Confused if i should tell my male bestfriend that I have feelings for him

So I have met few of the guys online offline here and there and nobody clicked like he did , we match a lot in opinions , past and etc , the fact that it's the first time in my whole 19 yrs of life that I'm able to open up to someone , this much that this person knows everything about me

It just feels too good and I can be myself with him , he's understanding , I'm emotionally vulnerable with him and he's too , he never makes me question myself that why I am like this or anything 🥹

I used to think I'm cold hearted or avoidant but it's just the person ♥️

The fact that he keeps mentioning that I am his type indirectly..... but the thing that's giving me second thought is that he is insecure and thinks I deserve someone better ( as a friend too) and won't accept me as his gf

We really share a precious bond , more like we healed something we didn't break and earlier when I didn't have feelings ( i told him that I don't like how in platonic friendship , one sided love occurs and I don't want to talk to that person anymore and stuff I was just pissed at smth) now I think he doesn't confess cuz he doesn't want to let go and all

To fact that our bond is so precious to each other, like we learned many things together from each other, like a lesson, and we healed parts of each other that we didn't break

also, guys, he's so sweet. So I got a pixie cut recently, and it got messed up. It ended up looking more like a weird bowl cut. And I was telling him how insecure I'm feeling, how I am avoiding going out in public and all of that. And within few days, he also got that same bowl cut😭♥️, to support me, so that I don't feel lonely, and I think it's just really sweet of him to do that.

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u/Equivalent-Rough4724 — 10 days ago

Should I confess that I have feeling for him (male bestfriend)

So, at first we were just friends we were normal friends, but then he started developing feelings for me, and I didn’t know about it. After that he suddenly disappeared out of nowhere for a month or 2 when he came back, he eventually confessed that he had feelings for me and that it had been hurting him because from my side it was just friendship while from his side, he had developed romantic feelings for me

Since the beginning he has always said that his type is someone like me especially personality wise. Basically, Im exactly his type but he never directly said that I was his type because at that time we were just friends ...he would indirectly compliment me and say things that made it obvious that someone with my personality was exactly what he liked

Now I’ve started developing feelings for him too and his type still seems to be the same. There are girls who keep hitting on him and trying to get him to block me or something. Obviously, they seem to have a problem with me because I’m really close to him. But he always says that he would block them and that he would never, ever block me. He says he doesn’t want anything to do with them and that he’s happy to have me in his life.

At the same time he has a lot of insecurities and low self worth. He often feels like he doesn’t deserve me not even as a friend. He says that I deserve someone much better than him and that I should find someone who truly deserves me

Earlier we were doing this fun how would you propose to your future partner? kind of thing And when it came to the confession part, he used almost exactly the same wording that he uses when he talks to me

So now I’m really confused...Does he still like me? Does he still have feelings for me or has he moved on and lost those feelings? Because some of the things he says to me are the exact same things he said when he originally confessed his feelings

Sometimes his insecurities and low selfworth get really bad, and he tells me that I should leave him find someone better than him, find someone I deserve or even find a new friend. I feel like he may have some childhood trauma or something that contributes to these insecurities, but I obviously don’t know for sure

I really don’t want to ruin our friendship....But I’ve started developing feelings for him, and now I’m wondering what I should actually do Does it sound like he still has feelings for me, or am I reading too much into everything?

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u/Equivalent-Rough4724 — 13 days ago

Should I confess him, that I have feeling for him? (male bestfriend)

So, at first we were just friends we were normal friends, but then he started developing feelings for me, and I didn’t know about it. After that he suddenly disappeared out of nowhere for a month or 2 when he came back....he eventually confessed that he had feelings for me and that it had been hurting him because from my side it was just friendship while from his side, he had developed romantic feelings for me

Since the beginning he has always said that his type is someone like me especially personality wise. Basically, Im exactly his type but he never directly said that I was his type because at that time we were just friends ...he would indirectly compliment me and say things that made it obvious that someone with my personality was exactly what he liked

Now I’ve started developing feelings for him too and his type still seems to be the same. There are girls who keep hitting on him and trying to get him to block me or something. Obviously, they seem to have a problem with me because I’m really close to him. But he always says that he would block them and that he would never, ever block me. He says he doesn’t want anything to do with them and that he’s happy to have me in his life.

At the same time he has a lot of insecurities and low self worth. He often feels like he doesn’t deserve me not even as a friend. He says that I deserve someone much better than him and that I should find someone who truly deserves me

Earlier we were doing this fun how would you propose to your future partner? kind of thing And when it came to the confession part, he used almost exactly the same wording that he uses when he talks to me

So now I’m really confused...Does he still like me? Does he still have feelings for me or has he moved on and lost those feelings? Because some of the things he says to me are the exact same things he said when he originally confessed his feelings

Sometimes his insecurities and low selfworth get really bad, and he tells me that I should leave him find someone better than him, find someone I deserve or even find a new friend. I feel like he may have some childhood trauma or something that contributes to these insecurities, but I obviously don’t know for sure

I really don’t want to ruin our friendship....But I’ve started developing feelings for him, and now I’m wondering what I should actually do Does it sound like he still has feelings for me, or am I reading too much into everything?

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u/Equivalent-Rough4724 — 14 days ago

Should I confess that I have feeling for him (male bestfriend)

So, at first we were just friends we were normal friends, but then he started developing feelings for me, and I didn’t know about it. After that he suddenly disappeared out of nowhere for a month or 2 when he came back, he eventually confessed that he had feelings for me and that it had been hurting him because from my side it was just friendship while from his side, he had developed romantic feelings for me

Since the beginning he has always said that his type is someone like me especially personality wise. Basically, Im exactly his type but he never directly said that I was his type because at that time we were just friends ...he would indirectly compliment me and say things that made it obvious that someone with my personality was exactly what he liked

Now I’ve started developing feelings for him too and his type still seems to be the same. There are girls who keep hitting on him and trying to get him to block me or something. Obviously, they seem to have a problem with me because I’m really close to him. But he always says that he would block them and that he would never, ever block me. He says he doesn’t want anything to do with them and that he’s happy to have me in his life.

At the same time he has a lot of insecurities and low self worth. He often feels like he doesn’t deserve me not even as a friend. He says that I deserve someone much better than him and that I should find someone who truly deserves me

Earlier we were doing this fun how would you propose to your future partner? kind of thing And when it came to the confession part, he used almost exactly the same wording that he uses when he talks to me

So now I’m really confused...Does he still like me? Does he still have feelings for me or has he moved on and lost those feelings? Because some of the things he says to me are the exact same things he said when he originally confessed his feelings

Sometimes his insecurities and low selfworth get really bad, and he tells me that I should leave him find someone better than him, find someone I deserve or even find a new friend. I feel like he may have some childhood trauma or something that contributes to these insecurities, but I obviously don’t know for sure

I really don’t want to ruin our friendship....But I’ve started developing feelings for him, and now I’m wondering what I should actually do Does it sound like he still has feelings for me, or am I reading too much into everything?

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u/Equivalent-Rough4724 — 14 days ago