r/Noses

Hello, why is everyone here so against surgery? If someone dislikes something about their nose and wants to change it, that can be a positive step for feeling better about themselves. I see it as something that can bring a person happiness.

I love myself, and when I look at myself, wanting to look even more beautiful can also be part of that mindset.

But in many posts, a lot of people here seem strongly against surgery. Why?

My husband and I had the most incredible and perfect wedding day yesterday. I am so happy and we are waiting on the video and photo footage to come through. However, friends and family have been sending us images and videos of our day.

My dress is perfect. My hair is beautiful. My makeup is stunning. My husband is glowing, the most handsome man on the planet.

And yet, my fucking hook nose is so distracting. I am quite petite, with otherwise delicate features and as a kid, I was bullied pretty severely for my "hawk nose". I used to have boys ask me out as a joke (this wasn't a one-time thing either). I inherited my father's nose, who got it from his father. It is a very prominent, masculine roman nose. For years, I've told myself I wouldn't change it because of the cost. I tried to comfort myself and say it's a family heirloom. However, this is a family heirloom no one wants, the equivalent of getting a useless, tacky antique. Except this antique is in the fucking smack middle of my face.

Everyone kept telling me how beautiful I looked but seeing those images... hurt. It has cast a pall on the memory of the day for me. My husband has always loved me as I am and has told me he'd be heartbroken if I changed my nose, because this was the face he fell in love with. However, I can't help but feel like I wish it matched my face better. It's to a point where I feel the way I look doesn't match my personality either. I look like a literal witch and it... just really makes me sad.

All in all, I wish that on the most important day of my life, where I was meant to feel the most beautiful I have ever been, that I had done it. I am now dreading the photos and videos and I am assuming my vendors wont post and secretly hoping they wont because... I dont want anyone to see me.

I’ve been on a journey to start attempting to like my nose more, or at least tolerate it. I’m going to therapy next week, which I’m hoping will help with my overall self image (along w accepting my nose). My hubby has said he likes it; he never commented on it specifically until i was more consistently vocally insecure about it (but I guess what reason would he have to comment on it?) He always makes me feel like it’s beautiful and that I’m making a big deal out of nothing. In effect, he wants me to love it, and doesn’t want me to get any work done, nose included.
But a few things have sent me spiraling lately. You can see pics of my nose on my profile, as I posted photos of myself & it on this subreddit a few weeks ago. Most people were supportive, but there were a few comments supporting me getting a nose job (also on other subs as well). Also, at work the other day, I was talking to my coworker and we got on to the topic of plastic surgery. I mentioned that I wanted a nose job, and without missing a beat, his exact response was “Oh, to fix the bump?”
The hubby always makes me feel like it’s not noticeable. However it obviously is. I can’t afford rhinoplasty currently unfortunately. I just wish my nose wasn’t as “weird” as it is. Do any of you all feel the same, or similarly struggle? What has helped y’all? It can suck, ngl :(