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What is your enneatype?

Hey there ESTPs! INFP here. Today I was having a coffee and, out of nowhere, I started thinking about how every Enneagram type seems to have an "argument" for why it doesn't fit with ESTP. I mean, usually when people think of an ESTP, the stereotype that comes to mind is an ESTP 7. But I’ve seen a ton of people say that the Se function doesn't align with 7 at all, since 7 is more indicative of Ne. On the other hand, a lot of you probably identify as 8s (my brother, for example), but there are also people saying this isn't possible because 8 aligns more with Te or high Ni.
I’m not one of those people who say certain combinations are impossible… I’m just wondering: HOW CAN IT BE THAT THE MOST COMMON ENNEAGRAM TYPES FOR ESTPs ARE THE MOST INVALIDATED? I mean, WHAT IS LEFT FOR YOU GUYS?
I started thinking and maybe an ESTP 5 is something that would undoubtedly fit the theory of both systems, but let's be honest, it's not the most "common" and I've never seen an ESTP claim to be a 5 in my life. On the other hand, I also thought 3 or 2 would be good options, but I feel like both align more with Fe and, even though you have it as a tertiary function, I haven't seen an ESTP 2 or 3 either. So… are ESTP 1, 5, and 9 the best options? What do you guys think? HELPPP

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u/its-Koi — 1 day ago
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Hopping on the trend, type me based on my results:

I’m pretty into stuff where I can actually feel myself getting better, so badminton, gym, coding projects, that kind of thing. I like hanging out with people when there’s something fun or competitive going on, but I’m not really built for endless small talk. I’m more practical than dreamy, though I still love books, shows, or games with good worldbuilding and characters who aren’t just pure good or pure evil. I like it when characters feel real, it makes me forget Im reading a book sometimes haha. I can be pretty direct, maybe too blunt sometimes, but I’d rather be honest than fake nice. Mostly I like improving at things, having a few solid people around me, and working toward something that feels real.

Side note, they seem to have changed the website's result thingies, looks cool ig

u/XMercuriusX — 4 days ago
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The duality of ESTP

People may say you have many different kinds of ESTP, and I do agree with that. But I think these are the 2 utmost baseline categories or variations of ESTP of which every ESTP will be closer to one or the other and the function dynamic would accordingly apply more so than not within that specific but also every ESTP.

Variation above from the 2 is an ESTP who's Ni feels pressured by the standards of their Se dominant (to be fun to be around, to be memorable, to give people a good time with ease) function out of fear for their future, they internally feel their ability to perform and give people a good time and help them be physically comfortable is their gateway to a promising Ni future. This variation will more likely than not appear brave, cool and showy on the outside with Se but internally worries about whether their performance and delivery was top-notch or not. This ESTP variation is also to a significant degree afraid to challenge Fe norms, especially if they are in an environment that doesn't out right allow for it or support it. They use their Ti to make somewhat cocky/witty but still not completely socially inappropriate jokes(not overall socially inappropriate, they use different jokes and humour styles with different groups, Fi trickster+scared Ti parent=not much authenticity) and analyse and make connections for the short-term benefit of the environment and people around them but long-term their Ti understanding of hierarchy, systems, operations, gadgets and other concepts is to only serve as means for a secure and a promising future. This ESTP is very Se-Fe on the outside but really is all about Ni future through Se and Ti. Many hidden intents, low trust and lack of vulnerability or emotional sincerity.

Variation below is an ESTP who's Ni does not feel to burdened by or rushed with the Se dominant. This variation of ESTP does not feel too inclined pr pressured to perform for people, they much rather prefer to observe the environment as it is and then persue what feels interesting to their Ni. The Ni is much more reserved, private and unbothered. This may sound like ISTP but it's important to realise the actual truth of an ISTP being primarily Ti/Fe, not Se/Ni. An ISTP has a similar demeanor with Se/Ni as this variation of ESTP on the outside but the ISTP doesn't love Se as much as ESTP does, and this variation of ESTP is no exception. As a matter of reality, this variant of ESTP loves Se much more than the former one, because their Ni is much calmer and has been likely given time to loosen up from being physically reactive and active to Se stimuly, thus this ESTP's Ni is much more sincerely excited and truly internally enjoys interacting with the physical environment and fully immerses itself in that when they do, completely forgetting the past or the future and becoming the embodiment of the YOLO mindset regardless of whether they are with people or on their own. This is what this ESTP variation lives for and enjoys the most, there is no greater desire in their mind and heart. Their Fe is free-flowing and sincere, sometimes less sometimes more present but never completely off. The difference with this variation is that their Fe is purely an extention of their Ti understanding and a sense of 'credits worth'. This variation's Ti can be either very hard to please and prideful or very alleviate and desiring to understand with complete humility and no rush anywhere when it comes to arriving at the correct conclusion, which will also come with much more pleasant and welcoming Fe feedback.

I think this makes sense if u see the underlying principle of extraverted outside=introverted inside, introverted outside=extraverted inside.

I feel the 2nd variation may be a bit rarer than the 1st one, especially with the balanced and humble Ti.

What do you think?

u/__does_not_matter_ — 4 days ago
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ESTP not ready for INFJ (20-30)

INFJ / ESTP

Yo!

As a single 27F INFJ and multiple relationship, I know now that my perfect match would be an ESTP.

However, when I come across them, I feel like they are not mature enough to understand that we could be a perfect match. I feel like their Se dominant and Baby Ni are not ready and that I would be more lucky at 40 years old when they will mature their Ni and understand what they are really looking for ....

(Also I am not saying ESTP I meet are not mature, on the contrary I love how curious, stimulated and genuine they usually are.)

But it's just that, I can see the compatibility and I can see they are interested sometimes, but they don't follow ..

What do you think ?

Also if you're an ESTP man/girl, do you have some pieces of advice for all the INFJ in this situation ?

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u/Historical-Maize3949 — 5 days ago
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Let's be honest: being an ESTP would have made life much simpler.

If someone offered me a button tomorrow to become an ESTP, I would click it without any hesitation.

We have to face the facts: we're not broken—society is just completely ill-suited to us.

It's like being 6'10": even if it doesn't cause any health problems, it's still living life on hardcore mode

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u/Sostrene_Blue — 5 days ago
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How does inferior Ni show up for you?

As an INFJ since Ni is my dominant function I’m very curious to hear how it shows up as you inferior

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u/OlivePractical2092 — 4 days ago
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ESTP male and ENTP female

I’m an ENTP female and I’m pretty sure a guy I’m into is an ESTP. I don’t know a ton about him, but we sort of had a love at first sight thing and I’m curious how you express interest or see my situation. I flirt with a lot of people for fun and we’re both seemingly pretty outgoing, but we met awhile ago and I can’t really get him off my mind. I didn’t really do anything afterwards and saw him a couple times where it seemed like he expected me to talk to him. I’m pretty sure he’s aware of me and we’re in the same circles. It’s weird because I’m usually relatively outgoing, but never initiated anything afterwards which is out of character for me. I think we got along pretty well in the first place. For the last little while, I get the impression that we’re sort of preforming in each other’s peripheries to see if anything happens, but I could be reading too much into it. He’s relatively expressive in general from what I’ve seen. Is there anything else you’d want to know? What should I pay attention to on his end?

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u/Putrid-Pangolin-8773 — 4 days ago
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Te critic look?

Would u say u make a look that feels somewhat similar to you when ur understanding is not just challanged and undermined but also seemingly STILL correct based on ur understanding whilst the other party or source is treating your case as invalid and not worthy of even being considered?

I am not sure if I am an ISTP or Ti focused ESTP. I feel like I am naturally more self aware and self-doubtful and aware of the reactions of the enviroment to my actions without it burning me out much, whilst being more sensitive to correctness, efficiency and fallacy - but that does burn me out. This I feel would be closer to a Ti focused ESTP rather than ISTP.

u/__does_not_matter_ — 4 days ago
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How to understand if I am ESTP(SLE) or ESFP(SEE)

What are the basic differences of these 2 in their behavious and traits based on each functions stacks and socionics

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u/Excellent_Acadia_544 — 6 days ago
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How come ESTJs and ENTJs come off more intimidating than ESTPs and ENTPs?

I mean ESTPs and ENTPs can be kinda intimidating and cold with their Ti, but compared to ESTJs and ENTJs, they don’t come across as intimidating and come across more friendlier and chill. ENTJs and ESTJs can come across scary when they had enough.

ENTPs and ESTPs just come off as funny or chatty guys but not as intimidating when compared to ESTJs and ENTJs and just come off as “your bro” then “your boss” kind of energy, why is that?

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u/Asleep-Feeling-9070 — 7 days ago
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Who would you say is more spontanous between ESTPs and ISTPs between the two Se types and why?

Both are Percivers and prefer an adventurous and carefree lifestyle and their Se can also make them both love physical action and doing things, but who would you say is more spontaneous, generally?

Both types can be but I’d say more commonly?

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u/Asleep-Feeling-9070 — 5 days ago
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Which stereotype do you relate to and which one do you not?

I relate to the rebel stereotype (always have hated being told what to do instead of asked or cooperated with😂) and do not relate to the uncaring stereotype. I love my people fiercely and am loyal to a fault.

u/thebonestorm_ — 7 days ago
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About ISFJ Wholesomeness

Hey fellow ESTPs!

I wanted to talk about something I genuinely appreciate and get your thoughts on.

ISFJ wholesomeness.

As ESTPs we're naturally drawn to energy, stimulation and bold personalities. But I've noticed something interesting. When I'm around ISFJs there's this quiet genuine warmth they carry that actually feels really grounding to my ESTP energy.

Here's what I specifically appreciate about ISFJs:

Their warmth is completely real. No performance. No agenda. Just genuine quiet care that you can actually feel. As ESTPs who read people instantly we know when something is authentic and ISFJs are always authentic.

They notice small details about you that nobody else catches. They remember things you mentioned once months ago. For an ESTP who sometimes feels like people only see our bold surface that kind of quiet attentiveness genuinely means a lot.

They never drain your energy. Unlike some types that create drama or emotional heaviness ISFJs just bring this steady calm wholesome presence that somehow recharges rather than drains.

They handle our directness really well. They don't crumble when we're blunt and they don't fight back dramatically. They just absorb it with grace and respond with kindness.

Honestly as much as I love the energy of bold types sometimes ISFJs are exactly what my ESTP soul needs to actually feel at peace.

My questions for fellow ESTPs:

  1. Do you also appreciate ISFJ energy or do you find them too quiet?

  2. Have you had meaningful friendships or relationships with ISFJs?

  3. Do you think ESTP and ISFJ actually complement each other well?

  4. What specifically do you appreciate or struggle with regarding ISFJs?

Would love to hear fellow ESTP perspectives on this!

— An ESTP who genuinely appreciates ISFJ wholesomeness more than I expected 😄

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u/merdekabaik — 7 days ago
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Do you guys like physical touch?

Do you enjoy being touched? I, for example, get goosebumps when someone I'm interested in touches me, I really like that.

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u/Dry_Package8961 — 11 days ago