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I was tested for APD when I was a young kid and it said that I was within normal limits. It showed my brain processed information ‘more slowly than a normal brain‘ but was still considered ‘normal’. Just venting but it sucked to feel like I was competing with my sibling who was sent to new schools because they are ‘so gifted’. My sibling is brilliant and got one question wrong on the SATs so it was hard to be around that. Sorry for the vent.

I was placed in special education classes from as early as I can remember to college so I had more time on tests and it was more quiet. I’d have to read test questions multiple times to understand it. In middle school for a while i was forced to have a speaker on my desk and the teacher would speak thru a microphone so I would ‘hear better’ but that didn’t last long because bullies and it’s not about hearing the teacher. I also wrote down the wrong spelling when I knew what the right spelling was. For me it’s about processing the information. I got really good grades throughout school but only because I put in 5x more effort into studying than the normal person.

I cannot focus on any task if there is noise around me, I’m very forgetful, I get overstimulated quickly, I can be thinking of the right word but I say the opposite word. I’m embarrassed to talk in meetings as an adult at work because I’m terrible at explaining anything. I thought it was ADD or ADHD and it still might be but idk.

In adulthood it affects my communication with my partner. The other day I cut peppers for him as a snack and I know they’re peppers but I asked him if he wanted ‘onions’. So I was thinking the correct word but I said the wrong one.

While talking to anyone, I often forget simple words that I know but I just can’t find the word. It’s embarrassing when someone’s talking to you and you forget a word. Or I tell a story and I forget where my mom is from. I know where she is but my brain just stops working. I thought I might have onset early alzheimer’s.

I feel like I have ADD or ADHD as well. My partner thinks I have severe ADHD but I think it’s severe APD. I’m going to get tested again I think and see what’s covered in insurance? Then try to get any help.

What has helped you to deal with it?

I’m one of two MOHs. In addition, the grooms mom is helping us because she’s best friend with the bride.

The other MOH and the MIL told me every wedding they’ve been a part of the MOH is responsible for the goody bags for the Bach. I’ve been in one other wedding as the MOH and I live on this app and I’ve NEVER heard of that and it doesn’t seem logical.

The goody bags are not a requirement but how does it make sense that it’s the MOH(s) problem? It makes sense that it’s a “thank you from the bride”.

Please bring me back to earth if I’m in the wrong.

Edit to explain: The bride did not know the MIL previous to dating her son. They became best friends and are really close because of the amount of time they spend together + they’re similar personalities.

What is the best band for it? I heard nylon possibly.

Go by the sizing chart NOT your normal size!! I wish I could scream this from the mountain.

Multiple friends told me to go by my normal size rather than the size chart. I followed my heart and went with the size chart on Azazie & I’m so glad I did.

I’m normally a 4/6 for regular clothes but for Azazie I’m an 8/10!!

PLEASE use the size chart & do the $10 try on!

Edited: If the dress is flowy, go by the WAIST chart because the dress flows out.

Edit: For a human baby

What do you think about the name Cooper. Is it considered a popular name now or still unique-ish?

I’ve been engaged for almost two years and I’m getting married in September and I have four bridesmaids and two MOHs. Other than my MOHs, I’m disappointed in the lack of excitement regarding my wedding from the other girls. I didn’t expect the excitement to ramp up until this year because the engagement is over two years but starting out this year there has been zero excitement from my bridesmaids, other than the MOHs.’ I’m just sad.

I’ve sent texts starting this year about picking up my dress and a few others about random wedding stuff and many of the girls just like the message and say nothing. I’m very mindful of not exploding a group text. Any long message I’d send thru email and just text the girls to look at their emails. My MOHs have been really respective with their messaging as well and have voiced their disappointment in the girls. My MOHs figured out the Bach in October and there are many girls who haven’t paid them back. They told them about the bridesmaid dresses link back in December and many haven’t even signed in up (because it tells me) and they’re supposed to order mid-June. My MOHs have just expressed their disappointment in everyone (only because I asked. They didn’t want to tell me to ruin the experience) and I’m just sad. I wish it could just be the MOHs next to me.

One of the bridesmaids is my SIL and I wish I didn’t need to invite her, she’s awful but if I didn’t invite her it would cause a family feud. The other is the person I’m thinking of disinviting. We’re in our mid-30s and I’ve known her since 7th grade. As of the last five years she’s continuously a bad friend and I haven’t been able to stick up for myself. She cried when she found out that she wasn’t a MOH because she thought she would be (I never gave her any indication I was picking her. She was upset that I didn’t call her on the phone to tell her that ____ and ___ were being picked as MOHs.

I’m thinking of asking her to step down which I know will lead the friendship to end (because that’s her personality) and that I don’t mind losing the friendship because she’s awful but I don’t know how to go about it.

Someone I went to school with named her son Linwood and I fell in love with it. She lives very far away now and we were never friends so it wouldn’t be weird (not that anyone owns a name).

I love woodsy or old style names so Forrest, Willow, Florence, Jude, etc.

I don’t know how the hell people get baby names down because my list is so long.

Thoughts?

Please help me level my head. Tell me why I may hate CO.

I’ve lived in New England for 30 years by the ocean and close to the city. I’ve lived the small town lifestyle and major city lifestyle. I want to move to CO for the same reason as most do; the nature and outdoor lifestyle.

New England just doesn’t have the outdoor lifestyle that CO has. The White Mountains are the closest thing to CO mountains and it’s still not even close. And NH doesn’t have any of the other amenities that CO has other than the Whites themselves. New York has beautiful hikes as well as Maine but my biggest complaint is the drive.

I understand that there’s still a drive to get to the mountains when you’re in CO but I’m also in love with the overall lifestyle. Everyone lives the outdoors. There is bouldering, skiing, hiking, mountain biking, running clubs galore. I’m an avid hiker, mountain biker and runner and I want to get into all the other activities too. Ultra running in west is rampant.

I have zero family in the west. Everyone is in the northeast. My fiancé and I want a family but all the good school areas are insanely expensive.

My fiancè and I both have remote jobs currently.

What’s your overall experience?
Anyone move from NE have any advice?
Things you hate/love about CO?
Difference I may not realize from NE?