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My qualifications: 10th pass out, and 12th pass out from commerce stream.

Background:

I’m an 18F, CLAT aspirant. Didn’t get a top NLU last time due to last-minute distractions. I was devastated and then I put all my efforts in clearing SLAT which is entrance exam for Symbiosis law school cleared the entrance and interview and got shortlisted for BBA LLB in Symbiosis law school pune. Parents even paid the provisional admission fees but later withdrew because of high fees and high cost of living it's not like they couldn't afford but it cost way more compared to NLUs.

Now they’ve forced me into IPMAT/JIPMAT prep i didn't want to, but I rejoined CLAT coaching because I really want a top NLU.

Here’s the current situation:

I applied for IIM Rohtak’s 5 year Integrated Programme in Law (BBA LLB). Cleared cutoff, got a call letter yesterday. My mom now wants me to drop CLAT prep for sometime and focus only on IIM Rohtak’s interview because “IIM tag is worth it.” but i am scared that this gap will cost me my dream college,

My concerns about IIM Rohtak law:

1 Very new program – first batch hasn’t even graduated yet. No placement track record for law.

2 Fees ~36 lakh for 5 years, much higher than top NLUs (15-20 lakh).

3 IIMs are known for management, not law. Feels like a cash grab to me.

4 A top NLU has 30+ years of brand value in the legal field that matters for litigation, corporate law,

Judiciary etc.

5 And the IIM tag only works for MBA not for law.

6 They are convinced that the students will get much higher packages compared to top NLUs just because of IIM tag, in reality the top 5 firms or tire 1 and 2 firms only go to top 3 or 4 NLUs for campus recruitment

even tire 2 NLUs do not expect them let alone they will go to IIM Rohtak in first place.

Parents aren’t listening. They see “IIM” and think it’s better than anything else.

What I need advice on:

1. Am I wrong to prefer a top NLU over IIM Rohtak law?

2. How do I convince my parents without sounding rebellious?

3. If I somehow end up at IIM Rohtak law, will I regret it later in my legal career?

Please help. I don’t want to make a decision I’ll regret for life.

I’m Indian (F), and I’ve been friends with two girls for a long time. Let’s call them Lily (white European) and Aby (African American). Race has never really been a topic in our friendship. We were just three girls who became close naturally.

Last week, we were hanging out at Lily’s apartment. She told us she had been invited to a South Asian wedding for the first time. She was nervous because she really wanted to make a good impression and not accidentally disrespect the culture. Lily is a huge people pleaser and overthinks everything.

We started looking online at traditional outfits. She found a dark green lehenga she loved, very elegant and heavily embroidered. She worried it might be “too much.” I told her South Asian weddings are usually so extravagant that being overdressed is almost expected.

Later, Lily asked if it would be okay for her to wear mehndi/henna to the wedding, or if people might find it disrespectful. I said absolutely yes, and that most people would actually appreciate her respectfully participating. I explained that mehndi isn’t exclusive to South Asia it has roots across the Middle East and Central Asia as well.

Then I made the comment that caused the argument. I said that South Asians generally love sharing our culture with others instead of gatekeeping it, as long as people are respectful.

The second I said that, Aby’s mood completely changed. She became extremely upset and started yelling at me. She said I would never understand why some cultures feel protective over their traditions because of slavery and exploitation, and that Lily and I could never understand because we are not Black.

I was shocked. I never mentioned Black culture. I wasn’t trying to criticize or compare any culture. I was only speaking about my own culture and how I personally view cultural sharing.

The situation escalated quickly, and Aby stormed out. Lily and I sat there stunned. Later, Lily admitted she also felt the reaction was way too intense for what I had actually said.

I genuinely never intended to disrespect Black culture or insult any race. I completely understand the historical reasons why some communities are more protective of their traditions. I just didn’t think my comment about South Asians enjoying cultural sharing would be interpreted as an attack on anyone else.

I still don’t know if I unknowingly said something offensive or if my words were simply misunderstood.

And it wasn't even that we were ignoring Aby or had any previous fight with her.

AITA?

I (18F) love my dad (55M). He’s sweet and caring most of the time. But one thing that drives me crazy is his habit of making dumb comments or asking pointless questions whenever someone in the family is watching TV or a movie.

These aren’t cute or funny comments. They’re genuinely annoying. I know he does it to lighten the mood, but there’s a limit. For example, I’ll be watching a crime documentary, and the narrator will say something like “finding proof,” and my dad will immediately ask, “Oh, what did he find?” literally just repeating what I can already see and hear. So I end up missing parts of what I’m watching.

But when he’s the one watching something, he demands absolute silence. No distractions allowed.

This habit has ruined family TV nights. We used to have them regularly, but now they’re basically dead because no one wants to deal with him. In fact, because of this, many people in the family have switched to watching movies and shows on their phones or personal devices with headphones, just to avoid his constant interruptions.

Somehow I’ve become the family’s punching bag. When we watch anything, he always tries to include me in his pointless conversations because the rest of the family ignores him. Then I get yelled at to be quiet. For example, my older brother came home from college. He was watching a movie in the same room as me and my dad. Dad had already seen it and started spoiling scenes without being asked. My brother shouted at me for being annoyed, even though Dad was the one causing the problem. I had tears in my eyes.

Yesterday was especially bad. I woke up at 4 AM, had classes, work, and a presentation. I forgot my lunch and my water bottle, so I was hangry. I only had a little money for a small bag of chips. All I wanted was to go home, take a long bath, and watch something on Netflix. I found a documentary about a case I’d been reading about and started it. My dad was in the same room. Not even five minutes in, a commentator gave some detail, and Dad made his usual comments again.

I was so annoyed and angry because I missed part of the documentary. I shouted at him: “Should I just listen to you and turn off the TV? I can’t even watch TV peacefully after a long day!”

Then my brother yelled at me, saying Dad changed my diapers as a baby, and this is how I behave. My mom said I need to go to a rehab center for my anger issues.

Now I feel guilty. I know I should have controlled my anger and been more respectful and be careful with my words but a part of me still feel that I did right.

So, AITAH?

After our 12th-grade results came out, my best friend and I decided to hang out at a mall on Sunday. We spent the whole day window shopping and eating. I was there on my own, but my friend came with her mom. Her mom was doing her own shopping in the same mall, while we were on our own.

A bit of background: My bestie's mom is a divorced single mother, and my bestie is her only daughter. But don't feel too sorry for her, because her mom is genuinely a psycho. She's fully qualified to work but chooses not to she's just lazy. My best friend and her mom are completely dependent on her grandparents, who are retired. The grandparents fund these two grown adults (one of them adult baby, really), and my bestie's mother exploits them. She has built a narrative in my best friend's mind that her father was the crazy one. In reality, the mother was the one who filed false cases against him and prevented him from seeing his own daughter. And as you know, Indian courts heavily favor wives, so that's exactly what happened.

So by now, you can tell what a psycho she is. Unfortunately, my best friend has no idea about any of this and still sees her mom as a kind of Mother Mary.

By 6:30 PM, we were tired and decided to say goodbye and head home. We met up with my best friend's mom in the mall. She asked me how I would get home. I told her I'd book a Rapido auto. Then she asked why my parents weren't coming to pick me up. I explained that both my parents were busy.

She said it was too late for a girl to be traveling alone. I replied, "I know, but it's not my first time using Rapido. I take proper precautions I share my live location in our family group chat with my parents and siblings, I have helpline numbers saved for emergencies, and if I ever feel unsafe, I stay on a call with my mom throughout the ride. Besides, the mall is only 8 km from my house, so the ride takes about 15 minutes."

After that, she went off exactly as the title describes she slut-shamed me in public, said I was "asking to be r****d," and even blamed my parents for allowing me to use Rapido.

When I got home, my best friend messaged me apologizing on behalf of her mother. I didn't reply because I was too angry.

Look I get it. As a girl, I appreciate when people care about my safety. I'd probably worry the same way if I were in her place. But she took it way too far.

Edit

So I forgot to add one thing that as you know that my BFF is the only one she have so she controls her way too much like literally isolate her from the world she see every girl her age as a threat to her daughter like they will spoil her and idk but she thinks that she will loose control on her cause majority of our mutual female friends are super independent. And like after becoming friends she started coming out of her shell so i think that she see it like a threat.

Like she is literally a dozen,She can't sing,dance and rap to save herself

Even if the final member, Sakura, is receiving hate, or the whole group in general, mark my words: the second people start realizing the group content will show their performative sister bond and Sakura being treated like the baby by the other members, it will melt people completely. And I’m saying this because, let’s be clear, the majority of their fans are K-pop and jpop fans. I’ve been into both for years, and fans of these two genres are the most ignorant of actual talent and will eat up everything that is served to them by companies without questioning anything.

You will start seeing comments like, “She is such a fast learner,” “She had so much potential,” “She was trying her best to match the other girls,” and “She worked the hardest in the survival show to make it into the group,” and then people will completely forget the fact that many viewers felt she was totally rigged into the group.

There are tons and tons of examples of this.

Mai was a contestant from I-LAND 2, and many people thought she was a weak singer but still got pushed into the group. She received a lot of hate at first, but then people forgot all about it.

And don’t forget Wonhee. She was nowhere near the top in voting but still got first place in ILLIT, and the whole concept is designed around her. She may have improved a lot, but many people still felt the competition had contestants who were stronger in almost every category. Now, though, you can’t even bring up the topic of rigging without getting dragged by fans.

Even Sunoo from ENHYPEN was added through producer choice, so many people considered that unfair too.

So my point is that if Katseye’s song quality keeps degrading, it will not even take fans a second to unstan them.

EDIT

If you all see the comments under there new posts across all social media you will see the switch up of people so the threat still stand.

I think my uncle touched me while I was sleeping. It happened when I was 15, and I'm turning 19 now. I don't know why I suddenly remember it.

At that time, my whole extended family was staying at a relative's house for the holidays. The house had about 5 rooms, but there were many of us, so where we slept changed each night. One day I'd sleep in one room, the next day in another.

One night, I went to bed quite early. Later, my younger cousin (who was around 8 then) joined me in bed.

Before I go on, I should mention that I'm not a heavy sleeper even a mild disturbance can wake me up.

That morning, I woke up because I felt something like a finger touching my left breast. At first, I thought it was my cousin, since she has a habit of hugging people in her sleep. But after a few seconds, when I opened my eyes, I saw him. He was cupping my cousin's cheeks (she's his daughter) while hovering over her.

At first, I thought he might have touched me by mistake. But honestly, I'm not sure.

Had such a bad experience today at my exam center

I won’t reveal the center address, but it is a big reputed private college in the city.

I had my Business, PE, and Economics paper today during the first shift. I reached the center on time around 7:40 AM while the gates were supposed to close at 8:30. My mom dropped me there and we had some difficulty parking, but that was fine.

The real issue started inside the center. The lady staff during checking were extremely rude. I understand they were doing their job, but they were handling students’ belongings very carelessly. One girl who came from a nearby village without any guardian had brought her phone because she had nobody to leave it with. Usually at most centers we can submit our belongings before entering the lab, but when she was finally allowed to submit it, the guard literally threw her phone onto the belongings pile and the screen shattered. Everyone saw it happen.

The labs were also facing constant internet issues. Registration and verification were taking ages because the systems kept lagging. Invigilators were struggling with thumb verification for many students. My lab was Lab 24 and even though my Aadhaar card, PAN card, and passport-size photos were properly verified, the system still kept showing me and a few other candidates as “unverified.”

I tried thumb verification around 3–4 times but it still was not working. By then I was already anxious and scared because the exam time was getting closer. Then the invigilator told me and another student to go to Lab 22 for verification and then come back. But when we went there, the staff said our thumb scan had already been used once so it would not work again. We were shocked because nobody had told us that before.

Then they gave us a paper and told us to write a letter to NTA so they could register us manually. Even after that they made us sit and wait for around 10 minutes for no reason. Later there was an announcement asking all unregistered candidates to report to another room with their admit cards and IDs. There were only two of us left unregistered from our lab, but the staff there started scolding us as if the issue was our fault.

Finally after all that, I went back to my lab and the invigilator completed my registration after a few more minutes. By the time I started my exam, I was already around 5 minutes late. PE was my strongest paper among the combo, so the whole situation made me even more stressed.

Even during the exam there were technical problems. The student sitting beside me had his computer shut down in the middle of the exam. Thankfully he had almost finished and the invigilators somehow managed to submit his paper using another computer.

If this had happened at a normal poorly managed center, I might have ignored it. But this is literally a known reputed private college, which makes the whole experience even more disappointing.

Like do they get paid the same amount cause no member have there individual brand deals yet, but one thing I know for sure is that both the labels are keeping way more money than what they are paying to the girls.

Before adolescence, everything felt perfect. Life was simple and carefree. I had a lot of friends, spent time with my cousins, took long afternoon naps after school, and never worried about my future, my grades, or what I was supposed to become.

But things feel very different now. Because of my mom, I’ve been distanced from my friends and cousins, and I’ve slowly become more introverted. I’m constantly anxious about what my future holds. In my family, I’m often treated like a failure because I didn’t choose the “safe” or typical paths like becoming a doctor, engineer, or lawyer.

Now, I’m always stressed about which colleges I’ll get into, and those peaceful afternoon naps feel like a luxury in the middle of a hectic and uncertain life.