u/Even_List_8977

I recently came to the conclusion that I am not someone who wants to be a part of any group religious or spiritual.

I am not agnostic
I am not atheist
I am not Christian
I am not spiritual
I’m just a person 🤷

but idk how I feel abt god. I want to get to know god personally, but I also don’t really believe in a lot of the religions.

As of now, I feel like god is just this presence or a reflection. I’m not sure if I view god as a creator or a saviour of any sort. just a presence and a mirror.

god is the thing that just exists around us and we are also connected to god (i know this sounds super spiritual lol) but also my views change all the time. next week i may not even believe in god.

but for people who have deconstructed and still believe in god, what do you think?

hello!

I’ve was exploring quakerism near the end of last year and went to a meeting in my city and I didn’t really enjoy it. This was not in anyways because of the people, everyone was really welcoming and kind! But i did feel a little out of place considering that everyone there was elderly.

I think I would like to be a part of a community with other people closer to my age (i’m 18) and where it’s easier to relate to them especially transitioning into this.

I’m super nervous honestly, but i really do feel a connection with this spiritual belief and I’m coming back to it again months later.

I found another city with a quaker house and I wanted to go but I’m really nervous to go alone.

For now, I think i’ll try and join an online meeting but what do you recommend?

If you’re someone who didn’t really grow up with quakerism, how did u find ur transitioning?

I’m nervous but excited about this journey but any advice is appreciated :)

I spoke to my therapist a few weeks ago and i told him that I reallly wanted to start talking abt being abused as a kid.

I’m 19 and i asked him what the rules and regulations were on his end for topics like this.

for background information, i am still financially dependent on my parents and my family. And honestly still emotionally attached.

I started having chronic pain 4 years ago in highschool, and i’ve come to a point in my life where even thought it’s been improving through medication, and mindfulness techniques, i feel more ready to get into the midst of why it’s even there in the first place.

I’ve always struggled with a LOT of anxiety abt the littlest things. every single thing felt urgent and then i started having chronic pain and depression in highschool and almost ended my life.

I went to therapy (because my doctor was worried and said he could see i was suffering) but it was so hard. My parents not really seeing it as “a problem,” and just telling me to just pray about it or it being brushed under the rug and not being seen as a big deal. They only really started taking it seriously this past year even tho i was suffering before that. That lack of support when you’re sick can really make the sickness worse atleast that’s what i’ve experienced.

Anyways i’m ranting now.

But I did want to talk to my therapist abt it because it makes my life so much harder having to carry this burden. I am so angry, and confused. I’m so detached from my parents, even though we talk and can have good moments and good conversations, i never really feel like i’m fully there with them, because i know they only stopped hitting me because I grew up and stopped being a child, and I could stand up for myself, not out of their own sincerity. The overwhelm of this emotion makes my pain so much worse and makes me feel like less of a person.

He recommended that I make an anonymous consult of some sort, and see if they think it’s something worth investigating because I have a younger sibling who is younger than 16 years old so if i do say something, they might see this as something to look into.

A part of me still wants to do it. I know there’s that risk but how long can we keep pretending that these things haven’t badly affected our family and how we move around one another? But i’m worried about being selfish and making matters worse.

i’m even scared to write this because (and i know this is silly) i’m worried that me writing this down will make it stop happening.

but i do want to share this because it’s a huge milestone and i’ve kept it quiet with everyone in my life because it’s super important to me and I guess I don’t want outside comments so I don’t doubt myself.

But with any of you familiar with Alan Gordon’s Pain Reprocessing book “The Way Out,” I decided to order it like 2-3 months ago and I really felt like I had nothing to loose.

I decided to do the somatic practice and try to change how my brain views the pain and it’s helped me tremendously! I don’t even think about it as often anymore. And even when I do have a flare up, I freak out less and I know how to calm myself down and lean into the pain instead of running from it and i’m very proud of myself.

I started having pain almost 4 years ago, and I’m 18 now.

To be honest I still have my doubts and idk what my future is going to be like. I still have really bad days, but I have more good days now and I never thought I would.

I’m still taking my meds and they are working (i’ve only been on them for 6 months or so) so I’m trying to work with them and they r helping me lots.

I’m trying not to worry tbh but i guess I just wanted to leave this there because Im proud of myself and no one else will tell me but I wanted to say something for myself.

anyways, thanks for listening :)

Hi! I’m 18 and I’ve been wanting to open up my own home based bakery for a while.

I feel like there are a lot of things that I say I wanna do but I never do them and this is one of those things I rlly wanna try!

I don’t bake super often, but when I do I really enjoy it. I’m thinking of opening specifically a donut shop.

I don’t really know where to start, to be honest I sorta just clicked on the first subreddit related to baking.

I’ve been watching a lot of videos on the business part of things when it comes to opening something like this up and it’s honestly overwhelming. I really don’t know where to start.

Would it be better if i got better at baking first and improved my skills before I opened up shop or even started organizing it?

I’ve looked through this redditing page and I have to say all of you are just so talented!!

Are there any general tips?

Thank you!

i’m just curious bc i’m a queer kid with homophobic parents and idk if it’s safe to come out to them