u/Dull_Armadillo_83

Seriously.

I‘ve now worked at three shops where the owner/supervisor has never worked in a real coffee shop. Starbucks doesnt count either.

My supervisor now worked at starbucks for like 3 months so he could get this job and all his ideas are stupid and he bought a stupid automated machine and I hate steaming milk like that. my other boss just decided to open a shop for fun??? she had no experience.

was listening to this rich dude talk about how hes gonna quit his job so that he can open a coffee shop and this dude has no experience with coffee shops besides being a customer.

My only exception would be if you have business experience AND already know about coffee AND can get input from actual baristas too

Sorry, rant over

EDIT: Im not going in tomorrow

thank you for the kind words snd reassurance :)

This is gonna be really stupid but I need some reassurance and advice…

Im the type of person that almost never calls out sick or even gets sick. The most I get is a cold or something every year. I also feel like I have a pretty high pain tolerance and can work but should I work??

Anyway this is gonna be pretty TMI so here’s a warning…

this week my stomach has ached and Ive been pretty bloated. idk if it’s from stress, dairy, wedding food I had on Saturday, or what but ive felt pretty bad. I also got into a fight on Monday and got kicked on the side pretty good and im just sore in general from that. Anyway… i work as a barista so I’m on my feet and also the only one working so I need to be at the bar for the majority of the time. Today I got to work but started feeling nauseous and kinda lightheaded. I also kept feeling like I was going to poop myself if I didnt get to a bathroom right away. Luckily someone else was also working and I was able to go home. Took a bath, Ive been eating broth and drinking tea, and just laying down and I feel mostly fine. Ive still been getting a sudden need to poop though and run to the bathroom. Thing is I barely poop and it’s just runny 😭. Spent a bit on the toilet trying to get more out and then felt like throwing up and spit up some bile.

My boss is wondering if I’ll be able to work tomorrow and idk?? i could feel better tomorrow but I also don’t wanna wake up at 4:40am just to need to go back home a few hours later because I’m gonna poop, puke, and maybe pass out…

I also just feel dramatic… I have epilepsy and stress is a pretty big trigger for seizures and Ive been pretty stressed and will feel light headed but idk if that’s from my stomach or not or both?? I don’t want to have a seizure or poop myself at work but also I might be totally fine tomorrow?

to start off I know its fairly normal to smell weed in your apartment building…

my husband and I live in a house that is converted into four apartments. we moved in around September and it has it’s quirks (bats in the walls, bat in the kitchen, radiators that bang…). the neighbor below us smokes weed and every time they do (almost every day) the smell comes into our bedroom and it just smells like weed in our apartment for s few hours. it’s usually not horrible but the other day we walked into the hallway and it’s was super strong. i dont really enjoy falling asleep the smell of weed but I also don’t really wanna be a snitch… our apartments don’t allow smoking and weed is illegal in our state.

is there anything we can do to reduce the smell?

Im Gen Z (23) and married to my husband who is also 23.

whenever I interact with people my age they don’t say anything about me being married. i mention something about my husband and theres no weird comment about it and it’s just a normal conversation. like today I was talking about my husband snores and one of my coworkers whos 22 talked about how her boyfriend also snores. a normal convo…

I started a second job where im mostly working with millennials and my first few days of working there people have said a lot of weird things about me being married young.

things said:

”get your divorce work done now! itll be harder to do later! I’ve never been married or divorced though.”

”no one plans on getting divorced“

”do you have kids?”

”why did you get married young? 🤨”

”how long have you been together….”

”i got married at 23….it ended 6 years later”

”thats how my first marriage was. now Im divorced”

”I cant believe you’re married, you’re so young”

”arent you worried about changing?”

”were you a virgin?”

This is a kinda soft AIO because I haven’t really thought much of it until today and Im more confused than upset…

I am 23f and my sister is 21f. She has always been more outgoing and ambitious than I am but i don’t mind. Im an introvert and I dont really try to put myself out there much. I’d like to think that I‘m smart in my own way just like she is in hers but I think the fact that I havent graduated college yet has inflated her ego…

Im not an academic person and wasn’t planning on going to college but did anyway. I went to college for Intercultural Studies and the degree required an overseas internship for me to graduate and I cant do it right now for a few reasons (medical, personal, financial). I decided I would take a break from school until I can do the internship since thats the only thing I have left to graduate. My sister is going to school for something computer related (Im not sure the exact thing but it’s “lower” than computer science). She’s not great in school either but is planning to graduate.

the incident today:

Ive been working customer service jobs like a barista and other very customer facing jobs since high school. Right now Im a barista but would like to try to get into a more professional or office job like a receptionist or something similar where I can make more money and won’t need to be on my feet all day.

my sister was looking for jobs for herself next year while she’s at school and read off a receptionist job for a company thats close to my husbands work and that I was actually thinking of going in and asking if they were hiring. I asked her to send it to me and she kinda looked at me with a laughing smile on her face. She started saying “you know that you need to…” and then stopped talking to laugh slightly and smile at me. I asked what because theres absolutely no reason why I couldnt be a receptionist. She said “you’d have to put on a nice receptionist voice“ and laughed more. I told her that ive been working customer service for the last 7 or more years and know how to talk to customers. My dad made a joke to shut the conversation down but how she acted makes me wonder if she really just thinks I’m not capable of things like that…

we dont have the greatest relationship and I want to try to have a better one but things like this dont make me feel good… does she really think I’m just going to be a barista my whole life? Mooch off my husband?

she started getting into photography this year which is something Ive been doing as a hobby for most of my life and whenever she asks me something she’s surprised that Im actually good at photography… or like I wanted to practice my graphic design skills and made her a logo and she was surprised at how good it was…?

im probably overreacting but it just feels weird…

hi!

im stuck right now with figuring out what to do with a degree and have always thought being an art teacher would be amazing. I love art and enjoy teaching. I had an amazing elementary school art teacher who helped me learn so much and even encouraged me to pursue art in my future. my high school art teacher was horrible though lol and I’d want to be able to teach students and be more involved than she was. I think I would mostly be interested in high school and possibly middle school.

I went to school for Intercultural Studies and finished all my classes except for an internship which I will not be able to complete anytime soon. Im considering switching my degree rather than waiting to be able to do the internship and wondered if anyone had any advice?

I have all my general studies done as well as a graphic design and drawing course but other than that the rest are within my degree field

I was struggling to get a full time job and went back to an old employer part time making $12 (plus tips) an hour as a barista. This was less than I was hoping for and less hours than i was looking for but a good place to work while I looked for other jobs. As I was looking I came across a job listing for another barista position saying their pay rate was $14 an hour (nothing about tips but i assumed they would be included). I applied! I got accepted! I went in for orientation on the 5th and then training on the 8th. After training I went into my employee work thing and looked at the payroll…

It said my pay rate is $12 an hour and that the last pay change was 05/05/2026 and the previous rate was $14 an hour. I messaged HR. Extra information: the manager asked if I wanted to be a host at the restaurant (its a hotel with a coffee bar, regular bar, and a restaurant in different places) since another barista was going to do this. I told him I would have to think about it and get back to him. I messaged HR asking what my pay rate was and they replied:

”It appears you are working as a Host and a Barista. As a Barista you will make $12.00 an hour plus tips, as a host you will make $14.00 an hour.”

I’m not a host and the job description for the barista did not say $12 plus tips…it said $14…?

Now I’m confused and wonder what I should do…

I found the job listing:

“Barista

Overview:

Salary Range: $14.00 Hourly

Level: Entry

Position Type: Part Time

Job Shift: Swing

Category**:** Hospitality - Hotel

Description:
BASIC FUNCTION:

The Barista is responsible for crafting and serving exceptional coffee beverages and maintaining a welcoming and inviting atmosphere ensuring guests have an enjoyable experience.  This role requires professionalism, exceptional customer service, attention to detail and a commitment to providing high-level hospitality in a fast-paced environment.

ORGANIZATIONAL RELATIONSHIPS

• Reports to:    Restaurant Manager / Supervisor
• Supervises:    N/A

SPECIFIC DUTIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES

• Prepare a variety of coffee and tea beverages, following recipes and quality standards.
• Operate espresso machines, grinders, and other coffee making equipment with precision.
• Greet guests professionally and provide attentive, courteous and efficient service and provide recommendations based on customer preferences. 
• Prepare and serve beverages promptly, ensuring accuracy and quality.
• Deliver outstanding customer service by engaging with guests, addressing inquiries and ensuring a positive guest experience.
• Maintain cleanliness and organization of workspace, including cleaning equipment, utensils and surfaces.
• Stay updated with coffee trends, brewing techniques and menu items to provide expert product knowledge.
• Adhere to all health, safety, and sanitation regulations.
• Follow proper procedures for handling and disposing of food and beverage waste. 
• Accurately handle cash transactions and process payments for guests with Agilysys POS.

EDUCATION, TRAINING AND EXPERIENCE

• Formal education is not required.
• Relevant experience as a barista preferred.

 

STANDARDS OF PERFORMANCE

• Maintain a professional appearance and demeanor at all times.
• Attention to detail and ability to follow recipes for consistent coffee quality. 
• Deliver prompt, courteous, and attentive service to all guests. 
• Exhibit strong teamwork and collaboration with colleagues and management. 
• Adhere to company policies and procedures. 
• Demonstrate strong time management and multitasking skills. 
• Ensure accuracy in food and beverage delivery. 
• Uphold high standards of cleanliness and organization in work area. 
• Respond quickly and effectively to guest inquiries and concerns.

 

MENTAL and PHYSICAL REQUIREMENTS

• Ability to work in a fast-paced, high-pressure environment. 
• Strong problem-solving skills and ability to adapt to changing situations. 
• Excellent communication and interpersonal skills. 
• Ability to stand and walk for extended periods.
• Must be able to lift and carry up to 50 lbs. 
• Ability to bend, stoop, and reach frequently.
• Flexibility to work mornings, weekends, and holidays as required by event schedules.

 

WORKING ENVIRONMENT AND CONDITIONS

• Inside work. 
• Exposure to varying temperatures and moderate-to-high noise levels.
• High guest interaction requiring excellent customer service skills.
• Noise levels may be high during high volume business. 
• Fast-paced and physically demanding work environment.

 

EQUIPMENT AND TOOLS

• Espresso machine
• Coffee and beverage dispensers.
•  POS terminal and payment processing equipment.
• Turbo Chef
• Glassware, dish equipment, sanitation supplies.”

Is it saying it’s $14? Is it saying it will be $14 with your tips? The day that I trained I worked 8 hours training and did not receive any cash tips and im not sure if I will get online tips because I was training…

im confused…

Hi,

I started college in 2021 and was supposed to graduate December of 2026. However, my degree required an internship overseas that I was unable to complete due to health reasons (I wouldn’t be allowed to go alone). I asked to do a variant of it last summer at home and they said yes but later said it didn't count. I even walked at graduation in May of 2025 but I didnt get a diploma lol.

anyway, I got married last September and my husband and I don’t have the money for me to get a different degree and I still cant do my internship because hes trying to get his green card and can’t leave the country. soooooo my plan is to not finish my degree until a few more years when we are more stable and I am either able to do the internship or switch degrees.

what should I put on my resume???

the internship and one class are litteraly the only things I need to graduate so I did mostly all of my coursework. I dont want it to seem like im still in college because im looking for a full time job but is it wrong to just put what my degree is and 2021-2026 since I didnt graduate?

im looking to apply to a Law Assistant job in my town. They said you dont need any paralegal or legal experience but that office experience is required. I don’t have any “office experience“ like a receptionist or things like that but I have good customer service skills, organization, and have and idea of what to expect. (i know these things wont get me the job but im going to say them to show im not completely clueless about being a law assistant lol: my Grandpa is a retired lawyer who had his own law office that i spent time in and my mother was a legal assistant and receptionist for him a few times when i was little. my uncle is also a law professor and i will be asking them for advice as well.) The job responsibilities are: “General administrative support, Filing, document handling, and data entry, Answering phones and assisting clients, Maintaining confidentiality and accuracy“ which are all things I believe I can easily do or easily learn.

My experience so far is A lot of coffee shops… I went to four years of college but did not graduate (I plan to eventually but do not have the time or money right now). Im in a tough spot right now because I had to quit a toxic job and have been struggling to find a full time job. Im working two places right now but one I only Get 11 hours a week and the other they want me to work saturdays which I would rather not but I will until I get a better job. My husband did graduate college and has a good job but his OPT will run out at the end of May and his green-card/work visa might not come on time. Im hoping I can get a better job so that we can stay afloat.

Here is (almost all) my experience along with volunteer and other work:

Barista - Local Hotel and Casino

(Started yesterday)

Barista, cook, cashier - Local coffeehouse

(September 2021 - March 2023, April 2026 - present)

Lead barista, cashier, kitchen helper, social media “manager” - Local Cafe

(June 2025 - February 2026)

this was the toxic job. I did a lot of things for them since I was the only full time barista and would often be the only barista working 6:30-4 every weekday. it was a new cafe and I did a lot of stuff for them. Wish I didnt have to quit but the boss was awful and didnt know how to control her emotions and treated me like a child.

Housekeeper - My college

(February 2024 - August 2025)

Barista and cashier - My college

(April 2024 - August 2025)

Photographer, Social Media Manager, camp worker - Summer camp

(May 2021 - August 2021)

Random work:

Seasonal Worker - Vineyard

around 13 years as it was my grandparents. I would help with labeling and packaging wine, paint buildings, mow, take care of animals, prune and take care of grapevines. This isnt very relevant though…

Communications intern (?) - My old church

this was like in 2019 for a few months when i was in high school. I helped the Communications Director with graphic design and other things.

Cashier and fry cook - Fast food place

worked here for about 2 years in high school

Volunteer work in college:

Yearbook Photographer and designer - my college

2024-2025 worked with some AWFUL student editors. My friend and I who Had more experience than the editors were basically the editors for the editors (without them knowing). I took pictures, sorted, edited, and sent them to the editors as well as proofreading the yearbook and fixing spelling mistakes, font sizes, cropping pictures, and other things. I also designed the cover which is a digital illustration.

International Volunteer - Missions organization

Went to a large city in Europe for 3 weeks meeting with missionaries there, doing volunteer work, taught a small group of middle schoolers at an English camp for one of the weeks.

Site and Mission leader - Missions organization

lead groups of middle schoolers for 3 weeks in Minneapolis for them to volunteer and learn about Minneapolis and the different cultures. lead lessons and organized rides, rooms, and different things.

ESL Volunteer - an organization that a professor at my college worked with

for two years. Had two high school students from South Korea that I would meet with once a week during the school year and help them with their English through casual conversations and pre made curriculum.

Other things:

I am also proficient in photography (film and digital although I dont think either are relevant).

I am able to use and learn more about Microsoft office and Google things if needed.

I can answer phones and emails lol.

When I put more effort into it I am a good writer (im not really trying with this post…).

I like mundane tasks like data entry but also enjoy having something to do like take care of customers and help people out.

I went to college for Intercultural Studies

this is long and I know that not all of this is relevant but im wondering what I can do to make a good resume for a position like this?

Hello, Im trying to help a friend and would like to hear other opinions and advice other than my own :)

we are both women in our early 20s and just out of college. I am married and dated my husband in college and we got married last summer. my friend is a romantic and would like to be in love and be in a relationship. she went on a few dates and talked to a few guys in college but it never went anywhere because the guy either just got out of a relationship and didn’t want to start a new one or was too immature. I think she wants a rom com and fairytale story of her love. a story to tell her children. it’s not bad to want that and I hope she has a cute story! Im more of a realist though lol

There is a guy whos new to her church since this fall. I actually met him at my job and got to talk to him a bit and he was super nice. She’s only been able to talk to him a few times at church because the other people who join her to talk to him talk a lot lol. from what I see, he has good aspirations, nice car, very friendly, good manners, very much her type, and likes to travel. He was gone for a month on a trip and recently returned. She tried to talk to him about his trip at church but one of our mutual friends was yapping about something else and my friend didn’t get the chance to hear much about his trip.

today my friend and I were getting lunch and he came into the same restaurant and waved at her. We started talking about him and I said she should just message him on instagram asking if hed like to meet up for coffee or something so she can hear more about his trip. Putting an emphasis on meeting to hear about the trip, not necessarily as a date. She thought that was a good idea but is afraid of making the first move and afraid that if she does that he won’t be able to “peruse” her. I think shes overthinking and told her that this could be more of a “get to know you” and hear about his trip kind of meeting and not really a date. It shows that she’s interested and opens it up for him to ask for her number, ask her out on a real date, ask if he can pick her up, all sorts of things. Right?

Shes wondering now if she should just wait a few weeks to ask him about his trip because maybe he’ll bring it up but that might not happen and could take a while… my husband liked me for a year and I liked him for about 6 months before we told each other that we liked each other… while it can sound cute it definitely caused a lot of overthinking and anxiety for me lol. Lots of wondering if he actually likes me if he doesnt say anything, did he like that other girl, do I actually like him? Lots of thoughts because I was just waiting to see if hed say something. Looking back I wouldve told him a lot sooner. my relationship is different from my friends would be as my husband and I were friends first but I was the first one to ask if hed like to date and he then set up a date.

im definitely not trying to make her relationship into mine but I would appreciate some advice and other peoples thoughts !

Edit: She asked one of our male friends for advice and decided She’s going to wait a couple weeks and talk to him in person at church. in the meantime she wants to send him a casual reel on instagram to open conversation… if nothing moves forward she’ll be m bold. She and our male friend thinks my idea was too bold

I quit my super toxic barista job at the end of February and have been struggling to find work since then. I didnt finish my degree (was supposed to in 2025) and have no ”professional“ work experience so ive been applying to lots of retail jobs, grocery stores, gas stations, housekeeping, Starbucks, and other barista jobs. I got a few interviews but no offers so I reached out to an old employer the end of March and asked if they were hiring. He said yes and that I was hired for weekday mornings. I was looking for something full time but thought that every weekday from 6am to 11am would be good for now but it turns out Im really only working 11 hours a week at $12 an hour… around the same time I had an interview as a part time barista for a hotel and they offered me that job last Friday for $14 an hour.

I still wouldnt be making enough though…

So, Im on the hunt again for a better paying full time job. I will still work at these two jobs while I search for a better one but I have some questions…

im going to apply to a variety of different jobs with different resumes… from a gas station to a legal assistant… how do I decide what to accept?

if I apply to the gas station and the legal assistant and the gas station offers me the job first do I take it or wait for the legal assistant job to get back to me? same question goes for all the jobs Im planning on applying to… Should I be telling them that Im waiting to hear back from other people? so far in my job search ive just been accepting anything that I get but I dont want to start somewhere for a week and then get accepted at a better job and quit... starting a job gives me a lot of anxiety and I don’t know if it’s wise to work somewhere for a week, right?? idk Im confused on how people actually do this…

Help meeee lol

this will be my first time applying to more professional jobs like assistants or receptionists too so if anyone has good advice for me that would be wonderful!! my experience is mostly food service and customer service but Im a fast learner, have good attention to detail, really like repetitive tasks lol, and once I get past the nervousness of not knowing what to do Im good at taking calls and talking to clients

Im looking for some Christian insight into this because I’m struggling to understand it…

my friend group and I are all Christians in our 20s. We all have our own problems and are all sinful in our own ways. Our one friend has a lot more “visible“ problems. Im not saying the things to judge him but to explain… compared to the rest of us who never go to bars he goes out a lot with his coworkers. I’ve never seen him drunk but he does drink more than the rest of us. He recently got soft evicted from his apartment because he’s not good at taking care of his finances. We went to help him pack and our friend is letting him stay with them until he gets another place. But his place was also disgusting…again, not trying to judge him but I swept up so much trash… he also struggles with wanting a relationship and will often try to date people who aren’t Christian. All this to say, he goes to church and is in a small group of people at church who he talks to.

anyway… we have a friend and her husband who moved here in August and her husband hasnt tried to interact with us at all and now is trying to move back to his hometown. I never really understood why he didnt seem to want to hang out with us but my friend clarified a little yesterday…

He apparently feels the need to “father” or mentor people and feels like he wants to do that to our one friend. But he also doesn’t want to do that because he thinks our friend should be getting help from people at his church. So, instead of trying to be friends he just avoids him at all costs and won’t hang out with our friend group if he’s there…

I understand wanting to help your friends but its hard for me to understand what my friends husband is thinking by saying he cant be friends with our one friend since he doesn’t think he can mentor him…? Idk it doesn’t make logical sense to me…

sorry if I sound judgmental or mean

I switched to a Cat S-22 from an iPhone 11 Pro last month and I’m not sure if I like it or if I’m tech-savvy enough for it…

I mostly text and I find that I can’t receive a lot of texts. I get these little x’s with circles which I assume are texts but then I dont receive them or receive them hours later… I got this so I could use Google Maps and spotify but those don’t work without WiFi for some reason and idk if its the phone or my data? I cant search anything if Im not on WiFi either. Other apps I want to use like the Chick-fil-A app dont work either lol

The main problem is the texts… I feel kinda like a burden when my friends have to call me or use instagram for group chats when I cant get their texts. And i dont even have instagram on my phone or have notifications on my iPad so I dont get those messages right away either. Idk I got this because I thought it would work and be good for me but it doesnt seem to be working well and idk what to do…

thoughts or suggestions on other dumb phones? I dont have a lot of money right now so I cant spend a lot and I feel like I already kind of wasted money on this one. are there any dumb phones that can get iPhone texts well or are they all like this?