u/FurryPotatoSquad

37F, single. I've rented for 10ish years now, have always dreamed of having my own home where I can have my dream garden, no worrying about what the landlord will say if I rip out the grass. No neighbors on the other floors I have to deal with. Used to hope I'd get married and buy that home with a spouse. Came home today after a long week of work hoping to sit in the yard and pull my garlic, only to find the basement tenant for the first time in the year she been here is having people over in the yard (and used my chairs without asking 🙄 I would've said sure, but annoyed she didnt ask) I'm seriously thinking about finally looking to buy next year, I'm not getting any younger.

Do you find it feasible to manage a home on your own, physically and time wise? What do you wish you had thought about and planned for beforehand?

Matched with 39M, chatted a few days, I asked him to coffee. Weather was comfortable, overcast evening, we met at a Starbucks at 6pm. Wore my standard first date outfit of nice jeans, flats, and a cute floral top. He wore sneakers, cargo shorts, and a (subtle) fandom themed tshirt. He said I looked nice, I said thanks, I usually wear jeans an a tshirt on weekends but I dress up a bit for dates. He said something like "I like to dress comfortably."

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As I was driving home and mulling over the meet, I couldn't help but feel a bit... disappointed I guess?.. that he didnt put a bit of effort in, considering it's a first impression and I always try to look casual nice (Bigger issue was he didnt ask me much and the convo felt too one sided, but I need no perspectives on that lol)

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Ladies and any Men who may be lurking, is this typical for a summer coffee date?