u/DrunkPladin

I had a small argument with my dad today.

To be fair, I overreacted a little too, but I realized it pretty quickly, backed down, and apologized.

He kept going, though, and eventually said something that hit me much harder than I expected.

He told me that I will never really know what love is because I won't have children, and that I'll most likely end up alone for the rest of my life.

Normally that would hurt enough on its own, but I'm already going through a pretty difficult period in my relationship right now, and things at work haven't exactly been great either. So I guess it hit a particularly sensitive spot.

What bothers me is that, even after all these years of hearing similar things, comments like this still affect me so deeply, especially when they come from my father.

Part of me feels like I should be used to it by now, or that at this point in my life I shouldn't let his words have this much power over me. But they still do.

How do you deal with something like this? Do hurtful things your parents say ever stop affecting you as much?

Sorry if this isn't much of a post. I just really needed to get it out somewhere.

Imao sam neku malu raspravicu sa čalcem danas, ok malo sam i ja preterao ali sam odma spustio loptu i izvinio se...

Međutim on je nastavio i dalje, kad je izgovori jednu rečenicu koja me je pogodila jako. Kako ja nikad neću znati šta je ljubav, jer neču imati decu i najverovatnije ču biti do kraja života sam.

I dalje posle toliko godina istih stvari, i dalje me to toliko pogodi.

Izvinite ako je loš post, trebalo mi je da to izbacim iz sebe

A few weeks ago, I posted here about the situation in my relationship. First of all, I want to thank everyone who took the time to give me advice. Honestly, this has been one of the most supportive Reddit communities I've come across in a long time.

After thinking about everything people told me here, and after a lot of conversations and arguments with my partner, I've made the decision that this relationship has to end. I just can't continue like this anymore.

So now I'm slowly preparing for the next steps, separating our things, figuring out what belongs to whom, and dealing with all the practical stuff that comes with ending a long-term relationship.

But I'm finding myself in a bit of a strange position now.

Since I'm the one who made the final decision, I'm not sure how much I should help him with what comes next. I still care about him and want to make the transition easier, but I'm also afraid that helping too much could make it harder for both of us to move on.

One thing that makes it even more difficult is that he still seems to think I'm bluffing, for lack of a better word, and that I'll eventually change my mind. That makes it harder to know how supportive I should be without giving him false hope.

It's a strange situation, and I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who's been through something similar, especially after a long-term relationship.

How did you handle the practical side of the breakup, and where did you draw the line between helping your ex and starting to move on yourself?

EDIT: link to the previous post previse post

For the past two and a half years, I’ve been trying to bring some life back into our relationship, and I’m running out of ideas.

My partner is completely detached. We haven’t had sex in about a year, he is cold and distant, and I no longer feel as though we are really a couple. When I was going through a very difficult period, he wasn’t supportive at all.

At this point, I sometimes feel as though he is staying with me mainly because I provide him with a place to live and financial security. I don’t think he is seeing anyone else, he simply seems disconnected from me and from life in general. He doesn’t want to do anything, and every day there seems to be another problem he cannot handle. Therapist for him is a waist of time and money.

As one final attempt, I was thinking of suggesting a few things we could regularly do together: go to a restaurant once a week, take a few walks, and spend at least two hours a day without phones. His constant phone use is one of our biggest problems. And sanctions with less money for him, because that is only thing he cares about.

I know scheduling time together might sound like a business arrangement, but perhaps it could help us reconnect. At the same time, I don’t want this to become another project that I have to manage alone.

I’ve invested a lot in this relationship and supported him through everything, but I’m emotionally exhausted and can’t continue like this.

Is this structured plan worth trying, or am I only postponing the inevitable?

Lately, I’ve been falling into a kind of creative block more and more often. It’s not that I don’t have ideas for what to paint. It's the actual process of painting that seems to block me.

I’ve tried taking a break, but that usually turns into several weeks without painting at all. I’ve also tried keeping my supplies easily accessible so it would be easier to start, but lately everything just feels difficult.

Even when I do start painting, it often feels like I’m forcing myself. Then I become tense and frustrated with the process, and the painting usually doesn’t turn out the way I wanted it to.

So, did you had simular situation, and how did you overcome it?

U poslednje vreme sve češće upadam u neku vrstu kreativne blokade. Nije problem u tome što nemam ideje šta bih slikao, već me blokira sam proces slikanja.

Probao sam da napravim pauzu, ali se ta pauza lako pretvori u nekoliko nedelja bez slikanja. Probao sam i da držim pribor na dohvat ruke, kako bih mogao lakše da počnem, ali mi je u poslednje vreme sve nekako teško.

Čak i kada krenem da slikam, često imam osećaj da sam se naterao. Onda budem napet, nezadovoljan procesom i na kraju slika ne ispadne onako kako sam želeo.

Kako vi se nosite sa tim?

Lately, I’ve been falling into a kind of creative block more and more often. It’s not that I don’t have ideas for what to paint. It's the actual process of painting that seems to block me.

I’ve tried taking a break, but that usually turns into several weeks without painting at all. I’ve also tried keeping my supplies easily accessible so it would be easier to start, but lately everything just feels difficult.

Even when I do start painting, it often feels like I’m forcing myself. Then I become tense and frustrated with the process, and the painting usually doesn’t turn out the way I wanted it to.

So, did you had simular situation, and how did you overcome it?

Skoro sam dobio na poklon knjigu „Slika Dorijana Greja“, ali mi stil prevoda baš teško pada.

Nemam utisak da je prevod nužno netačan, već da je često previše bukvalan. Rečenice kao da nemaju prirodan ritam srpskog jezika, niti prenose ton i atmosferu.

Na pojedinim mestima stil zvuči kao da je tinejdžerka krenula da piše svoju prvu fantasy priču. 😅

Imam osećaj da je prevodilac više pratio konstrukciju engleske rečenice, pre nego da prenese značenje na srpskom. Zbog toga mi je prilično teško da čitam neke novije prevode, čak i kada je sama knjiga odlična.

Možda nepravedno krivim prevodioca. Moguće je da je problem u lekturi, ili nečem drugom.

Pre nego što krenete sa komentarima, pa čitaj na Engleskom. Pred spavanje mi je lakše da čitam na Srpskom i kad želim da se malo opustim onda knjige na Srpskom su mi "lakše" i pogodnije za to.

Kada želim potpunu imerziju, knjigu čitam na originalnom jeziku. Prevod na srpski obično biram kada želim da se opustim i čitam bez dodatnog napora, zbog čega mi ovakav stil još više smeta.

Hey hey,

Hteo sam da vas pitam imate li nekih saveta oko toga kako da krenem sa vežbama za crtanje tela.

Probao sam da pratim neke tutorijale i vežbe po netu, pa da krenem samo sa "osnovnim" oblicima... ali nekako mi ne ide, neće da "uđe u ruku" pa to ti je :-)

So, after a 15 years I think it is time to sell my first car. Simple I do not have room for two cars at the moment.

Even when I think about it, I got some heavy feeling in my chest and I start to cry 😅 I feel like he knows what is about to happen and I see in it's head lights looks of betrayal 😅

How was it for you, when you started talking picture of your car for sale?