u/Enough_Community_447

I've become pretty good at noticing when I'm maladaptive daydreaming BUT every time I ground myself to reality the brain keeps chasing the daydream. No matter how hard I try to stay present the brain will just keep resisting and trying to go back into whatever story or scenario I had playing out in my mind. So no matter what grounding technique or breathing technique I use the daydream will continue whether I like it or not.

Honestly the worst about it is that along with this shit I have social anxiety and in my case they're probably two different problems! So either a) I'm anxious or b) I'm calm but my mind will start drifting off to somewhere

Is there a way for me to apply Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques to my Natural Language Processing techniques?

So I've recently started "doing" some shadow work and IFS. I've put them in quotation marks because the truth is that I haven't done shit except for meeting two different parts in the span of like 2 weeks and some interactions with the shadow here and there. I don't know how I'm supposed to do these things. I try to do some mindfulness meditation along with some body scanning yet nothing. I either fall asleep or wind up daydreaming. To give a little more insight on the problem, I've been doing these to fix specific problems that I am dealing with in my life, that mostly have to do with social anxiety. So during all of these sessions,in order to invite certain parts or the shadow,I think of thoughts like "what is causing my anxiety?","Why do I want to get rid of it?", "what is my end goal at fixing this?".Am I doing them wrong? Is there a different way of accessing those unconscious parts of yourself?

So I've been struggling with social anxiety for years now. I've tried coping with it through cbt and somatic experiencing but they didn't really work. So I guess I need to resort to alternative methods for helping me to cope with it. Now for starters I'd also like to give some more insight in regards to how this social anxiety is affecting me. There are three symptoms that hinder my ability to socialize: 1) blank head 2) numbness (I don't feel any emotions.) 3) my voice becomes very quiet and high pitched. So what are some nlp techniques that can help me with these? I don't remember having any trauma that made me socially anxious, so I don't think that something like "fast phobia cure" can help me.