u/Euphoric-Aioli-2214

Hi friends,

I (31M) have been learning about my own autism and how it has shaped my life over the last several years. I have not “come out” to my parents yet, but looking back on my childhood it feels like it should have been incredibly obvious that I needed extra support due to neurodivergence.

I’m hoping to broach the subject with my father specifically in a fairly subtle manner, as I anticipate some considerable defensiveness and denial if I am direct about it. I feel fairly confident he is also autistic, but he is so deeply masking and steeped in ableist culture that this all will come as quite a shock to him.

I’m hoping to find a book, preferably either fiction or a memoir, that is from an autistic point of view or features an autistic protagonist without directly mentioning autism in the title or, ideally, in the first several chapters or the blurb on the back cover. I’m hoping to build some understanding and relatability with an autistic character before it is made known they are autistic.

Obviously a conversation with my dad directly is going to need to happen eventually, but our relationship is fraught enough that I’m hoping an outside resource will pave the way for a conversation that is actually productive and builds understanding without him putting up his guard or disengaging. Any other advice on strengthening our relationship, getting him into therapy, and unpacking past trauma with him would also be appreciated; I’m working with my therapist on these strategies as well.

I’ve considered The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, but I have some concerns about the author’s perspective as a neurotypical who hasn’t done a ton of research, plus the tension between the protagonist and his father might get the wrong message across? Please let me know if you’ve read this book and if you think it might be a good fit. I’m also shying away from books about nonverbal and “high needs” folks because the difficulties they face feel less relevant to someone who has passed as neurotypical for a lifetime.

Thanks for any and all advice, and good luck out there besties 💛

Hi y’all! Relative newbie here. I recently acquired a new pc intended primarily for music production plus basic browsing and streaming. Since GPU seems to be the most cost prohibitive part of a build and not really necessary for most of what I want to do, I opted to not spring for a GPU other than what’s already integrated in my processor. That being said, my specs are:

Lenovo ThinkCentre M70T
Processor: Intel Core i7 – 10700
(8 Cores \ 16 Threads, up to 4.8GhZ)
Memory: 32Gb DDR4
Video adapter: Integrated Intel UHD
Storage: SSD 2TB NVMe, DVD-RW
Windows 11 Pro

This all being said, I’ve been thinking about getting into Baldur’s Gate 3. I’ve been a console gamer my whole life, but I don’t own any of the newer gen systems BG3 is available on so I’m turning to my PC. Is it possible to play the game (in an enjoyable manner) without a dedicated GPU? Is there a (relatively) cheap eGPU or GPU that I should consider adding? Are there certain GPUs that will or won’t be compatible with my setup? Is there an easy way to use my PS4 controller to play on PC? I’m not super concerned about maxing out FPS or playing in 4k, but I’ll find it frustrating if I’m trying to play the game and it’s super laggy.

Thanks for the help and patience with someone who doesn’t know a ton about all this!

Hi y’all! Relative newbie here. I recently acquired a new pc intended primarily for music production plus basic browsing and streaming. Since GPU seems to be the most cost prohibitive part of a build and not really necessary for most of what I want to do, I opted to not spring for a GPU other than what’s already integrated in my processor. That being said, my specs are:

Lenovo ThinkCentre M70T
Processor: Intel Core i7 – 10700
(8 Cores \ 16 Threads, up to 4.8GhZ)
Memory: 32Gb DDR4
Video adapter: Integrated Intel UHD
Storage: SSD 2TB NVMe, DVD-RW
Windows 11 Pro

This all being said, I’ve been thinking about getting into Baldur’s Gate 3. I’ve been a console gamer my whole life, but I don’t own any of the newer gen systems BG3 is available on so I’m turning to my PC. Is it possible to play the game (in an enjoyable manner) without a dedicated GPU? Is there a (relatively) cheap eGPU or GPU that I should consider adding? Are there certain GPUs that will or won’t be compatible with my setup? Is there an easy way to use my PS4 controller to play on PC? I’m not super concerned about maxing out FPS or playing in 4k, but I’ll find it frustrating if I’m trying to play the game and it’s super laggy.

Thanks for the help and patience with someone who doesn’t know a ton about all this!

Does anyone have any experience with Alda Texteis percale sheets? They are made in Portugal and appear to be high quality but I’m having trouble finding any third party information on them.

Hi y’all, I’ve been researching sheets for a minute and the consensus seems to be that, like many things, the quality of Laura Ashley sheets has dramatically declined in recent years, becoming less soft, less thick, and less durable.

What I have yet to find a clear answer to, however, is when did this shift in quality occur? Not looking for an exact date, but what was the most recent LA sheet set that y’all purchased that was up to snuff?

Thanks for the help y’all :)