How to tell Hispanic parents I’m (21F) moving in with my bf(21M)?
As the title says, I’m Mexican with very Mexican parents. I just genuinely don’t know how to go about telling them without possibly all hell breaking loose.
So for context, my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. We used to date back in middle school so we’re no strangers to each other and there’s a lot of history between us. His parents love me and mine love him. Though, because he’s All-American, his parents are way more welcoming of every aspect of our relationship. Mine, however much they love him, would rather me be single until I’m 45 and get married and have kids when I’m 60.
Now, my bf is also in the military, stationed in VA, about 5.5-6 hours away driving from where I currently live. If he was within an hour or so, I feel like telling them I’m moving wouldn’t be as end-of-the-world to them as me moving 6 hours away would be. And I’m currently working as a dental assistant and would go to a University near where he works to hopefully get into hygiene school.
I have made an entire slideshow to better organize all our top 5 apartments, which include every detail under the sun as well as other things that go into owning a place and relationship “rules” etc. The slideshow is mainly for us but also as maybe a way to show my parents that this isn’t some casual plan we came up with at 3 in the morning.
I have 3 options on when I’d want to tell them. Before, during, or after this upcoming trip in about 2 weeks. My cousins going to fly in from Mexico with her mom and will be coming with us on the trip, as well as some family friends. I’m leaning heavily on before so that I can get it out of the way and we can maybe have a more bonding experience during the trip since now they know I’ll be moving out…If they don’t absolutely explode on me and never speak to me again that is.
Realistically, I know it’s going to be hard on them, I absolutely love and adore them and they do to me as well. However, the times where we argue is usually always about freedom. Being Mexican, they could care less if I was 36, I’d still need to ask permission to go anywhere. So this can either go really really bad or slightly ok. I absolutely want them to stay in my life and want to have the best relationship I can with them no matter what. My mom has told me before (usually during arguments about said freedom) that the door is always opened and that they can’t stop me from leaving, but if it were up to her she’d love if I could stay with them forever, however she knows and acknowledges that wouldn’t do me any good.
And yes my boyfriend’s BAH would cover the entire rent and utilities and he said I don’t have to worry about finances. Obviously I’m still going to work and help out when I can but one more thing to tell my parents to ease their minds a bit.
Edit: should it be at home, over dinner, etc?