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This is a question i would like to make for Ecuadorian adoptees that have been adopted through the ecuadorian adoption system

Since the Ecuadorian assembly passed the reform law for adoption, I've wanted to investigate how this process is experienced here in Ecuador. What I've found is either government or organizational pages that speak generally about the legal process and the bureaucracy, but they rarely address the perspective or experience of the adoptee. It's been extremely difficult to find testimonies and experiences from children and adolescents in foster homes, orphanages, or who have already been officially adopted.

If there are people who have been adopted here in Ecuador and feel comfortable sharing their experience within the Ecuadorian adoption system, I would be very grateful.

Desde que la asamblea aprobó la ley reformatioria para la adopción e querido invistiera un poco de como se vive este proceso acá, lo q logró encontrar es o del gobierno u organizaciones que hablan de forma general del proceso legal y la burocracia, pero raramente hablan de el punto de vista o la vivencia del adoptado, se me a hecho súper complicado encontrar testimonios y vivencias de niños, niñas y adolescentes que están en casas de acogida, orfanatos, o que ya han sido oficialmente adoptados.

Si hay personas que han sido adoptadas aquí dentro de Ecuador y se sienten cómodas de hablar de su experiencia dentro del sistema de adopción ecuatoriano se los agradecería

Desde que la asamblea aprobó la ley reformatioria para la adopción e querido invistiera un poco de como se vive este proceso acá, lo q logró encontrar es o del gobierno u organizaciones que hablan de forma general del proceso legal y la burocracia, pero raramente hablan de el punto de vista o la vivencia del adoptado, se me a hecho súper complicado encontrar testimonios y vivencias de niños, niñas y adolescentes que están en casas de acogida, orfanatos, o que ya han sido oficialmente adoptados.

Si hay personas que han sido adoptadas aquí dentro de Ecuador y se sienten cómodas de hablar de su experiencia dentro del sistema de adopción ecuatoriano se los agradecería

So basically i came across the term asexual at 13 and the term aromantic and aroace around 15 with Jaiden’s animation aroace video. This term resonated so much with me and realized that there is a high chance than i’m aroace. Now, i never told this to anybody, except my sister, whenever someone asked me if i have ever had a boyfriend or if there is any boy i liked i could get away with saying “no i don’t really have time for that” “no, all my classmates are kinda ugly” “there is no one interesting in the island”. i don’t go out too much and don’t have many friends so people assume im shy and once i grow i may find someone because im “too young”.

I showed my sister Jaiden’s video and told her, i think that’s me, and she said something that, even tho its not my case it’s something very interesting, she said “i think you are too young to know that, i think you haven’t fell in love yet because you have had so much love in your house that you don’t feel the need to look for it outside yet” ok like, very poetic, very interesting but definitely not me. I just said yeah yeah maybe im too young let’s see.

I’m grateful and lucky that my family and close ones have never been intense about this topic, but i know i won’t be able to use the same excuse for too long, im moving to a different country to study university next year, and i know that if after those 4 years i don’t give ANY mention of a romantic partner or interest towards someone people will get suspicious, not that i would be in a dangerous situation but like, how many 25 year olds you know that haven’t show or mention any interest towards anybody during school, highschool or university. It will be weird, it would be uncomfortable, and i know that they will think that it’s a mental disorder or smt.

It’s not like my family is queerphobic, but they are highly uneducated and can’t really understand any LGBT+ label besides the first 3, and bisexuality is already kinda confusing for them now try to explain that you don’t feel any sexual nor romantic attraction and that you are okey with that. Also it makes me sad because my mom is worried that i will be alone after she dies one day :(

(this part doesn’t have too much sense i just wanted to throw up everything out of my system)
I just won’t tell anyone and see what happens. Even tho i know there is no “special person that you just need to meet” i kinda hope there is, or at least i hope to find a very very close aroace friend who i could “marry” and bring back to the island i live.
Like i know this part of my plan is very unrealistic and kinda impossible but like after a few years of finishing my studies and working, accumulating experience and contacts i want to go back to live here, like, it’s amazing, the beaches the food the peace and the fact that the worst crime that can happen is someone stealing your bike if you leave it outside for two days. I want to have kids someday (if the global political and environmental situation gets better in the next 10-15 years). If i could do that with a queer platonic partner that would be great, but it would be very difficult to find someone willing to do that.

ps: sorry if this post doesn’t have too much sense or if it’s unorganized, i just had to put this somewhere, that and its like 2am and i can’t think very clearly

Está si es una pregunta seria y algo que mujeres trans ecuatorianas respondan y cuenten de su experiencia

¿Dirían que en su proceso de autodescubrimiento la tradición de disfrazarse en año nuevo de viudas les hizo abrir los ojos?

i’m in a questioning process with myself. i’m very bad identifying my own feelings and sensations unless i can link them to a physical sensation (ej: sadness making your chest feel heavy or feat making my legs weak). I’m kinda of emotionally illiterate (?) but i do know that im feeling something.

so if someone could describe a bit about how it feels this uncomfortablity towards your body or the way people and society treated you when you where still perceived as a women or just this sensations that there was something going on before you could properly name it, it would be of great help. please