u/DottyandBearBear

Glow up culture is so toxic. I dress the same as I did in high school, wear the same makeup look, same hairstyle and even listen to the same music.

I see all of these glow ups on social media where people totally reinvent themselves, for the sake of fitting into what society wants. I am disabled and can only work small part time jobs to supplement my income (I live in subsidized housing).

I don’t know if that has something to do with the fact that I am the same as I was in high school.

Anyway, it just seems so silly to me to stop being your genuine self, all because you are ”an adult now”.

I have a huge problem. I’m very talkative and love to give life updates, talk about my hobbies and interests and have always been naturally very hyper and happy.

The other day, a friend called me “manic”. I’ve never been diagnosed with mania, in my life. I always was taught to suppress my emotions and excitement. I don’t see this friend a whole lot. So I tend to not stay on topic, when they talk about things going on in their life. We are very close, and I thought that I could unmask in front of them, after years of not being happy and secure with my life.

I’m not a calm, neutral person on the inside. I don’t know if this is allowed to say here, but I would take my sleeping pills during the day, so I don’t talk as much to people.

I was so depressed for a long time, and afraid to take up space. I don’t know if my friend believes me about being my true self because they are used to me masking. I just wish people would believe my happiness.

I was walking around my town the other day, just minding my own business and being my happy little self. Personal style is my special interest, after masking as girly/basic. My OOTD was a Sailor Moon shirt, skinny jeans, black sneakers and a beanie. Some woman, who was obviously of a different aesthetic and age, looked at me, sneered and said “look at that”.

The man she was with, who was dressed rather casual, also sneered at me. I ignored it and kept listening to my playlist of the day. Her attitude was giving “who will want to hire you dressing like that?”

Huh? I live a very simplistic life. I may not have a lot of money nor can I work full time (I want to work a small job like a stocker or cashier) and live in a low rent apartment, for people with disabilities, who are very inclusive and accepting. I’m surprised this woman didn’t stop me and say “where’s your parents? I’d never let my daughter dress like that!”.

My mom has always been supportive and allowed me to wear whatever I want. If I can earn an extra $20,000 a year, I’d be cool with that. My apartment is income based and I don’t want to leave my friends behind, for the sake of money and status.

So, I’m an aspiring baker, and does anyone know what ingredients work best to make bariatric cupcakes?

I’ve heard Greek yogurt and stevia makes good frosting, but what about natural sugar free food coloring?

As for the cake, does anyone know what a good base is, for cake batter? I know stevia is good, but I want to add protein powder to the cake batter, as well.

I’m naming my cake business Bari-Freakin’-Sweet.

Hi everyone. I am getting gastric bypass (my first dietitian appointment is in June my 2nd) and was wondering about hair loss.

Is it okay to wear a wig or get extensions to help cope with hair loss?

I have a theory about Ma.

Could it be that the reason why she’s so preoccupied with hair (as seen in Bad Hair Day), works at Growth Industries and has people shaved in the scene where people are forced to grow hair, be because she wears a wig, and feels ugly without hair?

Hence, taking it out on those who can grow hair?

Hey friends. I was looking at Jade Summer coloring books the other night. I’ve loved Jade Summer coloring books since I first started coloring in the mid 2010s.

However, I’ve noticed that they look more like Coco Wyo and Hikaru Kozt coloring books. Both in the size of the book and the art style.

I love a bold line, cozy coloring books, don’t get me wrong, I just miss the coloring books from when coloring became popular with adults.

Why is this happening?

Hi friends, I’ve been posting on the gastric sleeve sub. I met with the bariatric nurse, and she thinks that gastric bypass is better in my case.

I am 5’3 and 274lbs (down from 277 last week). The bariatric nurse and team want me to start eating more protein, drinking more water and following a bariatric meal plan, until then.

They did not tell me that I need to lose weight pre op, but if I’m wondering if I’ll lose 70lbs, within 9 months. Take care, everyone!

I spoke with the bariatric nurse, and I don’t have to lose weight to “prove my commitment”, like they do on TV (someone I know, who knows people who have had gastric sleeve, said that I would) I was told not to gain any more weight and just do the two week pre op diet to shrink my liver.

My weight loss doctor also said, that 200lbs is my goal weight in the long run. I cannot wait to wear all of my size 18 clothes again!

Thank you all for your support. I cannot wait for almost 80lbs, of Risperdal weight gain, to be a thing of the past.

I meet with the bariatric nurse on May 5th. I’m very excited. I was told today that I can choose between a male and female surgeon.

A lot of my weight issues (my menstrual cycle, body image and hygiene) would be hard to talk about with a male surgeon.

Thank you everyone for being so kind and supportive of me!