Best friend ghosted me for nearly 2 months after I followed up on hanging out so I called it out when they came back and they left me on delivered for another 3 1/2 months so I didn’t go to their graduation :( Am I wrong for not putting it aside to be there for them during an accomplishment?
Genuinely asking from my post(please read for context), if you follow up w ur best friend to hang out after talking multiple times a week for a year and they leave you on delivered for nearly 2 months, when they come back and pretend like nothing happened, how is it childish to call it out? Should I have just not highlighted the conflict when they came back to ask how I was without acknowledging the prior message and just slowly distance myself? Or should I have asked how they’ve been back before showing my irritability from feeling like their mixed signals gave that they just want access to me without reciprocation?? This wishy washyness was making me feel like they weren’t genuine about remaining best friends
Help!!! Talked to my best friend multiple times a week while they were studying abroad. We mentioned when they got back in town to hang out because it’s been about a year since we seen each other. Once they got back in town I reached out again and said we should hang out and they brushed it off and left me on delivered for almost two months. I told them happy birthday between then and left it at that. When they reached back out asking how I’ve been I got irritated and replied calling them out on how they disappeared. I’ve been going back and forth from thinking I was valid and thinking that I take things too personally although this person takes it seriously when people don’t reply back to them. I was hurt because this person often has double standards even though they have a good heart. They never replied to that message of me calling them out, but though it may have been a little dramatic I called it out because I cared not because I never wanted to talk again.
Fast forward to May they graduated, I didn’t personally give them a personal congratulations, but did their friends. A week later(yesterday) I feel terrible and really miss them and called to apologize on my behalf and talk things out but they didn’t answer. They’re not a hateful person but I feel like they hate me for not being there for them during this big milestone.
Thinking if I should send a text and say:
Called to personally congratulate you and talk it out. I’ll be here if u ever want to, been missing my friend for years(me being sarcastically exasperate)
But I need help on what to say without looking like a fool, especially if they reply and say to leave them alone or ignore me leaving me with a double text from the last message that was left on delivered. Should I make the text more serious? Help!!! Would it be the right move to even text at all?? I don’t want to cross boundaries by not taking a hint
Help!!! Talked to my best friend multiple times a week while they were studying abroad. We mentioned when they got back in town to hang out because it’s been about a year since we seen each other. Once they got back in town I reached out again and said we should hang out and they brushed it off and left me on delivered for almost two months. I told them happy birthday between then and left it at that. When they reached back out asking how I’ve been I got irritated and replied calling them out on how they disappeared. I’ve been going back and forth from thinking I was valid and thinking that I take things too personally although this person takes it seriously when people don’t reply back to them. I was hurt because this person often has double standards even though they have a good heart. They never replied to that message of me calling them out, but though it may have been a little dramatic I called it out because I cared not because I never wanted to talk again.
Fast forward to May they graduated, I didn’t personally give them a personal congratulations, but did their friends. A week later(yesterday) I feel terrible and really miss them and called to apologize on my behalf and talk things out but they didn’t answer. They’re not a hateful person but I feel like they hate me for not being there for them during this big milestone.
Thinking if I should send a text and say:
Called to personally congratulate you and talk it out. I’ll be here if u ever want to, been missing my friend for years(me being sarcastically exasperate)
But I need help on what to say without looking like a fool, especially if they reply and say to leave them alone or ignore me leaving me with a double text from the last message that was left on delivered. Should I make the text more serious? Help!!! Would it be the right move to even text at all?? I don’t want to cross boundaries by not taking a hint