u/Downtown_Dare_4991

TW: Feminine anatomical terms

I'm 2 years on T, pretty masculine and pass well, though I've had no surgeries yet. I recently got into a relationship with a cis guy and he's been great, we've never had any issues around me being trans. He's bi and its just never been a big deal for him, he tops men, cis or trans, and my anatomy doesn't change that. He's never misgendered me, I know he sees me as a man and sees our relationship as gay.

However, he still uses 'feminine' terms sometimes. I've never spoken to him about it, and I know I should, but it makes me feel weird. I'm generally not very dysphoric during sex now, I like being penetrated and call it a pussy. But one time he was talking about toys I should get and said I should get a clit stimulating toy. I didn't say anything, but it hurts to hear my junk called a clit. Realistically its true, and I feel silly calling it a dick, but it does make me dysphoric. If I want him to give me head, I'll say to eat me out, and he says he wants to eat me out too. But i want to be able to tell him to suck my dick. It just feels hollow and stupid to say that when he has a whole ass dick that's so much bigger than mine.

When I'm by myself and thinking about my junk, its just my dick and there's no issues. But when I'm with him and I'm seeing his dick, I get insecure about calling mine a dick too, so I just resort to using the female terms. How do i change this mindset? Do I need to have a conversation with him about not using terms like clit and eat me out, or can I just start calling it my dick and wait for him to catch on?

I’m gay, and recently started dating a bi guy. I have an ex girlfriend and an ex boyfriend. My boyfriend has only ever talked about two ex girlfriends. I know he’s definitely had sex with men, and doesn’t treat me like a woman, but I am curious if he’s dated a man before me, because surely there would be a difference in the dynamic of a same sex couple vs an opposite sex couple? It won’t change anything about how I see him either way, but I’m curious. Is it an okay thing to ask, or does it seem like I’m questioning his attraction to men?

I’m 19M, nearly 2 years on T and planning bottom surgery (most likely extended meta).
Currently, I enjoy getting a blowjob from my boyfriend but once I get fully hard, I become too sensitive and it’s painful. I need to switch to fingering or being fucked to actually cum. I’ve always had this issue, never been able to cum easily from head. Would having meta have any effect on this? Did this issue resolve post meta?

I still live with my parents and I’m studying full time so I’m not getting enough income to be able to move out. I have a decently good relationship with my parents, but we’ve had a lot of issues in the past, they were very unsupportive when I came out.

I started seeing this guy regularly at the start of this year, and I’ve been spending half the week at his place lately. We just made it official a week ago, and I’m feeling great about the relationship. He lives with roommates, and they’re cool with having me over a lot. One of his roommates also has a girlfriend that stays there a lot, so I don’t feel like I’m intruding too much.

But when I stay over, my parents want to know where I am and when I’ll be home, for safety and courtesy to them. It’s way too early to tell them about the relationship, but I need to tell them something. I say I’m staying at a friend’s place once a week, but any more than that would be suspicious. I usually sneak out after they’ve gone to bed, and return before they wake up, but I hate having to sneak around and lie to them.

Do I have any other options here? Obviously moving out would be ideal, but it’s not feasible financially for me right now. I’ll definitely tell them soon, but I know our age gap is going to be an issue for my parents, and I want to be reasonably sure about the relationship before I tell them and they meet him.

Just a celebratory story post to give you guys some hope, and my friends are sick of hearing about this guy.
I met a man off Grindr nearly a year ago, and we’ve been hooking up casually since, up until a few months ago when it got super regular.
He’s so sweet, always happy to see me, we have very similar political beliefs, he’s never treated me differently because I’m trans, he finds me very sexy. We communicate really well and have both been through mental health struggles. Neither of us were looking for a relationship but I fell HARD.

I thought I was going to break up with him and convinced myself he was leading me on, but hadn’t told him how I feel. I ended up breaking down crying telling him all my worries and concerns and saying that there’s too many issues and I can’t see this working. He was really calm, took everything I said on board and promised me that he can and will work on all the issues I mentioned. Since then, our communication has been so much stronger and he’s completely stuck to his word.

Then, we spent a night together and I stayed over. I made a passing comment about how I should clean my car this week, and he offered to help me do it now. We spent ages getting my old dirty car cleaner than it’s been in decades. I was so appreciative and then we relaxed and had such a nice day after that.

The next morning, I texted him that I wanted to make it official, and he said we should talk this through in person. I came over and after a fun time hanging out, we had the conversation and I told him I want us to be boyfriends. He said yes and then we had the hottest sex we’ve had yet.

(TMI warning lol) He was lying back in a chair as I sucked his dic and gazed up into his eyes, and then he said ‘I’m getting my dick sucked by my boyfriend’ and it was so sweet and unexpected and fuck I’m so happy

I'm a 19M sub, dating a 31M dom.

Those of you who are in a romantic relationship with your bdsm partner, how do you keep it healthy and equal? As a sub i feel like I naturally place my wants and needs lower than his, both sexually and romantically. He often encourages me to communicate my needs more, but i really struggle with it. I also have very little previous relationship experience, and we've only been together for roughly 4 months. I love that he takes charge a lot of the time, 1. because sexually i find that very hot and 2. because I have bad anxiety generally and decisions always stress me out.

One issue I have sexually is that I am often giving him head, and he always tells me how great I am at it, but he very rarely sucks my dick, and isn't very good at it. I don't know how to receive head while being submissive, and I don't know how to tell him that I want it more or to give him tips on it without sounding mean or like i'm telling him what to do. There's also more kinks i want to try, but i don't know how to communicate them with him if its not something he'd be interested in. I know i'm bad at communication and that's crucial in relationships and bdsm, but I'm just very lost on how to start communicating better while still feeling submissive and like he's still in control.

TW: natal genitalia talk

I’m a trans man and either getting extended meta or phallo, with scrotoplasty either way, and no UL. My ideal look would be to have fully male appearing genitals if anyone was to see me naked, however I still want a vagina under my balls so I can still use it to bottom. Though I’ve heard issues can arise from the scar tissue on labia majora after scrotoplasty, which can make the hole too tight for sex.

My only purpose for not getting a vaginectomy is to retain the sexual sensation I get from PIV, as it’s the main way I can cum. But if there’s a high likelihood I’ll be too tight to be penetrated with no way of improving that, there’s no point in keeping it for me. Has anyone had personal experience with bottoming again after surgery? Can the tightness be fixed with dilating or massaging?

TW: natal genitalia talk

I’m a trans man and either getting extended meta or phallo, with scrotoplasty either way, and no UL. My ideal look would be to have fully male appearing genitals if anyone was to see me naked, however I still want a vagina under my balls so I can still use it to bottom. Though I’ve heard issues can arise from the scar tissue on labia majora after scrotoplasty, which can make the hole too tight for sex.

My only purpose for not getting a vaginectomy is to retain the sexual sensation I get from PIV, as it’s the main way I can cum. But if there’s a high likelihood I’ll be too tight to be penetrated with no way of improving that, there’s no point in keeping it for me. Has anyone had personal experience with bottoming again after surgery? Can the tightness be fixed with dilating or massaging?