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I feel like tiktok specifically knows when people are going through specific moments in life such as a breakup. I’ve noticed the algorithm changes to what I want to hear such as “they will reach out” etc. Many psychics on tiktok will offer free reads with a follow up of wanting money for a deeper read (this is not about compensation to psychics).

I sometimes as feel as if tiktok, as well as these psychics, feed into these people who are very emotional and are looking for any sense of comfort that things will work out in their favor. I’ve almost never had one psychic tell me that my person won’t reach out to me. I feel like they know that these people are so emotional that they will pay the money to hear what they want to hear.

What do you think?

Edit: I wanted to add that they tend to use blanket phrases that encapsulate a wide audience such as “they want to reach out but are holding back” or “there was a deep emotional connection” in order to give hope instead of telling what is actually true bc then that might not sell as well.

I’m not sure if this is the right area to post this but wanted to see if anyone else struggles with this. My mom can say something that isn’t necessarily bad or rude or anything and I am just immediately pissed and tense. Sometimes even her presence triggers me. It’s been like this for years and I’ve talked to my therapist about it and she said all I really can do is be aware of how I’m feeling.

Sometimes it comes down to her telling me something she’s already told me several times or just boring neighborhood drama or mundane day to day stuff I don’t really care about. I know it’s not something she’s doing. Sometimes I am scared I’ll end up like her when I’m older and only have boring shit to talk about to my husband who doesn’t love me anymore and should’ve gotten a divorce 15 years ago.

It doesn’t bother me when other people do this. Just my mom. I don’t know if it’s because I secretly have internalized feelings or what. My mom is a very petty, immature, passive aggressive communicator which probably has me on edge 24/7.

I try not to take it out on her. I’ve learned to stay silent if I don’t have something nice to say in return but sometimes I just want to tell her I don’t give a fuck about this random topic.

I almost wonder if I act like my father who always ignores her when she speaks. They have a loveless marriage.

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In my past two relationships specifically, both of my exes have said they “don’t want to argue” during conversations that I had no clue we were arguing. I know I used to suck at taking accountability because to me taking accountability meant that I purposely did that action to hurt them and have learned that accountability≠malintent. Most of the time when we’re “arguing” I’ve realized that it comes down to not feeling understood and trying to make the person understand me which can be frustrating. I don’t yell or use names to demean my partner. Most of these happen over text as well which we all probably know is a terrible way to communicate as you cannot pick up tone and is one way arguments and misunderstandings occur.

Does trying to make someone understand your pov = arguing? I feel like it shouldn’t but I guess it does.

Is $148,912 with a quality bonus of 10k a good salary for a first assist neurosurgery position in Seattle, WA? Its a mix of outpt clinic and OR. the hours consist of 4x10s (days) with rotating weekend and 1st call (day). Weekends are 12 hour shifts. Not sure if this would mean I would work 1-2 less days during the week or not as the recruiter couldn't tell me much.

Is this live-able for the area? I was offered a different position at 125k (not including bonuses) in Richland, WA in a different setting.

Edit: corrected to say neurosurgery and not neurology

I posted a few days ago asking if it would be possible to rescind my job acceptance from a company. In short I don’t think it is a good idea to move to this area anymore due to my relationship ending (he would be my only support in the area which is a big deal when Id be moving across the company)

A lot of you suggested not to rescind my job acceptance until I have another job lined up. The company I accepted a job for is quite big in the area and I have an interview with the same health care system but several hours away in a different speciality.

I have started very basic onboarding information with the company although my start date isn’t until September (I need to take my boards and get accredited).

Do I disclose that I have technically accepted an offer within the company at the end of the intervie? it doesn’t make sense to, but isn’t this something the interviewers/hiring personnel would figure out? That I’ve already accepted a job within the company ?

Hi guys. I’m a bit of a newbie and had some questions regarding a regret spell. I have already done a healing spell for them and plan on doing a protection spell if I do the regret spell, but wouldn’t a regret spell overwhelm them with more emotions regarding the relationship and cause them to pull back even more if they have done this in the past? Alternatives for this? Would I be better off doing a truth and clarity spell?

Hello. New grad looking for a job in the Seattle area. Would prefer not downtown but am really open to anything. I am struggling to have any of my UW job applications looked at through their portal and have already tried reaching out to recruiters in the past. Ideally I would have wanted to go into EM, urgent care or trauma but know that is pretty impossible for the area and no experience and have been straight up told that by recruiters. I am really open to anything but haven’t had much luck through provider solutions and development or indeed. I am not from the area as well so I have no personal connections. Can anyone share some advice? I’m not too picky on what I go into now but like surgery.

I’ll keep this as short as possible. I am going through a bad breakup and one of the big reasons I took this job and signed the contract was because my partner was also moving to this area. I wouldn’t have chosen this area as my first choice and I don’t think the area will make me happy long term or allow me to make friends. At first I tried to keep a positive outlook but the more I talk to people from the area the more I am scared to move and think it won’t be a good mental health decision. although I know everything is what you make it, I will be moving more than 35 hours away from my family and won’t know anyone in the immediate area. Originally I told myself if I was going to move across the country, it was going to be in the area that is my first choice

I won’t say the company, but I will say it has a rather large presence along the west coast. I do like the company and would want to work with them, but again, the area is not appealing to me. They already said they won’t take new grads in the city that is my first choice (I take my boards in a week).

I also want to state that my start date isn’t until September due to me not being licensed yet and the accreditation process. I believe the job offer is contingent on me passing my boards and is in an at will state.

Has anyone been able to get out of the contract after signing without being on the company’s shit list for future job offers or do I basically have to suck it up and take this job in this area because I already signed the contract? They have not given me any money or compensation yet. The only thing binding me is the contract.

Please help. I really don’t know what to do. I know I can always leave after a year but I would owe them a portion of any moving fees they compensated me and hate the idea of being in an area I hate for a year.

Hello all. I was curious to see if anyone had any good or bad reviews regarding the Washington square apartments. I know they are a bit cheaper than other complexes in the area. The only things I don't like are the lack of an in unit washer and dryer and no microwave/small kitchen. Didnt know if it was worth compromising on price for this complex. Ive heard the newer management is not the best. Also have been looking at shoreline, park place and mosaic on the river.

Any input welcome.

I am in my early-mid 20s and will be moving to Richland soon. I also wanted to gauge the best way to meet someone in Richland. I am going to try my best to put myself out there by joining clubs and at music shows but tbh I haven’t had much luck with dating in the “real” world and have mostly met people on dating apps. Politics is really important to me in a relationship as well as similar lifestyles although I know people like to camp and hike out there which I’m on the same page with. I wont have a ton of coworkers at my future job to meet unfortunately.

Just looking for tips or advice or how your partner and you met in the area.

I don’t deserve this. I have done nothing but support you and remind you of your value and your worth day after day of trying to make your life easier through your depression whether it was helping you clean or helping you keep a positive outlook or doing something I knew you were too exhausted to do. I made sure you ate. I made sure you went to the gym. I made sure you hung out with your coworkers and friends. Sure. I made mistakes. I made mistakes that are able to be fixed with some simple fucking communication. At least I can admit that I have fault. I was patient with you. For MONTHS I put up with treatment I know I don’t deserve while you worked on getting better. I put MY life on the sideline so that YOU could get better. I held out hope and silently suffered. I was down for EVERY part of you good and bad. Where are you the one time I ask something of you. The one time im selfish. Fuck you. I don’t deserve this. YOU don’t deserve ME.

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Today I cried watching a wedding scene. The groom was crying as his wife walked down the aisle. I can’t imagine someone loving me so much that they would want to spend their entire life with me. I can’t imagine someone crying as I walk down the aisle. I feel so unlovable and doomed. Scared no one will ever love me enough to willingly want to spend their life with me. I’m worried I’ll get stuck with someone who only tolerates me and gives me the bare minimum because it’s what I accept—so scared to be alone that I have rather accept a love. I know I don’t deserve than be alone.

I deserve love. I deserve flowers. I deserve to be spoken to kindly. I deserve to be spoiled. I deserve to feel secure. I deserve to be loved correctly. I deserve a happy ending. I deserve to be chosen. I deserve to be fought for. I deserve someone who takes the lead. I deserve respect. I deserve so much. I thought i was close.