about a guy sitting down and fishing. When they realise how fucking stupid they are you can keep using it.

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The comments also contain several photos of various desk items from other commenters, most of which are flipping people off. I highly recommend scrolling through. My personal favorite is the desk octopus where all eight legs have a raised middle finger.

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UPDATE: after this post has quickly blown up, and made me laugh a few times. I talked to my immediate boss who agreed with a few of you that HR probably doesn't even know what item I'm supposed to remove. So I have emailed HR back, and cc'd my boss, for them to come identify the "inappropriate object" as neither myself or my boss are able to identify what might be the problem. So we shall see what happens.

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UPDATE 2: Electric Boogaloo: Just got off the phone with someone in HR. They are going to come over around 2pm (about an hour and 15 minutes from now) and look at the item. All they told me was that they received an email from an AVP (my bosses boss) that it was said to him that I had a 3d printed item on my desk that was about potty humor and that my "whole team" (it's just the one coworker who has a problem, none of the other 7 do) finds it offensive. The person in HR said they will look at it and determine if there is any reason for the complaint.

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UPDATE 3 - Update with a vengeance: HR just left my office. Saw no problems, thinks the whole complaint is dumb and is going to write it up that way. Also asked if I could print them one too. So I will be doing that this evening. She (the HR person) asked me if I wanted to make a report of possible harassment by the coworker. I stated that I will write up something to put into a file with HR if needed for a future report, but not to open a case now on this issue.

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Last update. If anyone is bored, this guy on LinkedIn is trying to steal my story for his LinkedIn cred. He already blocked me and a friend of mine for calling him out. Here is the link

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/alok-pratap-singh-654a46382_workplaceculture-leadership-humanresources-ugcPost-7510976376544481281-JxKr/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_ios&rcm=ACoAADndHoMBgcVm5ZLI3sJjrMJE5748_mAoDwE

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This is a repost sub. I’m not the Original OP (OOP)

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So yes this is highly specific, lol.

I’m looking for books with a female plus-size character who’s confident about their personality but insecure about their body, and who struggles with the idea someone might be into her.

Something in a non-modern setting, maybe fantasy or supernatural or period setting.

Something like ‘Beauty and the Beast except Beauty is plus-sized and the Beast is initially disappointed but she doesn’t take his shit and respects her, eventually growing to love her but she has SERIOUS self-esteem issues and doesn’t believe even a Beast would want her’ kind of vibe.

Not quote ‘enemies to lovers’ trope, I’m not a fan of that. More a ‘mutual respect that grows to love but she has a lot of hang-up’s that need to be overcome first’.

Thanks!!

This is a repost sub. I’m not the Original OP (OOP)

Published on: r/AmITheAsshole

Status: Concluded

Mood spoiler: >!OOP still doesn't quite get it, despite a genuine apology!<

TW: >!non-consentual kink exposure!<

Main Post: September 9th, 2026

Update: September 17th, 2026

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AITA for not warning my friend that I have a surveillance camera for personal use? September 9th, 2026

Last Christmas, my boyfriend got me a webcam that only he has access to (this means only he can log in, I am the one with control over it) and can watch me on. He’s the only one who knows about it or connects to it. He just likes to watch me doing things. I genuinely forget about it until I get a notification that he’s logged on. There is a shutter on it that I can close. But in general, I don’t close it. 

(I'm adding this because I think people are getting the wrong idea, this isn't about being controlling or anything like that, it's a mutual thing!!!)

Here is the problem: My friend came over last week after work and we were hanging out and watching TV. I didn’t even think about the camera until it was about 7PM. I was in the other room and she heard the camera connection noise and the light in the camera came on. She asked what it was, and I told her. She was furious with me about it and told me she felt really gross and like he was spying on her. I apologized a ton and explained that there is a shutter for me to turn it off, but I just never think about it. She insists that it’s gross as fuck that I don’t warn people before they come into my apartment. 

If I ever told him “so and so is coming over” or anything like that, he would not log in. He’s not interested in watching other people or being a creep or anything like that, so he felt bad about making her feel so uncomfortable. It has unfortunately left my friend with a bad opinion about my boyfriend which I do hate. I guess I'm asking AITA about this because I don't know how far I should go with warning people about the camera.

AITA?

OK it looks like the prevailing answer is that this was accidentally involving my friend in our kink without her consent, which I DO feel bad about. I'll reach out to her and apologize again, and I think I'll find a way to remind myself to shut off the camera if I have anyone over. I definitely didn't do that intentionally, so I think we can work it out.

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COMMENTS

LdiJ46

>I am sorry but I think that it is creepy that he wants to watch you on the webcam. It is even creepier that you don't completely turn it off when you have company. YTA

OOP

>If it helps, my birthday present from his this year was me getting to use the camera while he was at my apartment all day when I was at work. :)

Haven1820

>I'm sorry... His present for your birthday was to allow you to use the thing you already have to do what he already does every day?

>I'd be more offended than if he just forgot. But you do you I guess.

OOP

>I'd LOVE to have a camera in his house but he has two little kids, so that's a nonstarter. This was a middle ground.

lonely-unicorn77

>So you KNOW it would be weird if he had a camera with two little kids around, but somehow it’s not weird when you have unknowing friends around? This makes me think that not disclosing to your friends is part of y’all’s kink, which makes you YTA.

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ImpossibleReason2204

>You do you, but to include someone else in your kink without telling them is not cool. Not cool at all.

>YTA

OOP

>Ok, I keep getting this response so I want to make sure to address it. If I remind myself to close the shutter (WHICH TURNS OFF THE CAMERA SO HE CANNOT ACCESS IT) when I have guests (I think I can probably figure out a way to remind myself?), does that make it better?

>I'm def not TRYING to include anyone in our thing. Like I would neverrrrr go out of my way to not tell someone about it and then purposely have him log in or anything. No no no. Even though he wouldn't even want to watch it that still DOES matter to me.

TravelImpressive2831

>Damn! Don't just close thwnahutter before they come over.

>TELL THEM YOU'RE VIDEOING THEM  THE WHOLE TIME THEY'RE THERE & have taken video of them everytime they've visited you in the past. How many friends do you think will visit you ever again?

OOP

>Huh? That's not what's happening like at all. Nobody is being recorded (is that what you mean why you use video as a verb?)

CallMeMrRound

>You say that no one is being recorded, fine let's believe that. You still need to tell anyone who has been in your house unaware that there is a video camera that someone outside of the home can access what has been potentially going on for almost a year every time they come over.

OOP

>This is the very first and only time it's happened, though.

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OOP is voted the Asshole

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UPDATE: AITA for not warning my friend that I have a surveillance camera for personal use? September 17th, 2026 (posted 8 days later)

Hi everyone, and thanks for reading me the riot act. I do have an update I think people will be happy with.

So first of all I wanted to clarify a few things!

• The camera makes a loud beeping noise when he connects as well as the light coming on, so I know (unless I am not in the room, which is what happened).
• When he logged in and saw my coworker there, he logged out. He said it was probably about 5 or 6 seconds, and the camera log agrees.
• He is not watching me 24/7. Most of the time when he’s watching me it is after I’m home from work and relaxing on the couch, lounging, doomscrolling, etc.
• We were not trying to sneakily include someone who didn’t want to be included, I haven’t been secretly broadcasting anyone without their knowledge, people are not being watched in my place the second they walk in, etc. I wasn’t “conveniently” forgetting and exposing all of my friends because I’m secretly getting off to it.
• My friends know about the camera because I was excited about it when he gave it to me. This girl didn’t because she’s a newer work friend.

Now for the resolution. I explained the situation to her (why I have the camera, when he accesses it, why I didn’t tell her, etc). She also thought he was just watching her the whole time, so I showed her the camera access log to confirm that it was for under 10 seconds.

I apologized for not warning her, and told her that I’m not used to “new” people coming over and that the rest of my friends already know about the camera and tease me about it. But said that wasn't an excuse, and I’m sorry for making her feel unsafe like that.

I told her that if she ever wants to come back to my apartment, I will quite literally show her me unplugging the camera. And I said that I understand if she ends up not wanting to come back over because it must have felt very invasive and wrong. She was happy that I clarified this stuff for her and she felt better about the situation once she knew that she was not being perved on.

So what I plan to do moving forward: I showed the post to my friends and one of them already had a sign printed from Canva about the premises being under surveillance by my boyfriend. I thought that was SO funny so we’re going with that. This will help anyone “new” who comes in to know. It is at my door so I will see it and be reminded if I need to be.

I’m also going to remind myself to communicate to my BF when I am having people over so he knows.

Thank you again for everyone who made it clear that even if it wasn’t intentional, it was still a breach in trust.

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COMMENTS

Technical-Region-669

>If I went over someone's house and it had a sign that said, "Under the surveillance of (partner)" I would just think it's a sign that is funny to that couple, and not that the place is actively under camera surveillance. I hope you still immediately tell people (really ideally before they come over) about the camera and don't rely on the sign to do that for you.

OOP

>I will! The sign is just there as a reminder, and because it's funny.

Common_Denominator

>How is it funny?

OOP

>Because it's funny to have a sign like that in an apartment!

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Vegetable-Canary4984

>YTA and girl, your man sounds so fucking scary. I'd never come to your house again even if you "showed me how you unplugged the camera" because I'd never believe that you only have one camera.

OrigamiTongue

>Jesus fucking Christ. This kind of shit is why it’s so difficult to have a productive conversation on Reddit.

>If someone is being forthright and honest about something like this with you, what in the world makes you think they’ve only tipped part of their hand and have a motivation to still secretly record you? Get some therapy if you have trust issues like that.

>And don’t kink shame. It’s very clear that he’s a voyeur and she’s an exhibitionist and they have devised a fun way to fulfill both of those between them. What’s scary about that? Everyone here is a consenting adult. Don’t be so fucking judgmental. This is pretty tame as kinks go.

hipharvey

>The problem with not kink shaming is she asked AITA, and she kinda is in this situation. Sure her friends know, but do they KNOW its a sexual thing that they both get off from? Unless we get testimonials from friends i can’t trust her response. Everythings been, of course everyone knows and everyone is very chill with that and encourage it.
Personally, i dont know if i could do a hang out knowing they could possibly get off from it later, maybe they think the surveillance is for safety, but we don’t know.

OrigamiTongue

>Get off from it later? The fuck are you talking about???

>And what I find weird in this thread is that SO MANY people have cameras inside their homes - and recording at all times. and no one bats an eye (I personally think that’s weird as fuck) but as soon as it’s not recording and about closeness and maybe kink, everybody loses their minds.

>Seriously how do you reconcile those two attitudes when the situation is the exact same?

DogOk4503

>Maybe because it’s usually for the person in the homes explicit use? If my friend tells me they’re logged into their camera OK I already told them about my menstrual cycle and the way that my wound from my ovarian cyst surgery hurts so they’re not getting information they didn’t already have. If it’s some random ass person that I don’t know states away who can login and look at me at any time? That’s different I’m not consenting to having those conversations with this person. Personally, I just don’t do video recordings in homes overall because someone can hack into your shit at any time making the second scenario I mentioned extremely possible and some thing that has already happened. But no the analogy you’re saying is not actually the same. You know that you text your friends to etc. write and that’s on digital things so if you don’t want to be recorded, whatever you shouldn’t do that? No that’s not the point. I’m fine with my friend having those text messages in those pictures but I wouldn’t be fine with her sending them to someone else. Do you maybe see what we’re saying now?

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ETA: Location: AUSTRALIA

So I was on Saxenda for about 18 months. I was about 150 kgs, I lost about 13kgs, and was walking an hour a night as well as had changed my diet.

But I plateaued. For several months. I was only drinking water and having one meal a day of about 500g of chicken (two chicken breasts, really), with some pesto for 'sauce'/flavor and a small handful of cheddar cheese.

I know people reading this likely won't believe me, but I genuinely wasn't eating all that much. I didn't need a lot of fuel as I worked from home at a desk job, I'm single and have no one to run around after, so I didn't need a lot of fuel.

I did some googling and all I could see was 'cut your food and up your exercise'. I couldn't cut down my food, and I tried to walk more (I find all forms of exercise mind-numbingly boring).

Eventually, my mental health crashed after my aunt was diagnosed with cancer and a few other personal things happened.

Since then, I've put the weight back on and probably more.

I've debated going back on the drugs, but if I barely lost 13 kgs in 18 months and plateaued, I kinda wonder what's the point? I'll just be wasting money. I may as well just stay fat. It's cheaper.

So, should I waste the money, or just give up? How do I prevent myself from plateauing? How do I lose more weight in that amount of time? I see photos of people who have lost 50+ kgs in one year and I have no idea how they've done it. Am I supposed to be joining a gym and running 10 miles every day (did I mention I find exercise INCREDIBLY boring? Yes, I've tried watching tv/movies/videos. Yes, I've tried audio books. Yes, I've tried group activities. It's all. fucking. BORING).

Hey all!

So I've never liked to put labels on myself or others, and I've kinda repressed the romantic/sexual aspects of my personality because I've been obese my entire life and we all know that's the greatest sin a woman can commit. I'm now over 40 which is the second-greatest sin.

Basically I'm going to hell for simply existing, lol.

Anyway, I have a lot of friends who are queer, and who run the gamut from hyper- to 'normal'-sexual. They have open relationships, or when they haven't been in relationships they have casual relationships, and talk a lot about their kinks.

Which, no shame for any of those things.

But as a straight, monogamous person who doesn't do casual and would really need to TRUST their partner, I feel like the outsider and alone.

I also spend way too much time on Reddit, and almost every other post is about open relationships and causal relationships and sex in general.

In short, I feel like I'm broken and that even if I lost the weight and found some guy with an 'old lady' fetish, I'm STILL going to die alone because I 'don't put out'.

(I also have a lot of insecurity, and my one relationship was with an incredibly selfish lover so sex always felt like a chore I did to make someone else happy while never receiving any consideration in return)

I'm hoping that by engaging with people here, I'll learn that while I'm still a freak (and not in a fun way), I'm part of a very select group of global freaks, which might make it easier.

So hi! Feel free to trawl my post history which isn't hidden in the most creepy and stalking way, thus learning all about me and how much I hate myself, lol. Looking forward to possibly not feeling like the only freak at the circus.

From Ozzy Man Reviews on YouTube.

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Hey all! Realised I spelled it wrong in the title, sorry!

Looking at maybe doing a family day at Mt Coot-tha or the City Gardens.

We have a 4 year old, and I can't really find much info of what's at Mt Coot-tha. Are there playgrounds and things there? The only website I can find is through Brisbane City Council and it's pretty sparse.

Thanks!

ETA: We will also have my dad, who is in a wheelchair we will have to push. Are the gardens particularly steep/hilly? I'm aware it's MOUNT Coot-tha, but are there areas we can park that aren't just at the top and still enjoy the gardens?

Hey all!

Looking for a family activity with my sister, nibling and our parents. I found Bluey's world, and like all 4 year olds, nibling loves Bluey!

Just wondering if anyone's been and what they thought of it.

Also, my father has limited walking capabilities. We're hoping to get a walker for him (he's been very stubborn about admitting he has issues, especially as he walks very little at home, just from his chair to the fridge), at the very least, but that might not happen. Are there places to sit down? How much walking is involved?

Any and all impressions, thoughts and experiences welcome! Thanks!

ETA: FOUND! Thanks to u/Sure_Reception_9922 and u/breakoutleppard for their fantastic detective work! Bloody legends!

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Does anyone know if there's a copy of this ad floating around online?

I can't remember the product.

Two girls in the schoolyard, unwrapping their lunches. One has a pre-packaged snack cake of some kind, other girl starts banging on about 'my mother says all food should be baked at home and the most important ingredient is a little pinch of love'.

Other girl gives her a smirk and says 'so does mine, but she has a life'.

I remember it was edited to cut the line because a bunch of stay-at-home mums got offended at the implication they didn't have lives.

Anyone remember the product or have a link?!

Thanks!

Having done a bit of reading about the predatory practices of Monsanto (TL;DR they have patents for their seed and don't allow farmers to use seed from prior crops, they HAVE to buy new seed every year) I'm curious as to where Diddly Squat get their seed from.

Anyone know?

Thanks!