Intrusive thoughts in a relationship
Ever since I was younger, I’ve struggled with seeking attention from other people as a form of validation. I think part of it came from never really feeling pretty or confident in myself, so I would want people to notice me or think I was attractive because it made me feel validated.
I’m 19 now and in a long-distance relationship, but I still struggle with these thoughts when I’m out in public. Sometimes I find myself wanting other people, including men, to look at me or think I’m pretty, but I don’t actually want to be with them or pursue them. I love my boyfriend and have no desire to cheat or be with someone else.
I think it’s just an old habit that has stayed in the back of my mind for so long. I try to ignore the thoughts rather than engage with them, but then I start overthinking and wondering if this means I secretly want other men or that I’m a bad person. I genuinely don’t want anyone else I just struggle with wanting validation from other people. Does anyone else struggle with this or understand what I mean?