u/Different_Dot_5762

We reach out to others and dm, or when others dm and then we slowly open up and chat they just ghost you after a few chats. And that's it. How do we even make friends like this? It takes 2 to maintain/ form a genuine connection, not just 1 person. I just don't get it.

I understand if it's creeps or whatever okay but other than that? Why do we need to be so judgemental towards others?

It hurts....I can't even get 1 true friend. I got ghosted by all of my friends IRL in my secondary school days , same with my college days, wasn't able to form a true connection, just a temporary bond. It's like nobody wants to ever "be friends" with me. I can talk , I can approach people, maintain conversations but because I'm plain, I guess no one wants to be my friend. This right here is my last resort.

I genuinely am a plain , easygoing person . My interests are just anime and travelling, but I really love listening to others more and hearing about their interests or stories. Or even just being a listening ear to hear someone out.

Though I still wasn't successful here either...I tried to reach out to a few people here on reddit and they either ghosted me, or talk vaguely after I introduce myself to them before proceeding to ghost me...I don't know what I'm doing wrong.. They post about people "being dry in their conversations" but doesn't want to reply to dms or the conversation itself properly.

I believe friendship is 2 ways , never one. I'd reach out as much as I can as long as I'm free.

It hurts....I can't even get 1 true friend. I got ghosted by all of my friends IRL in my secondary school days , same with my college days, wasn't able to form a true connection, just a temporary bond. It's like nobody wants to ever "be friends" with me. I can talk , I can approach people, maintain conversations but because I'm plain, I guess no one wants to be my friend. This right here is my last resort.

I genuinely am a plain , easygoing person . My interests are just anime and travelling, but I really love listening to others more and hearing about their interests or stories. Or even just being a listening ear to hear someone out.

Though I still wasn't successful here either...I tried to reach out to a few people here on reddit and they either ghosted me, or talk vaguely after I introduce myself to them before proceeding to ghost me...I don't know what I'm doing wrong.. They post about people "being dry in their conversations" but doesn't want to reply to dms or the conversation itself properly.

I believe friendship is 2 ways , never one. I'd reach out as much as I can as long as I'm free.

It hurts....I can't even get 1 true friend. I got ghosted by all of my friends IRL in my secondary school days , same with my college days, wasn't able to form a true connection, just a temporary bond. It's like nobody wants to ever "be friends" with me. I can talk , I can approach people, maintain conversations but because I'm plain, I guess no one wants to be my friend. This right here is my last resort.

I genuinely am a plain , easygoing person . My interests are just anime and travelling, but I love listening to others and hearing about their interests or stories.

I believe friendship is 2 ways , never one. I'd reach out as much as I can as long as I'm free.

I've never been successful with making friends. I'm 21 now. I was a shy person when young, but I improved a lot over time. I'm able to approach and strike convos and maintain them.

Back in secondary school I was close to my classmates. It was simple, seemed genuine. We played sports together and were together everyday. Once I graduated secondary school and went to college. All of them stop reaching out to me slowly. I even had a very close friend in that group that used to ask me help in studies and after helping out , and graduation, that's it. Done. Like no effort to keep the friendship. Nothing.

Lost my 4 year bond with him, and them in general. It hurts. They have themselves and I only have myself. In college, I tried to make new friends around me. But everyone there? Very judgemental. They only cared about certain interests like Gymming, Gaming. If you don't have common interests or anything cool they wouldn't want to be your friend. Dosen't matter if you try to talk to them everyday or anything, all they care about is doing their work/project grades and once done that's it. Temporary bond. So yea. I talked to people in college , but after graduating from college, still the same. 0 true friends. Still searching for one. I can't say I have good qualities, but if I had a true friend I'd want to be loyal to them.

Or maybe I just struggle with making friends because I'm not cool, no gaming interests or anything.

There are some others who say that they only have 1 friend , probably a childhood friend. That's a big blessing. Even 1 person that you can trust (after such a long bond together). You guys grew up together , so it's easy. Never had that.

Sometimes I wish I grew up in another country where it's easier to make genuine connections. Already have trust issues after getting ghosted so much, it's scary to trust someone knowing that they might just not care and leave you.

I strongly believe friendship is always 2 ways never one. There are some people who just love to yap so much and don't let others voice out their feelings or listen to time. Never. That's never a true friend. Of course over time you will get busy but if you truly cared you would reach out once in a while to check in with each other. That's what you call true friendship. Not just talk if you meet face to face accidentally and act as if you're close buddies, before forgetting for 1 year and the cycle repeats after another accidental bump.

I've never been successful with making friends. I'm 21 now. I was a shy person when young, but I improved a lot over time. I'm able to approach and strike convos and maintain them.

Back in secondary school I was close to my classmates. It was simple, seemed genuine. We played sports together and were together everyday. Once I graduated secondary school and went to college. All of them stop reaching out to me slowly. I even had a very close friend in that group that used to ask me help in studies and after helping out , and graduation, that's it. Done. Like no effort to keep the friendship. Nothing.

Lost my 4 year bond with him, and them in general. It hurts. They have themselves and I only have myself. In college, I tried to make new friends around me. But everyone there? Very judgemental. They only cared about certain interests like Gymming, Gaming. If you don't have common interests or anything cool they wouldn't want to be your friend. Dosen't matter if you try to talk to them everyday or anything, all they care about is doing their work/project grades and once done that's it. Temporary bond. So yea. I talked to people in college , but after graduating from college, still the same. 0 true friends. Still searching for one. I can't say I have good qualities, but if I had a true friend I'd want to be loyal to them.

Or maybe I just struggle with making friends because I'm not cool, no gaming interests or anything.

There are some others who say that they only have 1 friend , probably a childhood friend. That's a big blessing. Even 1 person that you can trust (after such a long bond together). You guys grew up together , so it's easy. Never had that.

Sometimes I wish I grew up in another country where it's easier to make genuine connections. Already have trust issues after getting ghosted so much, it's scary to trust someone knowing that they might just not care and leave you.

I strongly believe friendship is always 2 ways never one. There are some people who just love to yap so much and don't let others voice out their feelings or listen to time. Never. That's never a true friend. Of course over time you will get busy but if you truly cared you would reach out once in a while to check in with each other. That's what you call true friendship. Not just talk if you meet face to face accidentally and act as if you're close buddies, before forgetting for 1 year and the cycle repeats after another accidental bump.

I've never been successful with making friends. I'm 21 now. I was a shy person when young, but I improved a lot over time. I'm able to approach and strike convos and maintain them.

Back in secondary school I was close to my classmates. It was simple, seemed genuine. We played sports together and were together everyday. Once I graduated secondary school and went to college. All of them stop reaching out to me slowly. I even had a very close friend in that group that used to ask me help in studies and after helping out , and graduation, that's it. Done. Like no effort to keep the friendship. Nothing.

Lost my 4 year bond. It hurts. They have themselves and I only have myself. In college, I tried to make friends. But everyone here? Very judgemental. They only cared about certain interests. If you don't have common interests or anything cool they wouldn't want to be your friend. Dosen't matter if you talk or anything, all they care about is doing their work/project grades and once done that's it. Temporary bond. So yea. I talked to people in college , but after graduating from college, still the same. 0 true friends. Still searching for one. I can't say I have good qualities, but if I had a true friend I'd want to be loyal to them.

Or maybe I just struggle with making friends because I'm not cool, no gaming interests or anything.

There are some others who say, oh I only have 1 friend it's my childhood friend. That's a big blessing. Even 1 person that you can trust (after such a long bond together). You guys grew up together , so it's easy. Never had that.

Sometimes I wish I grew up in another country where it's easier to make genuine connections. Already have trust issues after getting ghosted so much, it's scary to trust someone knowing that they might just not care and leave you.

I strongly believe friendship is always 2 ways never one. There are some people who just love to yap so much and don't let others voice out their feelings or listen to time. Never. That's never a true friend. Of course over time you will get busy but if you truly cared you would reach out once in a while to check in with each other. That's what you call true friendship. Not just talk if you meet face to face accidentally and act as if you're close buddies, before forgetting for 1 year and the cycle repeats after another accidental bump.