u/Educational-Royal244

Something happened today that really shook me.

I’ve been having recurring nightmares about my narcissistic family. In the dreams, I’m usually fighting with them, defending myself, or feeling like I’m in some kind of war with them.

But today was different.
I woke up actually speaking and shouting at my mother.

I was so immersed in the dream that I apparently continued talking/shouting after waking up.

My wife was next to me and became scared because she didn’t immediately understand what was happening.

It honestly scared me too once I realized I was awake.
During the day, I’m trying to move on from my family and the whole situation. I’m no-contact and I don’t want to keep living in that conflict. Yet somehow my brain seems to continue the fight while I’m asleep.

Has anyone experienced something similar after going no-contact with narcissistic parents?
Have you ever talked, shouted, or physically reacted during a nightmare about them?
Did it eventually stop, and what helped you?

ايه نصايح عشان وزنها يزيد بسرعه وتشد حيلها شويه؟

هل احد له تجربة مع هذا الدواء

هي دلوقتي في الأسبوع الـ38 من الحمل، والمفروض معاد الولادة كمان حوالي أسبوعين. ولسه مش عارفين إذا كانت الولادة هتكون طبيعية ولا قيصري.

من بداية الشهر التاسع تقريبًا بدأت ألاحظ عليها تغييرات كبيرة جدًا. بقت متوترة وقلقانة طول الوقت، ومزاجها وحش جدًا خصوصًا آخر أسبوعين، وبقيت حاسس إنها ممكن تكون مكتئبة.

كل ما أسألها إذا كانت كويسة أو في حاجة مضايقاها، بتقولي إنها بس تعبانة من الحمل وإن دي هرمونات الحمل. بس بصراحة أنا حاسس إن الموضوع أكبر شوية من مجرد تعب الحمل أو الهرمونات.

مراتي بطبعها كتومة جدًا ومش بتحب تتكلم عن مشاعرها، فبحاول أقعد معاها وأفتح معاها الكلام كل شوية، بس مش عارف هل ده كفاية ولا لأ.
بفكر أحجز لها مع طبيب نفسي أو متخصص، حتى لو مجرد تقييم، عشان أتأكد إنها كويسة ومفيش اكتئاب أو قلق محتاج تدخل. وفي نفس الوقت مش عايز أخوفها أو أخليها تحس إني شايف إن فيها مشكلة وهي ممكن تكون فعلًا بتمر بتغيرات طبيعية بسبب الحمل.

أنا بصراحة خايف تكون بتعاني في صمت ومش عايزة تتكلم.
للأمهات أو الآباء اللي مروا بحاجة مشابهة: تنصحوني أتكلم معاها الأول بشكل مباشر وأشجعها إنها تتكلم، ولا أحجز لها مع متخصص وأشوف رأيه؟ وإيه العلامات اللي خلتكم تعرفوا إن الموضوع مش مجرد هرمونات الحمل؟

أي نصيحة أو تجربة شخصية هتفرق معايا جدًا.

34M trying to figure out ADHD + possible autism… and today’s psychiatrist appointment was a mess.

So I had a psychiatrist appointment today, and honestly, it was pretty disappointing.

I went in hoping I could finally get some answers about my ADHD and also talk about the possibility that I might be on the autism spectrum.

Instead, I basically walked out with more questions than I went in with.

First, the appointment was online, and the doctor told me that because it was a telehealth appointment, they couldn’t prescribe ADHD medication. Apparently I have to physically go to the clinic for that.

Okay, fine. I can understand that.

Then came the ADHD part.
The doctor told me that I need some kind of family history or someone from my family who can confirm that I had ADHD symptoms as a child, because ADHD has to be present from childhood.

And I get the reasoning behind that, but I’m 34.
I didn’t know I had ADHD when I was a kid. My family didn’t know either. Nobody was keeping records of my childhood behavior in case I needed them 25 years later to prove what was going on inside my head.

I just grew up thinking I was lazy, distracted, unmotivated, forgetful, terrible at organizing myself, etc.

Then I brought up autism.
Apparently getting an autism diagnosis at 34 is a whole different level of difficult. The doctor basically explained that adult autism requires a lot of observation and assessment over time to make sure it’s actually Autism Spectrum Disorder.

Again, I understand that it shouldn’t be diagnosed casually. I’m not expecting a diagnosis because I took two online tests.

But I’m sitting there thinking:
So I’m old enough to have spent 34 years masking and compensating, but now I need childhood witnesses to prove what my brain was doing when I was 8?😂😂

And honestly, I don’t even know what to do next.
I’m currently taking an SNRI for depression, and I have to say, it has helped me A LOT. My depression has improved more than I expected, and it genuinely feels life-changing in that regard.

But the ADHD symptoms are still absolutely kicking my ass.
The anxiety, inability to focus, procrastination, executive dysfunction, motivation, organization… basically the whole ADHD package.

And now I’m also seriously wondering whether there’s autism involved too.

The timing is also kind of crazy because I’m literally just a few days away from becoming a dad to our first baby girl. So I really want to understand myself better before this huge new chapter starts.

I know online tests aren’t diagnoses. I know ADHD symptoms need to go back to childhood. And I understand why autism assessments need to be thorough.

I just feel stuck between “holy shit, this explains so much about my life” and “okay, now prove it.”
So I’d really like to hear from people who went through this as adults.

How did you establish your childhood ADHD symptoms if your family didn’t recognize them?
And has anyone here managed to get a proper autism assessment as an adult?

هل احد جرب أطباء نفسيون ف مستشفى الحياة الوطنى ف عنيزه؟

اعانى من الاكتئاب والقلق ومتشخص ADHD و BPD

حد يعرف مستشفى أو طبيب نفسي متخصص ف اضطراب فرط الحركة ونقص الانتباه للبالغين ف بريده؟ ويكون سعره معقول؟