Your mods are out of control and really need to be removed. If you put up with this, things will only get worse.
They are going to ruin this subreddit because they can’t handle criticism.
Since this is an inclusive sapphic space, let’s revisit some fun facts about the labrys lesbian flag and the history behind its symbolism:
1. It was created in 1999.
The labrys lesbian flag was designed by graphic designer Sean Campbell and first appeared in the June 2000 Pride issue of the Gay and Lesbian Times.
2. The violet background has explicitly sapphic roots.
Violets have been associated with love between women through the poetry of Sappho, whose work also gave us the modern words sapphic and lesbian.
3. The labrys predates the flag by decades.
Lesbian feminists adopted the double-headed axe as a symbol during the 1970s. It represented female strength, independence and resistance, drawing partly upon its ancient associations with Minoan goddesses and the Amazons.
4. The black triangle is a reclaimed symbol.
Under the Nazis, the inverted black triangle marked people classified as “asocial,” including women who violated prescribed gender and sexual norms. Lesbians later reclaimed it as a symbol of persecution, survival and defiance.
5. The flag was never originally a trans-exclusionary symbol.
Whatever associations some people may attach to it today, its historical elements concern lesbian identity, feminist resistance and the reclamation of symbols used against gender-nonconforming women. This symbolism remains meaningful for all women and continues to be embraced by many people who identify as sapphics.
Personally, I think it remains one of the most visually striking lesbian flags ever created. The modern sunset flag is pretty, but this one looks as though lesbian history might actually defend itself. 🪓
Since everyone is reppin’ this and I have a need for social validation I also decided to try it. I was hoping to get a pumpkin spice muffin too but I guess it’s probably a seasonal thing. So I got strawberry cheesecake.
The drink was surprisingly good. I mean just in general. I barely ever go to Tim Hortons so I had really low expectations but it was solid. The muffin was mostly kinda mid I thought but it might be that I was missing the pumpkin spice. 😞
Overall I’d give this drink a 7.5/10 and the muffin like a 6/10.
By the way the total cost was $10.06. 💀
Seems pretty expensive and I was wondering if I got overcharged or something but maybe I’m just out of touch with current pricing.
Thanks for your attention in this matter, Tim Hortons subreddit family.
Nihilism, at minimum, is the rejection of objective, inherent, or transcendent meaning or value. It does not logically require apathy, depression, passivity, or the belief that subjective preferences suddenly evaporate. You can think nothing has cosmic meaning and still love someone, write books, have standards, pursue beauty, care about suffering, or get annoyed at people who misuse Nietzsche to try to add depth to the emotional hangovers they have coupled with a lack of effort or capacity to understand a philosophical position.
I think a majority of the people posting and commenting on this subreddit think it’s a suicide support subreddit or a very deep gloomy vibes club.
Does anyone here actually read or do they just listen to Lil Bo Weep on repeat bed rotting with a piss jar and a pile of rolling papers?
I originally posted this on r/trans, where it received only a handful of dismissive replies before the moderators removed it within ten minutes. Since I was genuinely interested in more substantive discussion than simply being called “Blaire White,” I’m reposting it here in the hope that people may be more willing to engage with the argument itself:
I often see trans people claiming that they don’t owe anyone being passing or have any obligation to present themselves in a manner which is conventionally associated with the sex or gender they wish to be recognized as.
But I think the inverse also deserves discussion: nobody owes anyone recognition of an identity they do not perceive you to embody. Just as you have no obligation to conform to other people’s expectations in your presentation, other people have no moral or ethical obligation to revise their own internal models upon request or demand.
Passing isn’t important to everyone and one can certainly affirm an identity for themselves that isn’t congruent with their current presentation. That’s a matter of personal integrity. Likewise, it is for some people, a matter of personal integrity how they model someone else internally and feeling entitled to override their own internal model with yours when they two are not in agreement, isn’t necessarily reasonable or fair.
Other people do not have direct access to someone else’s internal sense of self. They initially read people through appearance, voice, mannerisms, context, and the same sex-linked cues they use to categorize everyone else. Sometimes that perception will align with how a person identifies, and sometimes it will not.
That does not mean deliberate cruelty or harassment is acceptable. Once someone has been told how a person wishes to be addressed, basic courtesy is usually reasonable. But there is an important difference between asking someone to treat another respectfully and demanding that their spontaneous perception match that person’s self-conception. One is a request about outward conduct; the other is a demand that someone subordinate their own perception, judgment, or understanding to another person’s self-conception.
Passing is not a moral obligation. But recognition is not something one can simply extract from strangers by insisting that they should perceive them differently. If a person is routinely read as male or female in ordinary life, that is information about how their presentation is being perceived, not necessarily evidence that everyone around them is hateful or malicious.
I think trans discourse sometimes collapses several distinct things into one:
Those are not interchangeable. Someone can respect a trans person’s dignity without genuinely perceiving them as the sex they identify as. Likewise, a person can choose courteous language without their underlying perception changing.
To me, “nobody owes you recognition” does not mean that trans people deserve humiliation or hostility. It means that identity is partly internal, while recognition is relational. It emerges between the self and the perceptions of other people. We can ask for courtesy, but we cannot command another person’s senses, intuitions, or private beliefs.
As a trans woman who is often welcomed into women’s spaces, and who predominantly participates in spaces where trans women are a minority, I have noticed a growing disconnect between trans women and cisgender women over what should be considered transphobic. The recurring point of tension, as I see it, is entitlement to recognition and the weaponization of accusations of bigotry when that recognition is withheld.
I do not think this tension will be resolved by demanding ever broader forms of affirmation or treating every refusal of recognition as hatred. It requires a clearer distinction between dignity, courtesy, perception, belief, and social recognition. Trans people are entitled to equal treatment and freedom from harassment. We are not entitled to control how every other person understands us internally, and pretending otherwise risks turning reasonable requests for respect into demands for ideological submission.
So, to be fair, I’ve never been particularly educated on alcohol. When I was first drinking age, I focused on vodka because I wasn’t a fan of beer. Mostly Smirnoff Ice and related coolers.
But lately I’ve taken an interest in learning more about the world of alcohol and I am struck by how often something is just whiskey under a different name. 😂
Like, I used to think there was all these entirely different drinks but I’m understanding more and more that a lot of the big names I’ve heard for years like Bourbon, Scotch, Rye, etc. are just a type of whiskey. Even Baileys apparently is just like whiskey, sugar and cream it seems like… I thought I had never drank whiskey but I was drinking Baileys for years without even knowing what it was.
I’m just surprised so many drinks are just whiskey from specific places using specific techniques. Whereas vodka has different variants too but all of them are called vodka. I wonder why it’s like that.