Did your parents raise you with traditions that tie into your sperm donor’s heritage?
For example, if the donor was Jewish and your parents weren’t, did you observe any of the holidays or traditions?
I realized that I am the most emotionally mature person in my family. It is something that both makes me proud and hurts, because I wish that I had an elder to look up to, even though I am the youngest in my family of origin.
This week, while watching my nephew, she complained that he only had 3 pairs of underwear for a 2 week trip. She said he is overweight so she didn’t want to ask him when they were at the store.
He stayed with me this week, so I just asked his mom, found out the size and style and dropped them off as in his room, saying I had picked some extras up while running errands so he doesn’t run too low.
Reflecting back, there was a lot that wasn’t okay. My mom once had us take pictures of her matching bra and underwear set because she felt cute. She vented (and continues to vent) about her relationship struggles, though at least now she is in therapy.
She over identified with me, and tried to get me to do whatever she had wished she had done (be a teacher and marry a farmer so she could farm in the summers)
There is clear emotional incest, and I’ve largely reduced the triangulation that was occurring by using boundaries. Mostly she talks at me and not with me, and then gets mad if I don’t say ‘mmhmmm or yeah’ enough to show I am listening
That being said, I’m hoping to find a book that helps with the hurt I feel. I think I’m doing okay with boundaries, but some days it just hurts to kind of wish she wasn’t in my life (as in dead), because that seems easier.
It’s bad enough to want to walk away, but not so bad to follow through or even threaten. The good isn’t even that good, but there is some that is enjoyable.
I keep finding these worms in a few beds. They don't thrash around like the videos I've seen, but they sure look like the photos. I got an insect app, and it's telling me they're red wigglers, but they don't look like any of the other example photos of them. My husband is convinced they are the Asian ones because they don't thrash. I'm having a break over this worrying my soil is being destroyed.
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If you’re wondering if it is, ask here and someone will help you identify them.
It doesn't really look like what Google describe but as you can see, they made my soil look like coffee grounds, there's many of them inside my potted apple tree.
Notice the flush clitellum and the way it slithers. They are also much more muscular and firm compared to European earthworms. They don’t always have to jump.
I am insanely jealous of southern gardeners whose gardens are overflowing. I need some encouragement that I’m not woefully behind, and that I haven’t somehow destroyed my garden bed.
It’s my first year with my new raised bed, last year was a bust as most things didn’t grow.
I hope this isn't the Asian jumping worm. Can anyone ID? Thanks!
I have about 300-500 worms in a formerly established box I made, which has a surface area of about 1 square foot
I had a bunch of culinary mushrooms that went moldy, so I blended them up with some carrots and coffee grounds. Took 1-2 cups of that mush, and mixed it with 5-6 cups of shredded paper to half the bin, then covered that with damp (but fluffy) shredded paper.
I’m worried that I just overfed them, especially since they still have a watermelon rind from the weekend. The mushroom slop didn’t seem matted, it looked like they would be able to easily work through it.
Do you think it’ll be okay? How long should I wait to feed them again?
So this is the second worm that looked like this I found in my bin. I read from someone else that their mouth is huge and an indicator that it is the ajw. Anyone care to confirm? Tried getting the mouth on video.
I’m a bit heavier, 5’7 and 200 lbs, and I’m thinking they will suit my body type
I’m open to feedback
I know I need to top it, but am not sure how far down
And I have to cut the two bottom right branches that still have 2 branches, I just don’t know which ones I should do.
Leaves get trapped in the cavity, and the chunk that has been cut feels a little crumbly on the edges, but solid through most of it.
Also, if we got it removed, what is the estimated cost of removal? We have a tricky backyard to access
Has anyone had experience growing Blue Moon Wisteria in Alberta?
How did it go?
I’d love to see your photos
Pretty self explanatory.
I saw the earthworm story and was inspired to ask.
Is there a way I can extend the garden tap higher?
It’s in a tight spot and difficult to turn on.
We don’t have easy access to get under the deck
We ended up doing an emergency run to Canadian tire to get 500 L more soil, and half a yard of , we finally finished and filled out new raised bed.
Every project always takes me 40% more time, money, and material than I expected.
I think we’ll end up putting some boards on the front to hide where the corners meet, then put a ledge on top.