u/Far_Path7921

I’ve tried alcohol, drank a lot, and then when it got to a point where it was probably damaging to me, my body started to reject it. I’m talking about the whole experience being ruined. Throwing up immediately, falling asleep within an hour, then waking up with a horrendous hangover ruining my next day as well.

Happened with cigarettes as well. As soon as I started becoming slightly dependent the simple smell began to make me nauseous. At first I had to stay away from certain brands, then I could only stand menthols, then nothing at all.

I’m not a regular smoking, I’ve never had a nicotine addiction in any form, maybe a mind dependents at times, but it comes and goes.
Only thing cigarettes have ever helped me with is anxiety attacks, and uncontrollable crying.
As soon as I take a few hits I can no longer cry. Works like 90% of the time. Dk if this is a common thing or I’m the only one.

This is the second time he’s ended things. The first time I took him back. I still remember how it felt to be back with him and I want that so badly. I would lay next to him sometime and think about how much pain I was in when we were apart and hold onto him tighter.

I want to either get back, or just be able to accept this as reality, but I can’t do either. I know at some point e point he will text me to see our dog who’s currently living with me at my mom’s house. I look forward to that day.

Have i just not found the right person yet?

I didn’t love my first boyfriend at 15. I was barely even attached and felt barely anything towards him. After that I went out with a guy at summer camp for a week. In the moment I hadn’t felt that spark, but I had grown attached to the idea of him so after camo when I knew I’d never see him again I wanted him so bad. My most recent ex who I was with for 2 1/2 years told me he didn’t feel a “spark” in our relationship. When he first asked me out I liked him as a person but it wasn’t a crush or anything. When he first kissed me, I was almost grossed out or embarrassed of him. He was pretty avoidant throughout the relationship and I became anxiously attached. We would do crazy fun and exciting things together, but with him it felt like any other day. I loved him in a you’re a really amazing person kind of way, but I don’t want to get attachment confused with romance.

There was a few times with him where I felt secure and safe and like I never wanted to leave his side, even butterflies. But I never felt fully connected to him in the same way I do friends and family. I felt there were parts of me he didn’t know at all.

I agreed, but idk if I’ve ever felt that spark that people speak of with any man. I’ve felt other things with him, like safety, and security, but we were never connected in the way that I connect with other people. It still hurts so much to hear him say that he didn’t love me in that way.

But even when we did awesome things together it felt like any other day, not exciting either the love of your life kind of way. I’ll never know if that was because of him or me. I grew so attached to him because he was more avoidant and I turned anxious. So I don’t wanna get caring and attachment confused with love.

Currently watching desperate housewives. Has been my comfort alone time show recently before the breakup, before that when we were having a lot of issues I would watch sex and the city.

Just shows about women living their lives dealing with men, normalizing my emotions.

Any other recommendations like those two?

Me 18F and my bf 18M have been together for 2 and 1/2 years. We had moved in with together away from home over the winter and I can’t say it went great. I have an issue where I stress myself out and try to act like my problems are big adult problems even though they’re not.

I should’ve been having fun that whole time, working and living with my boyfriend for the first time, but I wasn’t. I was so unhappy. I was yelling at this poor man probably daily and taking a lot of stress out on him. Since I felt as though I was carrying all the mental weight, I put a lot of physical tasks on him. I acted like a parent instead of a partner. Did I have problems in life, yes, but I should’ve been able to find a way to be happy because I was very lucky.

This is exactly what I was afraid would happen we’ve now both moved back in with our parents and I’ve become so naggy and disrespectful sometimes and I don’t like the way that I talk to him. I know I needed to do something.

Yesterday he came to me telling me he hasn’t been happy and that he doesn’t want a relationship no influencing his decisions during this part of his life and I said I had been thinking the same thing. He proceeded to tell me how he’s not going to accept the way I talk to him sometimes and that he hasn’t been happy and he didn’t think he could be with me for the rest of his life. He says it might just be something that I do since he sees it in the way my mom talks to me which is a fair conclusion.

After a few hours of talking about it the conversation shifted to him saying he doesn’t want to be with anyone else if he cant be with me and that we can still talk and be friends, but that was what i hoped all along. Was there a part of me that hoped wed break up for awhile now, maybe, but now that it’s happening i want the opportunity to change and i want it to be for him. If I can’t be happy with him then idk who I’d be happy with. I’m not gonna lie I’ve thought about dating other people during our relationship, but I had always come to the conclusion that our relationship was worth it and he was special to me. I can’t imagine meeting a better partner. Sure he has plenty of flaws, but the good always outweighs the bad for me.

We’ve both changed a lot too and our relationship has changed. We communicate now, express our feeling, improve change. I thought things would be ok. I didn’t even know I would be able to change this much, but I have, for him. I shouldnt have taken for granted the time we spent together.

TL/DR
Me and my bf agree were young to be in a long term relationship, but i think were having issues because i fucked up and I don’t want to have to loose a good thing.

(This feels a little out of place I know I tried to post it on r/vent but they said to bring it here)

Me and my bf are young, but we’ve been together for 2 and 1/2 years. We had moved in with together away from home over the winter and I can’t say it went great. I have an issue where I stress myself out and try to act like my problems are big adult problems even though they’re not.

I should’ve been having fun that whole time, working and living with my boyfriend for the first time, but I wasn’t. I was so unhappy. I was yelling at this poor man probably daily and taking a lot of stress out on him. Since I felt as though I was carrying all the mental weight, I put a lot of physical tasks on him. I acted like a parent instead of a partner. Did I have problems in life, yes, but I should’ve been able to find a way to be happy because I was very lucky.

This is exactly what I was afraid would happen we’ve now both moved back in with our parents and I’ve turned into a naggy bitch sometimes and I don’t like the way that I talk to him. I know I needed to do something.

Yesterday he came to me telling me he hasn’t been happy and that he doesn’t want a relationship no influencing his decisions during this part of his life and I said I had been thinking the same thing. He proceeded to tell me how he’s not going to accept the way I talk to him sometimes and that he hasn’t been happy and he didn’t think he could be with me for the rest of his life. He says it might just be something that I do since he sees it in the way my mom talks to me which is a fair conclusion.

After a few hours of talking about it the conversation shifted to him saying he doesn’t want to be with anyone else if he cant be with me and that we can still talk and be friends, but that was what i hoped all along. Was there a part of me that hoped wed break up for awhile now, maybe, but now that it’s happening i want the opportunity to change and i want it to be for him. If I can’t be happy with him then idk who I’d be happy with. I’m not gonna lie I’ve thought about dating other people during our relationship, but I had always come to the conclusion that our relationship was worth it and he was special to me. I can’t imagine meeting a better partner. Sure he has plenty of flaws, but the good always outweighs the bad for me.

We’ve both changed a lot too and our relationship has changed. We communicate now, express our feeling, improve change. I thought things would be ok. I didn’t even know I would be able to change this much, but I have, for him. I shouldnt have taken for granted the time we spent together.

We were together for 2 and a half years and have been through a lot together including our first breakup which happened about a year ago.
He came to me today and told me that he’s afraid of missing out on having the freedom to do whatever he wants with these years of his life. I agreed and said is been thinking the same thing.

The thing is, this happened with our first breakup where we were having serious issues, my solution was to keep trying and his was to break up. He regretted it and I took him back and I thought our relationship changed for the better after that. The thing is, when I look back on our relationship all I think about was how unhappy I was, but I’ve always really respected him as a person and if I couldn’t be happy with him then who could I be happy with.

Anyways this all happened just a few hours ago and I just don’t know how to feel about it. If anybody could share a similar experience or have any ideas on how to move forward that would be greatly appreciated.

I don’t typically get yeast infections so I’m not sure where this is coming from. No change in sexual activities, nothing that I can remember out of the ordinary clothing wise, no scented soaps nothing like that. Started out really itchy around my clitoris area, then turned into a bit of burning and pain, but nothing I couldn’t handle. Now I’m having a ton of discharge to the point of my pants getting wet on the outside. Im trying to avoid underwear and just wear cotton sweats. Anything else causes more irritation.

It’s been a few days idk what to do. Anyone know any natural remedies I could try to relieve it?

Me and my boyfriend are very comfortable with each other and have sex quite often. We’ve done it during very light last day or two of my period, but when I’m really bleeding the last thing I want is to do anything sexual. I get so achy down there and everywhere it just sounds painful.

Me and my boyfriend lost our virginities to each other at 16. We’re almost 19 now and have only ever had sex with each other.

We’re very compatible and I really couldn’t imagine anything better, although I sometimes wonder if it’s really that different with other partners.

I’ve done pretty much everything else with other people, making out, oral, those things, and I didn’t notice a drastic difference. However I feel with sex specifically there’s an emotional aspect as well. A certain vulnerability. Letting everything go and putting all your trust into your partner.