u/Flowerblooms03

To make it short, I have an ex friend who me and my two other friends had left her due to her toxicity behavior towards us only cause she was making her boyfriend look bad. example being she told me and my second friend how she was being ab***d by him. The same day she confessed to lying to us. She also became very protective of him and said how we mad over noting and how he’s just a child. She brought up my relationship just to make her relationship look better. Of course all of this, we left entirely, we didn’t wanna deal with her constantly venting to us about him making comments about her and then targeting us. But she can’t leave us alone, making 5 accounts to stalk us and try to talk to us, she contacted my third friend asking to talk to us. Never once apologized, her messages were just “I want I want”.

I came across few clips about how someone confesses to cheat on someone and most of the comments supporting it. I sometimes wonder why it became so normalized to cheat during a relationship? What’s hard to break up with someone and date the person you wanna date? I’m not here to judge, I wanna see the ones who normalizing cheating point of view.

Is it possible to take a break from college and than go back to it? I wasn’t ready to start college, forced by my parents or else it would’ve been military for me. I haven’t been doing well in the major I was in, I submitted to change my major last minute but it won’t let me do my schedule.

(This is kinda of a update to my last post so please check the last post before reading this) Currently as I’m writing this, I found out she made another instagram account through the follower suggestions, this is the 5-6th account she made just to stalk us or try to contact us even though we made it clear we want noting to do with her no more. If anything with her gone, we been so happy with stress free from her bullshit. But we the type to post about our hangouts on socials, the issue is the constant stalking, me and my friend have private our account, our other friend hasn’t of course it is her choice to, she also loves to post us on her story’s for memories. But our ex friend kept following her through her account time and time, always new ones. And for me, I wanna post them as well but thought TikTok, not surprising but she also been making new accounts though their too. I made an hidden account since I disable my main TikTok account with 2K followers. I wanna post my friends on my account showing love and support group I have. But with her (my ex friend) it’s impossible, last time we did this she was stalking through my highlights and got mad at all of us for it. Is there any way to stop her from stalking us or acting like she welcome with open arms when we made it clear we don’t want to deal with her bullshit anymore? Any suggestions or advice can help🫶

Hello Reddit, it’s my first time making a post. I wanted to talk to someone about a situation I can’t say anywhere else cause of stalking. I had a close friend I known since middle school, we had on and off issues, noting big just small. We reconnected back in 2023 through Instagram. It was good at first till she started dating a guy, they didn’t last but ever since, her whole personality became so much dependent on finding a new partner. What I mean is first she went on hitting on my cousin who barely even known her. The next day my cousin blocked her of course cause of how forward she was towards him, during October I met a guy who is now my current partner, before we were dating she was asking me for his instagram saying she found him attractive and stuff. At first I did but it was during the time she was also using the app “wizz” to flirt and talk to other guys.My current partner has never been in a relationship before and my guy best friend knew something was off about her so she ended up being blocked on my boyfriends account. Fast forward she found a partner though tiktok, but their relationship didn’t last due to him always being busy with college and her needs of attention, she ended up also cheating on him with her now boyfriend. Reasons why I ended up dropping her was cause of how much she would complain about her boyfriend saying she will find another boyfriend but everytime she does, she always goes to him. Even butt into someone else’s relationship. Which shows how much of a cheater she was. She once lied about being abused by her boyfriend that she ended up apologizing for lying only cause she was mad at him. Every argument they had I tried helping her to let go move on. I get that break ups are hard I really do, but there times she would tell us how he would say horrible things about her body, comparing her looks to his sister. Disgusting behavior. The friendship gotten toxic in a way when me or my other friend tried to help make her understand about how her partner isn’t good for her, she ended up Turing against us, she would talk shit about us, make herself look like the victim. It has gotten to the point when my friend tried to defend herself and ended up getting called immature cause of it.she also tried making us look bad to this girl we known way before her. Of course we proved the girl evidence and details about my ex friend, it was better to let her go so we blocked her, but this made her more seeking, she created accounts time and time to try to reach out. I cant go out with my friends now cause she will somehow find out and get mad at us for it. We made it clear to her we don’t want her in our lives anymore but no matter what we do, she will always try to butt in my life and my friends.