Beginning classes soon and intend to hang on the words of all my preceptors and professors. That being said, does anyone have any holy grail, online resources they used during school? Big fan of videos and interactive diagrams. Maybe a specific YouTube Channel that explains anatomy/perfusion topics very well.
I (27f) just moved in with my bf (28m). One year together. We are both acts of service people and sheesh it is showing. The problem for me is that he swoops in on everything I’m working on (cooking, washing dishes, fixing things, taking out the trash) and it makes me feel incompetent. I mentally know that it’s just his way of caring, but I can’t help but feel like I’m doing a bad job and he must get his hands on whatever is happening.
Furthermore, I’m not opinionated but when it comes to certain tasks there are more/less logical ways of doing things and I find my way is often most logical. He will disagree or question it, and then “his way” is much more strenuous/round about/less efficient. When this happens I feel dismissed. I’m a very go with the flow person, so when I speak up to offer my advice and it isn’t taken it’s kind of like “why won’t he believe me???” That’s what my brain says, which bruises my ego.
These problems are making me frustrated which is affecting my attitude which is affecting my relationship
Tale as old as time. “15” minute study break turns into a 1 hour doomscroll. I must be stopped. The more niche the better! I’ve thought of stretching with instrumental and air squats to get the blood flowing
I’ve just read a post about a woman who, in her mid 30s/perimenopause, was aghast at her sudden change of mind, now wanting kids after being adamantly childfree for all her life. Some time passed and now she’s back to her old ways of thinking, no kids and happy with that decision, sailing off into menopause. Are hormones really so big at play in reproductive decision-making, and if so, why and how? Oxytocin?
We all know the numerous ways in which women have been oppressed by religion. How has religion liberated women? Open to answers of any religion. Could be attitudes towards women, systematic empowerment, change at the policy level.
I prefer water over almost anything, so getting my daily water intake is never a problem. I struggle going to bed on time and it’s a push every. single. night to be well rested the next day
I think through everything before making decisions, and I’m only now conceptualizing the “motherhood penalty.” I’m embarking on a high-demand career pathway, but now in a relationship that could lead to children, and I’m anxious about the future. And to be honest, I feel resentful that I’m even having these thoughts, because I wish I didn’t have to choose.
I believe that if it’s something I value, then there’s always a way to maintain it. Apart from being a mother (something I would value, should I choose it), I value my identity, my health/physical body, and my career. But to juggle all four of those things?? To maintain my identity as more than just a mother, but as a friend, sister, daughter, and partner. To claw my way back from the toll that it takes on your body, somehow finding time to exercise and strength train. To maintain my career, which requires not taking too much time off according to board certification. And finally, most importantly, bond and raise with the tiniest, most vulnerable human who didn’t ask to be here, and instead I brought forth into the world. I would owe them that.
Even with the best, most supportive partner in the world, I’m wary of making all of that possible. And the sacrifice of having to choose… it just makes me sad that if I were the other partner I more reasonably *could* make a majority of that happen. No physical toll, no breastfeeding. I guess they don’t call it a sacrifice for nothing. Just feeling discouraged.
Anniversary coming up, want to get him a watch. He sent me 3 watches like 6 months ago (appx $300-600) that he likes. It would be so easy to just pick one of those (I’d decide based on which ones he could wear most with his wardrobe), but I don’t love that method.
What if he changed his mind? Likes one much more than another? New ones have dropped? So I guess the question is how do I subtly bring up watches LOL and get more intel. I want him to absolutely love it and not just settle (why get someone something they only kind of like?) so I guess I’m not above just outright asking, but a surprise is so much more fun.
It is not a novel statement to say that I hate being physically uncomfortable. The real question would be who does??? I hate headaches, I hate stomachaches, I hate cramps, I hate nausea. I try to minimize all these things through diet and exercise and water drinking and blah blah.
It seems pregnancy is kind of a cost-benefit thing (?) How badly do you want a child to be able to put up with all of these physical tolls? From extremely mild to extremely difficult, it seems there is still a physical cost to be paid.
How did you reconcile with choosing pregnancy knowing there would be this cost, or did you not think of it at all? How do you do it again knowing what’s to come from the first experience?
I need blunt input. To set the scene, mid 20s female who is thinking about children. It wouldn’t be for another 4-5 years.
I don’t have any reliable maternal or paternal figures left in my life. No grandparents, no aunts/uncles, and one elderly father. I have INCREDIBLE friends, but we are all highly successful young adults working full time, and they will be starting their own families one day. Long story short, friends who get together once a week for fun and leisure. Very different from a retired mother who can drop everything for their grandchild this upcoming weekend.
My partner is incredible and would make an incredible father. But he is a father and will not understand what it means to be a mother without a mother. He has a mother left, similar to my lack of family, and that is all. I don’t know if we’ll live in the same area, what her retirement plans are, or how readily involved she’d be with a grandchild. I’m putting her in the box of “couple times a year.”
So where does that leave us? I know people move to new cities and form their families not knowing anyone in the area. What was it like to truly do it all without a grandparent or aunt that watches the baby in the afternoon or on the weekends so you can feel sane for once? What is it like to be a mother without close maternal connections?