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Woah another type fixation characterization rant Dylan? Yes, this time it’s about another attachment type, this time the 6. I’ve read about a supposed “attachment bias” in how the enneagram is interpreted, as in the enneagram’s interpretation and description are biased through the lens of attachment types. And I have to say about that is that is bullshit, in enneagram descriptions we actually have an anti-attachment bias, mainly because tons of enneauthors are 4s and 5s. But I digress anyway here are some points about why I hate most descriptions and interpretations of 6.

1. The frequent portrayal of 6s as people pleasers or meek people who don’t like starting conflict.

In my personal experience 6s are genuinely some of the most argumentative and debate starting people I know, if they think you’re wrong they’ll try and correct that a lot of the time. Even 9 fixed 6s are essentially “correct them but in a more meek and polite way.” I’m personally of the belief that this is from the aforementioned 4s and 5s thinking that actually taking others ideas into consideration counts as people pleasing, even though 6s doubt others as much as they doubt themselves, this is literally a major part of the 6 fixation.

2. How SP6 and SX6 are treated

They straight up treat these 2 like they’re not the same time, with people portraying SP6 like they’re as mentioned above, and essentially treating SX6 as a dumping ground for all people mistyped as 8s (one example being Donald Trump, who isn’t an 8 but isn’t a SX6 either as some people have claimed, he’s an obvious 3) and all 6s who engage in aggressive and/or counterphobic behavior, funnily enough including actual very counterphobic SP6s (who actually do exist).

3. How counterphobia and phobia are portrayed

Hear me loud and clear, all 6s engage in both counterphobic and phobic behavior, there’s no “phobic” 6 and there’s no “counterphobic” 6, there’s a just a 6 who engages in both but does one more on average. Please stop acting like 6s fit into these 2 rigid categories they all engage in both to some degree.

4. Bad portrayal of counterphobic behavior

The amount of times I’ve seen “aggressive non thinking behavior” be called counterphobic behavior is too much. Counterphobic behavior is still about thinking and dealing with fear, it is not a gutty rage at autonomy violation on its own. I think this portrayal comes from a mixture of misunderstanding how people deal with fear in general and treating tons of people mistyped as 8s as if they’re just mistyped 6s rather than investigating what their actual type is. 6s engaging in aggressive behavior doesn’t preclude them from being a head type, at their core they’re still driven by anxiety what changes is how they express it.

5. 6 is a reactive type

So many people who mistype to 6 have this happen because they essentially treat 6 as positive outlook rather than reactive like it actually is. 6s are not chill, optimistic people. They’re anxious and often pessimistic ones a lot of the time (not always but often they are) 6s almost never ignore problems, their reactive fixation prevents them from doing that. Basically if you’re super against killing the good vibes, often ignore problems and are very optimistic, you’re almost certainly not a 6, you are a positive outlook type that gets anxious sometimes like a normal human being.

Sincerely, a 6 winged core 5

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