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I’m 17f and feel like i can’t move past letting someone get into your head and completely question myself i spoke to a guy for 2 years he is 22 now. And i know its wrong now i didnt realise then but after speaking about it people told me i got groomed. But now i accepted that, the hardest thing had been moving on since this i struggle to sleep at night and have completely lost my appetite because i feel so stupid that i let someone like this into my life who is such a loser that he can’t even speak to women his own age. Even though i understand that i still feel completely destroyed by the situation i use to enjoy reading and painting and since that everytime i do it i just cry and feel completely defeated i dont even understand myself and whats causing this. My biggest worry is i wont forget him or atleast when i think of him my heart wont drop and my stomach wont hurt. I never want to feel the pain i ever felt from this again but i think im been ridiculous and stupid. When i expressed how i felt he just labelled me as mentally ill and used my friendship drama which i told him about against me saying this is why this happened and saying nobody wants to talk to me or likes me it’s really made me question myself and he said for me to stop feeling that way i should just d3e i really feel terrified at the thought of been 20 or just older and still been affected by this situation and im so annoyed at myself for letting this happen to me. does anybody have a situation like this and did you move past this

I’m 17f and how to move past letting someone get into your head and completely question yourself i spoke to a guy for 2 years he is 22 now. And i know its wrong now i didnt realise then but after speaking about it people told me i got groomed. But now i accepted that, the hardest thing had been moving on since this i struggle to sleep at night and have completely lost my appetite because i feel so stupid that i let someone like this into my life who is such a loser that he can’t even speak to women his own age. Even though i understand that i still feel completely destroyed by the situation i use to enjoy reading and painting and since that everytime i do it i just cry and feel completely defeated i dont even understand myself and whats causing this. My biggest worry is i wont forget him or atleast when i think of him my heart wont drop and my stomach wont hurt. I never want to feel the pain i ever felt from this again but i think im been ridiculous and stupid. When i expressed how i felt he just labelled me as mentally ill and used my friendship drama which i told him about against me saying this is why this happened and saying nobody wants to talk to me or likes me it’s really made me question myself and he said for me to stop feeling that way i should just d3e i really feel terrified at the thought of been 20 or just older and still been affected by this situation and im so annoyed at myself for letting this happen to me. does anybody have advice on how to move past this

Ok for context when i was 15 i started speaking to a guy who was 20 long story short i started to admire him and thought he was a good friend. 1.5 yrs later he started been inappropriate wanting pictures from me and just all round only talking if it was that way. I was upset because of that i thought he was my friend and felt hurt i tried to express it and got insulted. so i told people he knew what he did to me his university friends , brother and sister. He messaged me and said if i tell anyone else he will tell the police and he said to me he already made a formal complaint and that if i tell anyone else he will file the report. He said this is in my hands now stop and live in peace or he tells the police. i’m 17 and he is 22 now by the way.

i just don’t know what to do. i’m F17 and the guy is M22. I spoke to him for 2 years for the first 1.5 years i genuinely believed he was my friend and i know that is stupid now. I looked up to him and admired him because i thought he was some sweet nerdy guy he even described him and his friends as “wholesome nerds”. I really thought he was smart and that’s why i liked him. After 1.5 yrs he started been inappropriate and the only time he would talk to me is if that was the situation. Or if he wanted pics he would talk and pretend to seem interested in what i say. I was hurt by this because after some time i realised he didn’t care and probably never did. Since this situation ive became really depressed i struggle to eat or sleep or do activities i use to enjoy art and reading but nothing is enjoyable anymore it feels like he’s sucked the life out of me. I told his friends his sister and brother that he asked me for pics and was inappropriate when i was underage it made him super super mad. He message me said “you’ll never get the old me back.” i then explained why im upset he said that im the whrw who sent them and said i will only stop if i go to d3e. Then he message me again apologising i said can you say what you did and he said no because im a bad person who will screenshot it. Then a day later he message me threatening the police saying he already told them in a formal compliant and if i tell anyone else he will file a police report. I already am really anxious so it scared me a lot. I don’t know what to do because i still struggle to get my appetite back or sleep at night and my biggest worry is that i’ll never be able to forget this guy and won’t be able to move on

Feel hopeless because of this situation.

Sorry for repost i just don’t know what to do. i’m F17 and the guy is M22. I spoke to him for 2 years for the first 1.5 years i genuinely believed he was my friend and i know that is stupid now. I looked up to him and admired him because i thought he was some sweet nerdy guy he even described him and his friends as “wholesome nerds”. I really thought he was smart and that’s why i liked him. After 1.5 yrs he started been inappropriate and the only time he would talk to me is if that was the situation. Or if he wanted pics he would talk and pretend to seem interested in what i say. I was hurt by this because after some time i realised he didn’t care and probably never did. Since this situation ive became really depressed i struggle to eat or sleep or do activities i use to enjoy art and reading but nothing is enjoyable anymore it feels like he’s sucked the life out of me. Because of this I told his friends his sister and brother that he asked me for pics and was inappropriate when i was underage it made him super super mad. He message me said “you’ll never get the old me back.” i then explained why im upset he said that im the whrw who sent them and said i will only stop if i go to d3e. Then he message me again apologising i said can you say what you did and he said no because im a bad person who will screenshot it. Then a day later he message me threatening the police saying he already told them in a formal compliant and if i tell anyone else he will file a police report. I already am really anxious so it scared me a lot. I don’t know what to do because i still struggle to get my appetite back or sleep at night and my biggest worry is that i’ll never be able to forget this guy and won’t be able to move on what should i do.

TL;DR: Should I stop talking to anything related to this or continue?

For context i’m 17f and he is 22m i spoke to this guy for 2 years for a good 1.5 yrs i believed he was my FRIEND he would always act like he cared and loved me obviously i was just stupid. Anyway when i’m 16-17 he starts to ask for inappropriate pics and it just seemed that was the only time he would talk to me and since i spent that long thinking it was someone who cared for me i was really upset.
I messaged some of his university friends what he had been saying to me and his actions. I spoke to a few of them for 2 weeks. Today he messaged me saying if i don’t stop talking or telling them he will go to the police tomorrow morning. He said he already has spoke to them and if it continues file a report.

For context i’m 17f he is 22m we talked for 2 years i genuinely believed he was my friend who cared and loved me for a good 1.5 years. He then started been inappropriate and would only talk to me then. This upset me because i believed he was my friend. I then expressed that to him and he basically just said i’m a wh0re and anybody i tell about this will think i am. Anyway i was upset so i messaged his university friends about his actions and i have talked to a few for about 2 weeks. Today he messaged me and said he will report me to the police if i don’t stop and that he already told the police and tomorrow morning he will file a report if i dont stop. Im really stressed did i overreact to the situation by telling his friends? Should i jsut have said nothing. Is he in the right

For context i’m 17f he is 22m we talked for 2 years i genuinely believed he was my friend who cared and loved me for a good 1.5 years. He then started been inappropriate and would only talk to me then. This upset me because i believed he was my friend. I then expressed that to him and he basically just said i’m a wh0re and anybody i tell about this will think i am. Anyway i was upset so i messaged his university friends about his actions and i have talked to a few for about 2 weeks. Today he messaged me and said he will report me to the police if i don’t stop and that he already told the police and tomorrow morning he will file a report if i dont stop. Im really anxious did i overthink the situation is a big deal for no reason and just shouldn’t have ever told anyone.

For context i’m 17f and he is 22m i spoke to this guy for 2 years for a good 1.5 yrs i believed he was my friend he would always act like he cared and loved me obviously i was just stupid. Anyway when i’m 16-17 he starts to ask for inappropriate pics and it just seemed that was the only time he would talk to me and since i spent that long thinking it was someone who cared for me i was really upset.
I messaged some of his university friends what he had been saying to me and his actions. I spoke to a few of them for 2 weeks. Today he messaged me saying if i don’t stop talking or telling them he will go to the police tomorrow morning. He said he already has spoke to them and if it continues file a report. Am in the wrong?