u/FuturMadao

Excuse my typo btw, I'm not an English native.

I was diag autistic 4 years ago (I'm an adult in my 30's), and I feel like I would not have a normal life, like having someone who loves me and stuff. I feel like if I die tomorrow, nobody would care because I'm not interresting and too ugly to live. I was told many times I was ugly and 2/10, like too ugly and being autistic, it makes it even harder. My relationships life is empty without any surprise.

I feel like if tomorrow I disappears nobody would care. Or even more, they would be happy because I feel like a nuisance for everyone. They might prefer someone less autistic, more social, someone who have Netflix and who loves Stitch from Disney.

I'm not important for everyone, I'm like the third wheel for everyone. Each time a friend has a new relationship, I'm discarded. And even if I want to date, to find someone to love, it would not going back because I'm too ugly and weird for relationships. There is always people better than me, more interresting and more useful. If I'm not useful, then I would count for nobody.

Do you also struggles about this fate of dying alone and forgotten by all?

Bonsoir tout le monde, on est en plein été et pendant que beaucoup profitent avec leurs familles, leurs amis, bah moi je suis tout seul et je me fais chier (même si la Switch on s'occupe bien, y'a toujours de quoi faire de ce côté). Je m'entretiens plutôt, je marche beaucoup, je fais beaucoup de choses... Mais en solo. "sortir de sa zone de confort", certains m'ont dit d'aller en boite et picoler que c'est ça la vraie vie, sauf que non, moi je suis le genre à explorer les coins reculés, les forets et ce genre de choses. Mais visiblement, ça n'attire personne.

Je pense avoir de la conversation et etre quelqu'un qui peut être pertinent, le souci c'est que je suis TRES moche (on m'a dit plus d'une fois que j'étais "bien trop moche pour trouver une relation amoureuse"). Y'a certaines personnes de ma famille qui sont très toxiques, du type PN et eux vivent leur meilleure vie. J'en dis pas plus pour éviter de me faire cramer.

Du coup oui j'ai des amis, et je m'entends bien avec une partie de ma famille. Sauf que si du jour au lendemain je meurs ou il m'arrive un truc, bah je vais être oublié par tout le monde du jour au lendemain. On trouvera toujours quelqu'un de plus beau, de plus sympa, de plus intéressant que moi. Je me dis que toutes les relations sont hyper remplaçables et surtout pour mon cas. On me dit "rare" sauf que quand on voit mon physique, on change très vite d'avis.

Plus les gens se mettent en couple, plus ils se marient, et plus je suis mis de côté, parce que un mec "célibataire", ça fait fuir visiblement, comme si c'était le drapeau rouge ultime.

C'est le bordel ce message mais bon, fallait que ça sorte. J'aimerais me faire une raison que mon destin c'est de mourir et d'être oublié par tout le monde, mais j'ai beaucoup de mal. J'aimerais être "important" pour quelqu'un comme je vois les autres personnes que j'apprécie comme "importantes" pour moi.

Hi here, pretty sure I have BDD here, and I feel like my face is really messed up. But when I posted there about my nose, some told I had a "good nose" and even some thought I was "rage baiting" but I feel really insecure about my face and feels like it's disfigured (I feel like a 2/10 at best, and even some people told me this irl). I was also bullied a lot younger, was told ugly most of my life.

I noticed most people don't like their nose, and some people feels like their nose ruins their face, while it's actually really nice, I wonder if it's linked to BDD and bullying too? I mean, pretty sure if the beauty standards were less harsh ,people would like their nose more. So I wonder if the two stuff are linked.

I hope in any case you can feel the best!

Hi here, I post here because I have rather a straight nose, but I wished for a long time being different. I accept it now, it's much more better than in the past, but I wanted it being maybe less long or more upturned, due to beauty standards being harsh and was told it was "beaky". Was it your case too? I hope you can like yourself the best!

Hi here, what do you like over your nose? What makes you appreciate it, even if it's not ideal for yourself? For my case I think even if it's looking long I like it being straight I think. Maybe you can feel the same about yours. Take care of yourself!

Hi here, I noticed most people with smaller chin did not like their nose too because it sticks out and the harmony is not optimal then. Do you have issues with your nose or you do like it, it's more your chin the issue? Hope mewing helps in any case!

Hi there, I noticed most people who don't like their nose often have small chin area. I feel like it's quite common the nose sticks out due to having a small chin. Is it your case? I feel like the whole harmony with a stronger chin could help to like your nose more. I had this issue about my nose!

Hope you can like yourself the best.

Hi here, hearing aids user since 5 years, I also wear glasses since 8 years. I still needed hearing aids since much more long time too.

I did notice most people who wear hearing aids also wear glasses, so I was wondering if it might be linked? I remember when I got glasses, I "heard better" due to lip reading. I'm hypersensitive so I was wondering if it damaged my eyes too.

So do we damage our ears/eyes with actual societey standards? What is your experience with this?

Hi here, I read sometimes people have "perfect noses", but what does it means exactly? I feel like for myself it's more about the face harmony than the nose itself. I think a perfect nose helps to match someone face and makes it better, like it's "cherry on top", making the whole face smooth and harmonious. Do you know someone who has this "perfect" nose? Hope you can like yourself as well!

Hi here, I got my first pair of hearing aids in 2021 which is quite late since I needed them for a long time, I have slight/moderate hearing loss that was significant to need them for a long time, especially for school.

I remember for middle school I had a hearing test, I failed it but it was "not enough" to get hearing aids, yet it was somehow significant because teachers often but me in front of class, not because I could not see, but because I could not hear well.

Did you have hearing tests during school years, and if so did it help you to get hearing aids or you had similar experiences?

Hi here, I noticed for noses aside from family it's quite rare to find a "nose twin". But did you find someone who have a similar nose to you? Or looks a lot alike? For myself my nose is quite straight but I'm not sure if I met a "nose twin" irl. I might have some friends who have similar nose shape/but often shorter or less prominent.

Still, did you meet a nose twin or you did not meet one yet?

Hi here, to spread positivity there, I feel like some people post about about their nose because they feel like quite insecure about it. I was wondering, what do you like about your nose? I think even if you feel insecure about it, there is some good points.

For my case I feel like my nose is kind of long, but I like it's pretty straight and it reminds me my mom's nose. Maybe something like this could help to feel more confident.

I hope you can feel better too!

Hi, I know noses still grow over age, but in which age your nose "did not change" the shape? I feel like for myself it looks like how it is since 15/16. Used to think it was too long and harsh and was told this, but maybe I grew into it. Face structure development could help to figure out how your nose is in the end. I try to accept my face the best even if it's long. Is your experience similar?

Hi here, sometimes I read a nose "suits a face", and I was wondering what it means to you? Do some nose fits less face than the others? I feel like it's a nice compliment, but do all noses are proportionnals?

To me a nose that fits perfectly it's like I can't see other nose on this person face, if the nose change, the whole face of the person could change. Even for the most unique noses/I feel like they can fit a face is the harmony is specific.

Do you have for yourself/a nose that fits you?