u/Flimsy_Sand_4944

My city has a proud middle distance/distance running history. Former Olympic champions, world record holders etc. However in the last few years the middle distance/distance running community has imploded. People don’t seem to care about training with other people - they’d rather do their own personalised sessions. Barely anyone new is getting into it. Clubs that once used to be massive barely have anyone turning up to club workouts. No one is interested in socialising outside of the training. The clubs never get any teams in races anymore. Why is everyone so individualistic these days? And how can this be reversed?

I (29M) broke up with my ex (27F) 18 months ago. We had an on/off relationship for 5 years, it was a bit of a rollercoaster ride. For the first 6 months after the breakup, I was terrible at keeping no contact. I didn't check her Instagram too much but I just could not stop messaging her and asking for one last chance. After 6 months, I began to give up a bit, but then she messaged me 2 months later in a kind of weird message that said she missed me but didn't want to get back together. That upset me, and I then messaged her a couple more times over the next few months wanting to talk but she rejected it.

This year, I messaged her once in February, saying I just wanted to clear the air between us, even if we didn't speak again. She said I needed to leave her alone and blocked me on Instagram, where I'd messaged her. After that I mailed her all the gifts and cards that I'd kept from our relationship that had been sitting in a box under my bed - I didn't want to bin them but didn't want to keep them so let her decide on that one. I felt a bit better after that as I didn't have them to look at or cling onto anymore. A few weeks ago I texted her an apology for my behaviour since we broke up - no expectation of a reply, and I could be blocked so maybe she never even read it. That felt like a bit of guilt lifted off my chest.

I know I hurt her a lot after our breakup, to the point that she now probably hates me, and I would not be surprised if by now she is seeing someone new - after all it has been quite a while since our breakup and I would not blame her for that at all.

The problem I am having is I am still thinking about her a lot - I mean multiple times a day, every day, and still missing her and sort of wishing she would reach out. I guess part of it is that I feel like I have changed a lot since we broke up, and I want her to see that, but really I don't know what it is about her that keeps getting stuck in my head. I haven't checked her Instagram in over 100 days, I am 99% certain she will never contact me again, and we don't even live in the same place anymore - she moved cities. I can recognise that I am generally happier than I was when we were together, and I just want to stop thinking about her. But I just don't know how to?

Sent my ex an apology text last night, after sitting on it for a few days. We've been in NC, at her request, but I have been very bad at maintaining it. We've been broken up around 18 months (she ended it), and in the first 6 months I could not go more than 2 or 3 weeks. Since last summer, I was better but I still reached out a few times. I last contacted her just over 2 months ago - I'd found some old photos of her whilst sorting out some files on my pc and emailed them over to her, as I didn't know if she'd ever seen them. Before that, my last contact had been sending her all the gifts and cards she'd given me, as I couldn't bear to throw them away but keeping them was making me feel sad. Just before that she'd asked me to leave her alone and blocked me on socials. At that moment, I wanted to take control of my feelings, hence returning the gifts.

The apology I sent was just an apology for my behaviour since the breakup. (In my opinion at least) it was honest and accountable - taking responsbility for my actions without blaming her at all. It was probably the first time I have messaged her since the breakup with absolutely nothing in the message about her messaging me back, or anything to encourage her to message me back. I have no idea whether she received it - my number may well be blocked. But I took the view that if it is blocked, then she wasn't meant to receive this message. This is the first time I've been able to feel this way, and since sending the message I have felt lighter. I hope it didn't cause her any upset but this feels like a good step. So if anyone else feels like apologising, sincerely and without expectation of reciprocation, it may just make you feel better.

Sent my ex an apology text last night, after sitting on it for a few days. We've been in NC, at her request, but I have been very bad at maintaining it. We've been broken up around 18 months (she ended it), and in the first 6 months I could not go more than 2 or 3 weeks. Since last summer, I was better but I still reached out a few times. I last contacted her just over 2 months ago - I'd found some old photos of her whilst sorting out some files on my pc and emailed them over to her, as I didn't know if she'd ever seen them. Before that, my last contact had been sending her all the gifts and cards she'd given me, as I couldn't bear to throw them away but keeping them was making me feel sad. Just before that she'd asked me to leave her alone and blocked me on socials. At that moment, I wanted to take control of my feelings, hence returning the gifts.

The apology I sent was just an apology for my behaviour since the breakup. (In my opinion at least) it was honest and accountable - taking responsbility for my actions without blaming her at all. It was probably the first time I have messaged her since the breakup with absolutely nothing in the message about her messaging me back, or anything to encourage her to message me back. I have no idea whether she received it - my number may well be blocked. But I took the view that if it is blocked, then she wasn't meant to receive this message. This is the first time I've been able to feel this way, and since sending the message I have felt lighter. I hope it didn't cause her any upset but this feels like a good step. So if anyone else feels like apologising, sincerely and without expectation of reciprocation, it may just make you feel better.

Post title fairly self explanatory. I'm thinking of buying a Macbook Neo - ideally I'd buy it today. However, with Apple Back to School maybe a month away here in the UK, I was wondering if it might be worth holding off until July? My gut feeling is that they won't offer any freebies with it given it's their cheapest model and so popular, but what is previous precedent with products like this?

I first saw the term limerence about 2 weeks ago on an Instagram reel. At first I thought this is just another buzzword for stupid people that don't know how to process their emotions, but it was after I kept seeing the term again and again that I properly read about it, and I realised it actually really made sense with my life experiences. It has always been an issue for me, probably since I was around 13. When I was younger it was girls that I had a crush on, but would never dream of telling them or anyone about it. And then when I got a bit older, I would fixate on girls who had shown me some interest in me and then gone away. That was initially with girls who I had brief crossing of paths or flings with, who would then consume my every thought for months after they later rejected me, and then later when I had had relationships, it became my exes.

I had a breakup around 18 months ago, and even though there times I was seriously unhappy in the relationship and wanted to get out, and whilst I initially felt relieved, it soon began to consume my every thought. I didn't understand how I could ever get past this, and I could not maintain no contact. We had broken up several times before, and each time it was basically the same until we had got back together - me being desperate for us to get back together and basically pinning my entire happiness on it, but realising once we got back together that it didn't solve all my problems.

This time, it felt more final, and I knew there were things I wanted to change about my life and myself internally. The first 6 months were horrible challenging, I would think of her what seemed like all day, every day, and I would just feel so emotional and like I needed her, but I didn't even know why. All memories of the bad times completely disappeared from my head. Gradually as I worked on myself, that feeling has faded, and now I feel a lot better. However, I still do harbour a hope we will talk again, and I still do think that I want to check her instagram or message her and see if she feels differently, just not as intensely as before. This is even after she has told me in no uncertain terms that she does not want to hear from me - I am aware of her feelings but there is a part of me that still hopes she will change her mind.

After reading about limerence, I do feel almost a sense of relief. Knowing that this is something other people have experienced, makes me feel less crazy. It's good to know that some people seem to have got over it entirely. But knowing about it hasn't fixed all my issues regarding it. So I want to know - how can I go about stopping being a limerent?