u/Eros-chaotica

Just wanted to ramble about my experience as an older yumeshipper.

I'm 42. Ive been self/yumeshipping since I was a kid. Although I had a lot of different crushes in my teens, once I hit my 20s and life started to settle so did my fos. I started to have main ones that would last 5+ years exclusively at a time. Characters I'd loved as a teen became just fond memories as I outgrew them, often my age surpassing theirs.

I noticed that my attraction skewed to older or immortal characters. That my sona/self insert was more my core values and ideals and a version I recognised as my soul more than like me irl. There is so much boring and painful stuff for me irl with the autism, disabilities and chronic illness.

Aging is another factor as in my mind I havent changed since my 20s, I've grown but I'm still me. But now, in the mirror I can see age. My jaw is softer, my hair has grey and there are lines around my eyes. And sure, I look in my 30s and dress alt, but I see myself on the worst days, the sick days.

But my sona, Amara, she doesnt change, she doesnt get old, shes beautiful wish fulfilment and deeply loved by my fo, Demiurge. And that keeps me happy and hopefully will do for many many years.

So my take away for the young people is that getting older is inevitable but you dont have to stop doing what you love BUT the way you do it and what you like might change and thats ok. Whether its a trend or a life long thing, love and enjoy whilst you can. Do it for yourself, not the Internet, not engagement. The validation comes from within when you know you are happy.

Drop you and your fo and I'll draw them together. It will be a super rough 10 min sketch. Im trying to get quicker and also beat my perfectionism.

(Im nonsharing, so dont ask for Demiurge.)

EDIT: I am now done for the day but I will do this again. Apologies if I didn't get to you.

I was just wondering if anyone felt the same as I do. I often see people call yumeshipping a hobby where people actively choose their fo. Or I see people treating it as a real relationship/ being fictosexual.

And I'm neither of those.

I've been self/yumeshipping since I was 6 and its a core part of who I am (Im autistic, now in my 40s, and yes my therapist says this is normal). I dont get to choose who I fall in love with, it just happens and when it does it goes on for years. I am very in love but I use a self insert character, a 'what if I was born in their world' style oc, who represents me to ship with them. I love them as a favourite character and collector as myself and love them romantic and sexually through my oc. I am very aware they aren't real, they're fictional and in love with fictional oc me. That's how we can be together.

So its not a hobby for me as I cant just put it down, it is core to who I am, but its also not real. In this world I have a husband who I love and am also devoted to but in my fos world, I'm my oc and with them.

I was just wondering if anyone was the same.

Quick question; has anyone put rhinestones or gems on their plastic badge protectors and if so what glue did you use?

I've had the waterfall/waterwheel habitat up in 2 different locations from about 2 weeks after the game launched. I've even now got another one and Empoleons other habitat made. There is literally one in each location and I keep checking when it rains but its been around 2 months now and he still hasn't appeared.

Am I doing something wrong???