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I am a 45-year-old mother with two sons, aged 19 and 15. They are good-hearted boys and generally doing reasonably well academically, though my younger son could put in more effort.
My main struggle is that they do very little household work, have poor hygiene and organizational habits, and spend a lot of time on their phones. I feel like I am constantly managing everything at home and repeatedly reminding them to complete even basic tasks. It has become emotionally and physically exhausting for me.
I would like guidance on:
Setting healthy boundaries at home
Creating clear expectations and responsibilities
Enforcing rules consistently without constant conflict
Reducing excessive phone use
Helping them become more responsible and independent
I want to improve the home environment while still maintaining a loving relationship with them.

I am a 45-year-old mother with two sons, aged 19 and 15. They are good-hearted boys and generally doing reasonably well academically, though my younger son could put in more effort.
My main struggle is that they do very little household work, have poor hygiene and organizational habits, and spend a lot of time on their phones. I feel like I am constantly managing everything at home and repeatedly reminding them to complete even basic tasks. It has become emotionally and physically exhausting for me.
I would like guidance on:
Setting healthy boundaries at home
Creating clear expectations and responsibilities
Enforcing rules consistently without constant conflict
Reducing excessive phone use
Helping them become more responsible and independent
I want to improve the home environment while still maintaining a loving relationship with them.

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I have very mixed feelings about my husband, and I am trying to understand myself.

When he is sober, I really love and admire him. But the reality is that he has also physically and verbally abused me, cheated multiple times, insulted me, and treated me in ways that have deeply hurt me. At the same time, he has been financially supportive and our life has been stable in that sense.

We live in different countries now. I feel scared about living with him again, but I still find myself wanting him to talk to me every day, to love me, and to keep that emotional connection alive. Despite everything, I still see myself as someone who cares for him and wishes him well.

What confuses me the most is this: I can see the harm, I can feel the fear, yet I still cannot bring myself to hate him or fully let go emotionally.

Why am I feeling this way? What is going on with me?
Pls help me

Married for 20 years. Ours has mostly been a long-distance marriage, and my husband is an active alcoholic whose drinking has been getting worse over the years. He has done a lot of hurtful and chaotic things to me emotionally.
Seven years ago citing my health reasons, I moved with my two boys to my native country to get some peace and stability. My elder son is in college and my younger one will soon be there too, so financially this is a very stressful phase of life.
Now my husband is threatening to quit his job and come live with us. I live in constant panic thinking about it. I don’t feel emotionally safe living with him when he is drinking.
The confusing part is that I still love him. When he is sober, he can be extremely loving, caring, and affectionate, and I think that’s what keeps me emotionally attached after all these years.
I also haven’t considered divorce seriously because I’m not financially independent right now, though I do have some property in my name. The upcoming expenses for my children scare me.
I feel stuck between fear, love, guilt, financial insecurity, and exhaustion. Has anyone else dealt with something similar? How did you emotionally handle the uncertainty and panic? Should I believe his love when he is sober .

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