u/Ecstatic-Ad9637

I don't have anyone who has experience with narcissistic people in my life. Hoping to get support, advice, and reassurance.

My mom and I have been living together for a few years now. She wasn't around much during my childhood. She struggled with substance abuse and preferred spending time with her boyfriends over me and my siblings.

Since moving in together, we've had so many issues with her not respecting me, ignoring boundaries, etc.

My sister is an addict and she's homeless. She will occasionally ask to stay with us. I always tell my mom that I don't want her to stay with us because she couch surfs (I worry about bedbugs) and she's emotionally volatile. Not to mention, I work from home and I need to focus.

My mom is on a fixed income. I'm the primary lease holder on our apartment and I pay the majority of the bills. I help my mom out financially every month because she doesn't know how to budget.

She now wants me to help her buy a new car. I told her I'd be willing to pay for a cheap car ($4,000 max) and she can pay me back monthly.

Instead, she wants to finance a 2026 Hyundai. She wants me to help with the down payment and co-sign. I told her that isn't realistic. I'm disabled so she does run errands for me that I'm unable to do. But I don't think that obligates me to help her buy a new, expensive car.

She always tries to manipulate and guilt me. Every time I try to assert a boundary, like with my sister, she says my heart is "bad".

Am I crazy here?

I gave her my old car (when I was still able to drive) and she ran it into the ground. I bought her another cheap car in the past, and I paid off her current car. I've paid for her to take vacations, etc.

Hello,

I'm looking for advice on how to handle this situation.

My dad recently started randomly showing up at my apartment. This has happened twice now. I had been no contact with him for years, and he was extremely abusive and cruel to me my entire life.

My sister called me one day and asked me to come outside. Not thinking anything of it, I went outside and there he was. I panicked and fawned.

I'm a deeply nonconfrontational person. How do I tell him to leave me alone? I mean, I know how, but how do I stop freezing and letting him cross my boundaries?

I also find it so odd and insulting that after barging into my life, he says he just wanted to see my dogs and was curious if they remembered him.

Should I get his number from my sister and tell him off? Should I wait until he comes around again and tell him in person?

I went no-contact with my dad a few years ago after a confrontation. Prior to that, he'd been incredibly abusive, neglectful, and cruel to me throughout my entire life.

A few weeks ago my sister randomly called telling me to go outside. When I did, my dad was there. I felt so confused and panicked.

I completely fawned. He ended up showing up at my apartment again last night and I'm kicking myself for not telling him to leave me alone and that I never want to see him again.

What kind of person just randomly shows up at their kid's door after years of no contact? There is no consideration for my boundaries or feelings.

Each visit he makes a point to say he "just wanted to see my dogs and if they still remember him."

It's just so fucking weird. I'm really struggling with preparing myself to have this conversation with him.

In my most recent session I was telling my therapist about my chronic suicidal ideation. After getting vulnerable about why I feel that way and explaining everything she hits me with, "So what are you going to do about it?"

It really rubbed me the wrong way. I'm sure she was just trying to motivate me but that's not what I needed.

Has anyone lived at Churchill Apartments in Fort Thomas? What was it like? I'm suspicious of the relatively affordable rent.

In addition to agoraphobia and panic disorder I struggle with PMDD (a severe form of PMS that causes intense anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation, mood swings, etc.) I'm also on the autism spectrum.

I just feel like I have too many things stacked against me and I'll never be able to recover or enjoy my life again. I don't know why I even try.

I feel like I'm trapped in a life that I don't want to live.

Every single person I'm interested in has a shitty ex that they aren't over or they just don't reciprocate.

I don't expect to be everyone's cup of tea, and I don't want to come across as a "nice girl". I'm not being inauthentic to get laid or whatever and I don't feel entitled to anyone, but I genuinely don't understand why the people I'm interested in never reciprocate.

I think that I'm a genuine, attractive, smart, funny, creative, emotionally intelligent person. I have a lot of empathy, compassion, and I like to make people feel seen, heard, understood, etc.

People always say things like, "Your worth isn’t defined by whether someone else sees it." but it's really fucking hard to not start internalizing that there's something wrong with me when this is what always happens.

ETA: I'm sorry, I should've included this in the beginning (I'm sleep deprived at the moment) but I'm a lesbian.