Bonjour à tous !

Question pour vous, j’ai gagné une mise sur un item de collection sur eBay (carte) vendu par un vendeur au USA (PSA). Valeur de 8500$ canadien (6200$ usd) + 25 USD shipping… aucune taxe, aucun frais de douane au moment de payer sur eBay. Shipping international.

*je n’ai pas encore payé aucun montant… car je viens d’apprendre (heureusement) qu’il risque d’y avoir des frais de douanes des fois jusqu’à 50% de la valeur…. + les taxes de 15% + un montant de douane par le transporteur.

Est-ce quelqu’un serait en mesure de me fournir l’information juste ou qui a déjà été dans ma position ou fait ce genre d’achat sur eBay des USA vers Québec.

Merci de votre collaboration ! :)

Hey ! Just bought a collectible card for 8900$ canadian on eBay. When im processing to payment via paypal or credit card… there is not any sales taxes… just the 8 900$.

How does it works ? Do i have to pay any taxes ?

From QC QUÉBEC Canada, buying from USA

AM I TO MUCH or ? - PLEASE HELP M28 and F30

HERE IS THE SITUATION:

ME (M28) WITH HER (F30)

**- The Before (8-year relationship)**

Long-term, committed relationship (8 years)

were emotionally invested and stable in the dynamic

Relationship ended with a breach of trust involving another guy (Maxime)

This created a lasting sensitivity and unresolved impact

**-Immediately After the Breakup**

She entered a new relationship with him within \~10 days

This was likely a rebound dynamic (fast attachment, emotional carryover, all over Instagram)

That relationship lasted around 6 months, then ended

**- Reconnection Phase (8 months)**

I and her reconnected and started seeing each other again

Medium level of:

proximity (frequent time together)

emotional connection

physical intimacy (sleeping together, etc.), seeing each other 3-4 time a week.

BUT:

No clear commitment or defined relationship

She maintains a broad social openness

She follows multiple ex-partners on social media

Dynamic:

Feels like a relationship

Functions like a situationship (no structure, no boundaries)

# HERE IS WHERE I NEED YOUR HELP.

**- Current Situation**

**Her lifestyle:**

Goes out regularly (weekly) to raves/events

Attends with a close friend who is best friends with maxime.

MAX is still within her social environment… and i know for a fact he will be there with them…

**Her position:**

“I won’t stop going out or change my lifestyle”

“I’m not in bad terms with anyone” (including other ex)

Prioritizes freedom over adjustment or compréhension for my feeling.

**Communication pattern !!!!!!!!!\*\*\*\*\*\*:**

Minimizes or omits his presence initially ( i asked her who she was with at the rave, she answered her brother and friend, i confronted her with max, and she started a story that her friend invited him, and i won’t stop going to place even if he is there) but she didn’t tell me initially.

Avoids direct answers when confronted

Shifts conversations toward:

My reaction

My “control”

her feeling “watched” or “suffocated”

**- Core Issues in the Current Dynamic**

**1. Transparency gap**

Information is partial, delayed, or minimized

**2. Avoidance**

Direct questions → indirect or emotional responses

**3. Social overlap with ex**

Continued proximity to someone tied to past betrayal… how can I know what will happen if there are texting or more…?

**4. Value misalignment**

Me: clarity, emotional safety, consistency… I put a boundarie

Her: freedom, openness, fluid boundaries

**5. Relationship structure mismatch**

High intimacy (before this conversation of me confronting her about max, she wanted to see me everyday !!!)

No real commitment

No aligned expectations

**6. Emotional impact on me**

Loss of trust

Mental over-analysis

Emotional withdrawal

Decrease in desire

AM I TO MUCH or ? - PLEASE HELP M28 and F30

HERE IS THE SITUATION:

ME (M28) WITH HER (F30)

**- The Before (8-year relationship)**

Long-term, committed relationship (8 years)

were emotionally invested and stable in the dynamic

Relationship ended with a breach of trust involving another guy (Maxime)

This created a lasting sensitivity and unresolved impact

**-Immediately After the Breakup**

She entered a new relationship with him within \~10 days

This was likely a rebound dynamic (fast attachment, emotional carryover, all over Instagram)

That relationship lasted around 6 months, then ended

**- Reconnection Phase (8 months)**

I and her reconnected and started seeing each other again

Medium level of:

proximity (frequent time together)

emotional connection

physical intimacy (sleeping together, etc.), seeing each other 3-4 time a week.

BUT:

No clear commitment or defined relationship

She maintains a broad social openness

She follows multiple ex-partners on social media

Dynamic:

Feels like a relationship

Functions like a situationship (no structure, no boundaries)

# HERE IS WHERE I NEED YOUR HELP.

**- Current Situation**

**Her lifestyle:**

Goes out regularly (weekly) to raves/events

Attends with a close friend who is best friends with maxime.

MAX is still within her social environment… and i know for a fact he will be there with them…

**Her position:**

“I won’t stop going out or change my lifestyle”

“I’m not in bad terms with anyone” (including other ex)

Prioritizes freedom over adjustment or compréhension for my feeling.

**Communication pattern !!!!!!!!!\*\*\*\*\*\*:**

Minimizes or omits his presence initially ( i asked her who she was with at the rave, she answered her brother and friend, i confronted her with max, and she started a story that her friend invited him, and i won’t stop going to place even if he is there) but she didn’t tell me initially.

Avoids direct answers when confronted

Shifts conversations toward:

My reaction

My “control”

her feeling “watched” or “suffocated”

**- Core Issues in the Current Dynamic**

**1. Transparency gap**

Information is partial, delayed, or minimized

**2. Avoidance**

Direct questions → indirect or emotional responses

**3. Social overlap with ex**

Continued proximity to someone tied to past betrayal… how can I know what will happen if there are texting or more…?

**4. Value misalignment**

Me: clarity, emotional safety, consistency… I put a boundarie

Her: freedom, openness, fluid boundaries

**5. Relationship structure mismatch**

High intimacy (before this conversation of me confronting her about max, she wanted to see me everyday !!!)

No real commitment

No aligned expectations

**6. Emotional impact on me**

Loss of trust

Mental over-analysis

Emotional withdrawal

Decrease in desire

HERE IS THE SITUATION:

ME (M28) WITH HER (F30)

- The Before (8-year relationship)

Long-term, committed relationship (8 years)

were emotionally invested and stable in the dynamic

Relationship ended with a breach of trust involving another guy (Maxime)

This created a lasting sensitivity and unresolved impact

-Immediately After the Breakup

She entered a new relationship with him within ~10 days

This was likely a rebound dynamic (fast attachment, emotional carryover, all over Instagram)

That relationship lasted around 6 months, then ended

- Reconnection Phase (8 months)

I and her reconnected and started seeing each other again

Medium level of:

proximity (frequent time together)

emotional connection

physical intimacy (sleeping together, etc.), seeing each other 3-4 time a week.

BUT:

No clear commitment or defined relationship

She maintains a broad social openness

She follows multiple ex-partners on social media

Dynamic:

Feels like a relationship

Functions like a situationship (no structure, no boundaries)

HERE IS WHERE I NEED YOUR HELP.

- Current Situation

Her lifestyle:

Goes out regularly (weekly) to raves/events

Attends with a close friend who is best friends with maxime.

MAX is still within her social environment… and i know for a fact he will be there with them…

Her position:

“I won’t stop going out or change my lifestyle”

“I’m not in bad terms with anyone” (including other ex)

Prioritizes freedom over adjustment or compréhension for my feeling.

Communication pattern !!!!!!!!!******:

Minimizes or omits his presence initially ( i asked her who she was with at the rave, she answered her brother and friend, i confronted her with max, and she started a story that her friend invited him, and i won’t stop going to place even if he is there) but she didn’t tell me initially.

Avoids direct answers when confronted

Shifts conversations toward:

My reaction

My “control”

her feeling “watched” or “suffocated”

- Core Issues in the Current Dynamic

1. Transparency gap

Information is partial, delayed, or minimized

2. Avoidance

Direct questions → indirect or emotional responses

3. Social overlap with ex

Continued proximity to someone tied to past betrayal… how can I know what will happen if there are texting or more…?

4. Value misalignment

Me: clarity, emotional safety, consistency… I put a boundarie

Her: freedom, openness, fluid boundaries

5. Relationship structure mismatch

High intimacy (before this conversation of me confronting her about max, she wanted to see me everyday !!!)

No real commitment

No aligned expectations

6. Emotional impact on me

Loss of trust

Mental over-analysis

Emotional withdrawal

Decrease in desire