u/DareSavings3951

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I was hit by a car 2 weeks before the wedding

As I said in the title, I was hit by a car four days ago, I'm okay, but have lots of bruising and have broken my left leg. I'm now in a wheelchair. I know that both the church and the venue are wheelchair accessible, as another guest is an ambulatory wheelchair user, so she may have to use it throughout the day. I obviously will have to use mine as well, I can't move onto crutches from another 5 weeks and that's only if my healing goes as well as expected.

In a phonecall this morning, the bride suggested it would be best if I didn't attend because and I quote "you and *other guest's name* would be stealing all the attention, especially with your cast and bruising. Maybe you just come to the reception and buy a new dress to cover up all that mess"

My bruising will have hopefully gone down by then, but I was already planning on hiring an mua to help me better cover them too. I've already tested the dress I was planning to wear in my wheelchair, only my ankle and foot are visible. I'm still trying to think of ideas to hide it the rest of the cast the best I can, but it's always going to be somewhat visible, especially due to the size of it and how bulky it is.

I have known the bride since we were in pre school, we stayed friends throughout primary, secondary, college and even through being at universities 400+ miles apart. And honestly, if a leg cast and a second wheelchair user is what is going to ruin her wedding and our friendship, I think I'm better off not going and cutting contact.

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u/DareSavings3951 — 2 days ago

So far one of main two things I've gotten pushback on, and believe you me I'm getting pushback, is my choice of using fake flowers throughout the wedding. People have teared up??? And near whimpered a plea of no?? When I say I'm not having real flowers in my bouquet. Has anyone else gotten this bizarre reaction?

Then there's the people telling me how I should buy everything on temu, no thank you.

The other main one is guests, not inviting certain relatives due to their abusive behaviour and enabling of that behaviour so much that we are hiring security.

I almost forgot the pushback I got for having a traditional wedding instead of a pub function room just because there's only 50 guests.

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u/DareSavings3951 — 19 days ago