u/Doodleseatingdoodles

This actually happened on February 19th at the Rochester NY show and I’m so sorry to anyone that was around us.

I was dating a guy for only 4 months but he bought me the tickets as a Christmas gift and I was so excited, it was about an hour and a half away so it was our first road trip together. I’ve been playing stardew since 2016 so I was so excited.

The whole night wasn’t great. I drove, (thank god) he talked about himself the whole ride there, about how great he is, his plans for the future, how his Spotify was going to blow up and he’s going to make it big. I was kind of annoyed. We go out to dinner and he was vaping at the table even though the door outside was right behind him.

Anyway, we finally get there and it was amazing. I loved people’s costumes and I cried when it started, it was so amazing. But he was talking, The. Entire. Time. He would turn to me and go, “pfft nerds.” And would make fun of me when the mayors shorts came up and everyone laughed. I was trying so hard just to focus. He mentioned that the orchestra people only make $100 a night and that he would know, he’s a musician. I disagreed and it started to turn into an argument but I just gave up to focus again.

The intermission came and everyone was doing a standing ovation. I was tearing up again from being overwhelmed when he started talking again, louder this time and I went “shh”

He flipped out, started screaming at me saying that “I treat him like a fucking dog” how he wasted his money buying me tickets, I’m incapable of love, I have no empathy.

I didn’t even say anything, I booked it for the door. There were so many people going to the cafeteria area but I was speeding for the front doors with him still yelling behind me. When I finally got to the doors, a security guard came up and asked if everything was ok, I just said yeah and went out the door. He was still yelling at me through the parking lot.

The drive home was worse. Literally the longest hour and a half of my life. It was more of how horrible of a person I am. At one point he told me to “wrap the car around a telephone pole” and then started saying “this world sucks, when is this life going to be over”

Then all of the sudden flipped the switch and said, “name 3 things you love about me” fucking psycho. I just said that I really hoped things were going to work out but I was done.

FINALLY get to his apartment and he asked for break up sex. Get out of my car.

Anyway…I am sooooo sorry for the people around us. We were in the far back left.
Now I have to go back and catch the second part of the show if they ever play around me again. Luckily I haven’t heard from him in months and I can move on with my life.

Edit: you guys are the best community ❤️ Thanks for all the support! Luckily I still love the game and soundtrack and nothing is ruined

Have things gone too far? Should I try it? If anything, I’ll try the spicy one, but Jesus. I feel like pickle needs to stay away from beer.

This has been a rollercoaster.

I was a foster child in 1999 and then again from 2002-2004ish. I was a kid so I’m not sure of exact dates. Now that I’m 34 my own mother is trying to tell me that my abuse as a child is a fabrication of my own imagination and that it never happened and that I’m a liar to everyone including my own siblings who were also in foster care (I’m the oldest so I remember more)

For context I’m in New York. Already I put in a request with the county I live in but unfortunately my own mother, again, got a hold of the letter I requested and started to hound me on why I need to sign for a letter from the family services building at the post office. She purposely held on to it for 2 months so the post office no longer had it.

I went to the physical child services building of Steuben county and they have never had a request from the foster child themself wanting paperwork of their own investigation. They turned me to the official NYS office of children and family services and I need to mail in a written notarized letter of my request with as much information as I can. I’m going to also send in a copy of my license just in case. I called the family services building in Albany but they just turned me back to Steuben county for the information.

Has anyone else done this before? I’m confusing all the people I’ve been trying to talk to and I’m surprised no one else has requested their own pasts.

Would doing a background check on my parents give me more information of my child abuse than going through CPS?

I guess I just want to prove to myself that it was real, I didn’t dream it. Kids don’t go to foster care TWICE for no reason. I’m also just curious on what information I’m allowed to have. The guy at the office I talked to warned me a lot of it might be censored.

This has been a rollercoaster.

I was a foster child in 1999 and then again from 2002-2004ish. I was a kid so I’m not sure of exact dates. Now that I’m 34 my own mother is trying to tell me that my abuse as a child is a fabrication of my own imagination and that it never happened and that I’m a liar to everyone including my own siblings who were also in foster care (I’m the oldest so I remember more)

For context I’m in New York. Already I put in a request with the county I live in but unfortunately my own mother, again, got a hold of the letter I requested and started to hound me on why I need to sign for a letter from the family services building at the post office. She purposely held on to it for 2 months so the post office no longer had it.

I went to the physical child services building of Steuben county and they have never had a request from the foster child themself wanting paperwork of their own investigation. They turned me to the official NYS office of children and family services and I need to mail in a written notarized letter of my request with as much information as I can. I’m going to also send in a copy of my license just in case. I called the family services building in Albany but they just turned me back to Steuben county for the information.

Has anyone else done this before? I’m confusing all the people I’ve been trying to talk to and I’m surprised no one else has requested their own pasts.

Would doing a background check on my parents give me more information of my child abuse than going through CPS?

I guess I just want to prove to myself that it was real, I didn’t dream it. Kids don’t go to foster care TWICE for no reason. I’m also just curious on what information I’m allowed to have. The guy at the office I talked to warned me a lot of it might be censored.

I love my job and have been the lead teacher for 12m to 18m olds for almost 8 years now, but I literally cant afford to live anymore.

Being a lead teacher requires a CDA or associates degree. I’m currently going to school at the local community college, but only make .50 cents more than my assistant. I literally had to move back in with my mom because I can’t live on my own and it’s effecting my mental health.

Everything at our center is bought by the teachers, excluding the beds, tables and chairs. All the art projects are paid for by me. I bought canvases for Father’s Day that cost me about $10 alone. Christmas, Mother’s Day and I make goodie bags for Easter and holloween. All the decorations are mine and I even bought the containers the snacks are in because the other ones were so old and nasty. A mom complained once that I didn’t make Christmas tree ornaments like the other classrooms and I informed her it’s because the teachers paid for them with their own money and I couldn’t afford to do it that year.

My walls are a gross peach color but if I want the room repainted, they will provide me paint but I have to come in over the weekend and do it in my free time. I refuse.

Most of the toys are bought from yard sales or even just found on the side of the road. All of the bouncy seats for the babies are donated.

Our prices just went up and I had to hand the notifications to the parents myself. I asked the owner if this meant we were getting a raise, no. It’s to account for inflation.

I literally might become homeless and everyone but one co worker relies on their SO or also their mothers for help. How do people live like this.

Is there a grant program or something for daycare teachers?

It’s a really sad situation, but I’ve worked at a daycare for 8 years now and I’ve known his family for 6 years now. About 4 years ago his wife developed breast cancer just after the pandemic and then became pregnant. She chose to keep the baby which also meant that she couldn’t do chemotherapy. Thus his son was born, but the cancer had then spread to her brain and she died when the baby was only a month old. I’ve been helping the dad out and honestly I feel like his son is almost my son. Now his son is three and still goes to our daycare and his 7 year old daughter loves me, as I to them. I keep my distance though and stay professional, but then a few months ago he started texting me out of the blue talking about his family dynamics and personal stuff. I saw it coming, sure enough he asked me out to dinner. I’m glad he’s trying to move on and wants to date, just don’t date your babysitter!

I feel weird about it. He’s a great guy and great dad but I work at the daycare his son goes to and also still want to help with the children. I feel bad for them, I said I didn’t want to be romantically involved and now he’s awkward towards me with short answers with periods at the end. I don’t want this to ruin the relationship I have with the children, but I think it ultimately might.

My coworkers keep joking that if he dates me he doesn’t have to pay for babysitting anymore.
Stop being weird and let things go back to normal!

Edit: he’s 37 and I’m 33. Not too weird, age wise

Edit II: 1: I did not expect this to blow up so much.
I’m not going to do it, even if internet strangers are telling me I have to and some are saying I was leading him on. How!?! This isn’t a porn scenario, it’s real life. I can tell which comments are men and which are women. I’m getting private messages saying I need to find him someone…no I don’t, Theres dating websites.

Think about it, I’m a huge avocate for keeping kids out of dating until it’s serious and that wouldn’t be an option even IF I liked him, which I don’t. I want my own family and my own life. This isn’t my family. The kids would have to be serious also right away and I don’t want that. If it didn’t work out I would feel so guilty and like I abandoned them. The whole issue is how he’s reacting to me saying no.

I’m 33, made the rough choice to leave my boyfriend and had to move back home with my mom. I can’t afford to live on my own, literally would have to live out of my car. All of my furniture is in a storage unit that I pay monthly for.

My mom is a severe alcoholic and I went to foster care two separate times in my childhood. The first time was because she beat me badly for trying to run away from home. I was only 7. And the second time was because my 2 year old brother was found wondering the streets when she was on a drinking bender and I wasn’t home at the time. I was 10.

Last night she asked I come downstairs, my family was playing operation. Sounded like fun and I go downstairs and we’re all playing fine when everyone said they were tired and went to bed. My mom had been drinking White Russians and as soon as my brother left, she turned to me and said that my step dad thinks I resent her. I didn’t know how to respond. I don’t hate her but I obviously don’t think she should win mother of the year. She then went on to tell me that everything I’ve been telling everyone is a lie.

I exploded. I haven’t even been talking about my childhood to my siblings (I have, but not recently) but we went to foster care, this isn’t a fever dream. I know it happened. She beat me so badly she tried to keep me out of school and it was the school who called CPS.

I immediately went upstairs on my computer and ordered documents of my CPS records. I’m not even going to show them to her, that will just escalate things and I need somewhere to live. But how dare she try to tell me it never happened.

I’m not leaving my bedroom today. I don’t know why she chose now to do this to me? My siblings are starting to have their own kids and maybe she doesn’t want her grandchildren hearing anything? shes just going to tell me I’m crazy and that shes a perfect mom?

I need to apply for public housing