u/Entire-Excitement508

I have this cousin let’s call her Nicole, when our beef happened I was a teenager and she was in her early 20s. When I was a teenager and older, I used to hold the biggest grudge against her for turning my friends against me and by her being an adult and how she should’ve known better, now in my early 20s I realized that those people already had a problem with me and if they chose to take Nicole’s word and not listen to my side of the story then why should I have respect for them? Why should I continue to surround myself with people who have no respect for me? Why would I respect people who have poor judgement?

I have this cousin let’s call her Nicole, when our beef happened I was a teenager and she was in her early 20s. When I was a teenager and older, I used to hold the biggest grudge against her for turning my friends against me and by her being an adult and how she should’ve known better, now in my early 20s I realized that those people already had a problem with me and if they chose to take Nicole’s word and not listen to my side of the story then why should I have respect for them? Why should I continue to surround myself with people who have no respect for me? Why would I respect people who have poor judgement?

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It was my friend's house party, and at first I didn't want to go, but I forced myself to go so I could learn how to socialize. At the time, it was 2022, and I was 17. Rocky road was maybe like 14. This other girl came, we will call her Skittles, and Rocky road and skittles were having a conversation in a room. I sat in front of them and just listened and watched them as they were having a conversation, and then the exchange each other's Instagram accounts, to which I was standing there, I wasn't expecting them to give me their Instagram, so I just stayed quiet. Still, they noticed how I was staring at them, and they thought that I wanted their accounts, and they didn't want to look like Mean Girls, so they ended up giving their accounts to me, and I ended up giving my accounts to them. And then skittle's wedding arrives, mind you, Skittles is like older than me, she was in her early twenties at the time. And I have this cousin, let's call her Nutella, who is married and is in her early twenties; she's the oldest person in our friend group. Skittles not in it, but it's basically me and her sisters and a bunch of other friends, so when the wedding happened nutella is actually a freelance makeup artist who offers free makeup services to friends and family. She ended up doing Skittles and her entire family's makeup, and since Rocky road and Skittles live in the same city rocky road was able to be there, and they went to Starbucks before the actual wedding happened. Rocky road ended up telling and confessing to what happened the day before her wedding, the whole Instagram situation, and that made Nutella mad at me, and every time she would look at me, she would give me the stink eye, and so would Rocky road. Without even listening to my side of the story, and being the bigger adult here, and maybe thinking like “oh, this is just a big misunderstanding,” she immediately thought of the worst out of a minor, and immediately turned her face against me. And skittles was upset during her wedding. Throughout the entire wedding, she just wasn't smiling, she looked either bored or was crying, and turns out the reason why is that when nutella did her makeup, skittles hated the way her makeup looked. And since Rocky road was like friends with everybody, and I mean everybody at that wedding, everyone just kind of turned against me, and I low-key felt alone, so then the next wedding comes, and Rocky road stood up and told the entire friend group about the Instagram situation, and Nutella encouraged her to do so. When I walked in the damage was already done nobody wanted to hear my side of the story and everyone the group became awkward against me. And Skittles sisters turned against me, and so did Rocky road's best friend. But then, when I tried to apologize to Rocky road for invading her privacy with the Instagram situation she was like, " Actually, no I wanted to follow you" like in a very fake way like you can tell when somebody is being fake nice to you and I was like oh okay I didn't know what to do so I just ended up gave her a thumbs up and just walked out. And skittles, even though she was married and already had a baby, she still felt some type of way about me, even though a year later after she had her baby, I messaged both of them in a group chat saying that I apologize for invading the privacy from what happened and I basically unfollowed both of them and called it a day my account was Private at the time. And even though after I apologized to both of them a year after the whole situation, Skittles still felt some type of way about me and was acting very fake to me, like, yeah, this is my baby, like being fake nice.

Warning: this is gonna be a long story so if you prefer to listen, copy and paste to a text to speech website.

It was my friend's house party, and at first I didn't want to go, but I forced myself to go so I could learn how to socialize. At the time, it was 2022, and I was 17. Rocky road was maybe like 14. This other girl came, we will call her Skittles, and Rocky road and skittles were having a conversation in a room. I sat in front of them and just listened and watched them as they were having a conversation, and then the exchange each other's Instagram accounts, to which I was standing there, I wasn't expecting them to give me their Instagram, so I just stayed quiet. Still, they noticed how I was staring at them, and they thought that I wanted their accounts, and they didn't want to look like Mean Girls, so they ended up giving their accounts to me, and I ended up giving my accounts to them. And then skittle's wedding arrives, mind you, Skittles is like older than me, she was in her early twenties at the time. And I have this cousin, let's call her Nutella, who is married and is in her early twenties; she's the oldest person in our friend group. Skittles not in it, but it's basically me and her sisters and a bunch of other friends, so when the wedding happened nutella is actually a freelance makeup artist who offers free makeup services to friends and family. She ended up doing Skittles and her entire family's makeup, and since Rocky road and Skittles live in the same city rocky road was able to be there, and they went to Starbucks before the actual wedding happened. Rocky road ended up telling and confessing to what happened the day before her wedding, the whole Instagram situation, and that made Nutella mad at me, and every time she would look at me, she would give me the stink eye, and so would Rocky road. Without even listening to my side of the story, and being the bigger adult here, and maybe thinking like “oh, this is just a big misunderstanding,” she immediately thought of the worst out of a minor, and immediately turned her face against me. And skittles was upset during her wedding. Throughout the entire wedding, she just wasn't smiling, she looked either bored or was crying, and turns out the reason why is that when nutella did her makeup, skittles hated the way her makeup looked. And since Rocky road was like friends with everybody, and I mean everybody at that wedding, everyone just kind of turned against me, and I low-key felt alone, so then the next wedding comes, and Rocky road stood up and told the entire friend group about the Instagram situation, and Nutella encouraged her to do so. When I walked in the damage was already done nobody wanted to hear my side of the story and everyone the group became awkward against me. And Skittles sisters turned against me, and so did Rocky road's best friend. But then, when I tried to apologize to Rocky road for invading her privacy with the Instagram situation she was like, " Actually, no I wanted to follow you" like in a very fake way like you can tell when somebody is being fake nice to you and I was like oh okay I didn't know what to do so I just ended up gave her a thumbs up and just walked out. And skittles, even though she was married and already had a baby, she still felt some type of way about me, even though a year later after she had her baby, I messaged both of them in a group chat saying that I apologize for invading the privacy from what happened and I basically unfollowed both of them and called it a day my account was Private at the time. And even though after I apologized to both of them a year after the whole situation, Skittles still felt some type of way about me and was acting very fake to me, like, yeah, this is my baby, like being fake nice.

Im not getting married anytime soon but i probably will. I have this cousin who is an absolute mean girl and did me so dirty when i was a teen and she was in her early 20s, for the way that she treated me, i dont want her to ever come to my parties and weddings at all. But the thing is that im good friends and close with her sisters and mom and i want them to come but i dont want her to be there. What should i do? should i hire security? should i do an RSVP thing?

Im not getting married anytime soon but i probably will. I have this cousin who is an absolute mean girl and did me so dirty when i was a teen and she was in her early 20s, for the way that she treated me, i dont want her to ever come to my parties and weddings at all. But the thing is that im good friends and close with her sisters and mom and i want them to come but i dont want her to be there. What should i do? should i hire security? should i do an RSVP thing?