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I am from the UK, my partner grew up in Italy but has some French relatives so also citizenship in France. We met and have lived in France for 8/10 years. We now have two very small children.

Since my last child was born, I've really struggled with living here in France. For the first time since leaving I've had the idea of moving back to the UK. Now the idea is there, it won't leave me.

Obviously we don't have any family here, and our social network has got smaller and smaller. I feel very isolated and just have fallen out of love with France. My partner loves his job here but his commute sucks, and housing around Paris is just ridiculously unaffordable. My french has improved a lot, but Im not completely fluent and regardless I just know I'm never going to be french.

My partner is not sold on the idea of the UK but I just feel this pull now to move.

What do you think? Persuade him to give the UK a go? Would he struggle if he's not 100% in it? Can I push through and keep going in France? Do something different..? Looking for advice from any couples who've had a similar situation.

I have been breastfeeding my 4m old and over the last month it's become complicated.

I felt my supply drop around the 12week mark (as I expected) but I think due to the constant heatwaves here and general exhaustion it hasn't really picked back up as i hoped. I've also been sick this last week with diarrhea and vomiting and so we started giving some formula. I've already burnt through the freezer stash. I'm still pretty weak from the illness now.

With my first (who's 20m now) I had a similar problem after 12 weeks but I pumped etc to get my supply back up and managed until 6 months before combo feeding for a couple of months more.

Now I just don't know what to do. I could try power pumping to get my supply back up. I could just keep nighttime feeds and a morning and evening pump? And give formula the rest of the time?

I'm finding trying to pump with my toddler nearly impossible and super exhausting and also not knowing if I'm giving pumped milk or formula stressful. I'm just exhausted and stressed and sad I can't breastfeed the whole way and don't know what to do...

Any advice appreciated as I just can't seem to find solutions right now.

I'm posting here as I'm British but have lived aboard for the past 8 years in France. My partner is also an expat in France but he's not British.

We've found ourselves pretty isolated here and with two small kids.. 2under2 right now, the youngest is 3 months. Friends have moved away, and others just aren't as reliable as I thought. No family and no real support system. I feel like the only thing keeping us here is my partners job which he is v attached to.

I'm struggling so badly right now.. our apartment is too small and I dislike our neighbourhood as there is limited stuff to do and we don't have a car. We obviously don't have family or friends houses to go visit. We don't have any break cause there's noone to help. My perspective completely changed about living here after having kids.

I started seeing a therapist about PPA about 7 weeks ago and from my perspective she agrees I do have anxiety that started after my first child was born that has exasperated the situation we're in but the sessions have brought up a lot of stuff that I've repressed about my relationship and feeling lonely and isolated here.

I'm trying to tell my partner this and I feel like he's not hearing me. He always has reasons why we can't move yet - he even agreed we're stuck here right now in this situation.

For the first time last week I wanted to move back to the UK and started imagining the life we could have there. I know we wouldn't see my friends and family all the time but we'd have some people there at least.

My partner hasn't taken this well and we had the biggest fight last night and I'm feeling so so low, like I don't have any options to make my life better right now. I'm feeling like a shit mum cause I'm not fighting anymore to convince myself life here is good. I'm struggling to even get the energy together to take the kids to the play park again. If we don't go we're trapped in the small dark apartment.

I think I need to go to the doctors and ask about PPD but part of me thinks that doesn't solve the living situation or a partner who doesn't want to listen to me.

Sorry this is long and thanks for reading

I got the Stokke Sleepi Mini for my second baby.. and she's too big for it at 14 weeks!

Thought we'd get six months use out of it before needing the extension kit but nope .. LO is long for her age and learnt how to scoot around and rotate super early and now can turn back to front which means she keeps hitting her head on the bars and getting her legs stuck.

With my first we just got a crib where you could adjust the height of the mattress and it worked better and was cheaper by a ridiculous amount.

It's pretty but so not worth it!

In the midst of the heatwave and my apartment has sat at 29° for the past 24 hours.

Since last night I felt my milk supply drop so continued to breastfeed 12 week old as much as she wanted and also offered some bottles of expressed milk to make sure she got enough.

For the first time I've woken up to feed her and her nappy is completely dry - so she's gone from 10pm to 3.30am with no pee.

Is she dehydrated and if so what do I do?! I'm really worried. She just feed but not ravenously or anything and went back to sleep.

EDIT: so I basically stayed up watching her and couldn't sleep and by 6am I woke her to feed again which she did and there was a little pee! Then 30 mins later she did a pretty big wet poop so I think that's where some of the liquid was going! Since then she's been feeding pretty normally and had a few little pees.

I'm still a bit worried as it's not her 'normal' and also she's a bit fussy and I always think it's cause she wants more milk (I do sometimes have dips in supply).

I will keep monitoring! Thank you for all the helpful comments

I am in the 2under2 club and am figuring out day by day outings with the two of them now I'm solo parenting full time. I saw most advice was to wear baby and put toddler in the stroller or walk with them. Which is what I've been doing so far but...

What happens when toddler refuses to get back in the stroller/has meltdown/hurts themselves?

Any and all advice welcome cause im not sure about brining him each time he doesn't wanna get back in when it's time to leave the park..

I have a fresh 10 week old and and 18month old. So far I've had help as dad was off on paternity leave and then my parents came to stay to help. I'm on day two solo and it's been rough to say the least.

The thing I've been stressed about since the day I found out I was pregnant is taking both out. I resisted getting a double pram/stroller as our apartment is very small and it will be hard (but not impossible) to fit it in. I really don't wanna buy stuff we don't need/use that much because of the lack of space and we also don't have lots of spare cash either.

My son got a globber from my parents which is a push along seated scooter so he goes everywhere on that since a month or so. That's fine when there is two adults as baby can go in the carrier or pram and he can be pushed along.

I tried yesterday and today pushing him along while carrying baby and their backpack and it was horrible - so physically exhausting and when my son wants picking up I can't. Similarly when he refuses to get on the scooter I'm stuck. He had the biggest meltdown yesterday in the middle of the street and I was stuck. We were all crying at one point.

I also thought about getting a buggy board with a seat for the pram and have him on that/walking but it just doesn't contain him and if we have tantrums it's the same issue.

So I don't know what to do/buy and will literally take all advice! With the small apartment and no garden and no car we need to get out of the house multiple times a day or I'll lose the few remaining parts of my sanity.