u/EllyCamp

I posted last week how my bf of just under 5 months broke up with me through text. I don’t understand how he can move on and forget me in an instant like I was nothing to him. I know that it wasn’t a super long time that we were together, but we did a lot in that time and had good closeness. I’m wondering now was I ever even anything to him? Yes, there were problems that we were working on, but there was also closeness and intimacy. I still think of the moments when he thought that I was the best thing in the world to him, and now, it’s like those moments meant nothing. I’m still crying every day because I still see him smiling at me in my mind.

I posted last week how my bf of just under 5 months broke up with me through text. I don’t understand how he can move on and forget me in an instant like I was nothing to him. I know that it wasn’t a super long time that we were together, but we did a lot in that time and had good closeness. I’m wondering now was I ever even anything to him? Yes, there were problems that we were working on, but there was also closeness and intimacy. I still think of the moments when he thought that I was the best thing in the world to him, and now, it’s like those moments meant nothing. I’m still crying every day because I still see him smiling at me in my mind.

I’m 36F and will turn 37 in January. I just got dumped by a guy after we dated for just under five months. Prior to that, I had only one other relationship with someone whom I knew for 11 years. I endured countless broken promises and mistreatments until he finally betrayed me in a way that couldn’t be fixed. It took every fiber of my being to leave. Then, I met this new person through online dating. We shared all the same values and life goals, and we enjoyed each other’s company. And he broke up with me in a text saying that we are mismatched and that I deserve someone better. He said that he didn’t want to spend time discussing it and that it’s better for the both of us to just move on. I know that there were some issues that we were working on, but they weren’t monumental, and things were good the last time that we had talked and texted. So I was surprised when he broke it off suddenly. I begged him to at least give me a phone call for some closure and a real explanation, but he has not responded. I am losing hope that I will ever find the love of my life and have a family.

My new man has a penis that is bigger than average. He is extra thick at almost 2 inches wide, but for me, the width is not so much a problem as the length. He is almost 7 inches long when erect. My vagina is about four inches deep. I know because I used to do physical therapy with dilators. I’ve heard that the vagina is supposed to expand in length when aroused, but I have never been able to achieve this. It’s always the same length even when I’m turned on. So far, we have not done any penetration. I’m worried about how sex will be with him and I don’t know what to do. Is there anything I’m doing wrong in regard to getting turned on that my vagina is not getting longer?

When I was in elementary or middle school, we learned in history class that explorers to North America believed that there was a river that served as a passage between the Atlantic and Pacific Oceans, spanning from the east coast of North America all the way to the west coast. I remember that when the St. Lawrence River was discovered, people believed that they might have discovered that passageway. This fictional passage had a name, but I can’t remember. I’ve tried searching online also but haven’t found anything.

My dentist quoted me at about $850. Is this normal, because I can’t see how it could possibly be that much. Plus, my insurance doesn’t cover it. Is all of this normal?

I’m making a prime rib roast for Father’s Day. I plan on removing the bones for brining and tying them back on for cooking as is customary. Normally I dry brine, but I wonder is it possible to wet brine a rib roast to get good results?

I have been dealing with a rigid hymen for a little more than 2 years. You can read my original post on the topic here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Hymenissues/s/mymsZ1NVCx

Two years ago, I was unable to insert anything larger than a finger because my hymen was very inflexible. It literally felt like a tight string wrapped around my finger. At this point, I am still a virgin. Here is an update on my progress and what my next steps are.

Through physical therapy and the use of dilators over the course of more than a year, I was able to slowly stretch out my hymen to the point that I could fit a normal-sized penis. I had a set of 6 sizes of dilators and was able to fit the 5th size, which is about 1.3 inches in diameter. The 6th size was about 1.5 inches in diameter, but I was unable to get it to fit no matter how hard I tried. A year ago, I even tore my hymen in one spot while trying to stick it in, and the tear resulted in some scar tissue that still hurts to this day. My doctor suggested that I shouldn’t try to fit the 6th dilator and that I didn’t need it, anyway.

I stopped going to physical therapy a year ago. I’m starting my physical journey again because I have a new guy that I’m seeing, and he is extremely thick downstairs. He is actually even larger than my 6th dilator. I estimate that he is at least 2 inches in diameter. So I will have to work up to his size. He is already aware of my problem.

Since I was unable to fit my largest dilator, I figured that I would try to stretch myself by using an inflatable dildo. My physical therapist and I had discussed trying out an inflatable anal plug as a way to work up to the 6th dilator. I went to my local sex store and was unable to find an inflatable dildo, but I found an inflatable anal plug.

I tried the plug out for the first time 3 days ago. I inserted it, allowing it to stick out half way so that the bulb could stretch my opening. I pumped it just enough so that I could feel a stretch but not any major pain. After spending several minutes stretching and going back and forth inserting and removing the bulb, I decided to try inserting my largest dilator, and the dilator went in for the first time without a problem. It was a little painful at the opening, but once it was in, I was able to insert it fully all the way up my vagina and even thrust with it.

Since then, I have been practicing with my largest dilator every day. It still hurts to insert, but the pain is decreasing every day. The pain is only in the opening where my hymen is. I have no pain inside my vagina when I insert the dilator.

Once I can insert the largest dilator without any pain, my plan is to use the inflatable plug to expand my opening until it is wide enough to accommodate my man’s penis.

A guy that I’ve been talking to online is planning on having a first in-person date with me on Saturday. I live in the USA, and he’s from Canada. We’re not officially boyfriend and girlfriend yet. I’m worried that if he says that he’s coming for a date with me that he will not be allowed in because maybe they will think that he intends to immigrate illegally. He already has a return flight for Sunday and a hotel reservation. Should he say that he’s visiting a friend or that he’s here for tourism, or should he say that it’s for a date, or should he say something else?