u/Gretal122

Im soo over it.

I know my husband must get sick of me saying how tired I am ( he doesn't say that, but I just have NO energy at all 😞

I've been tired for years, but it seems to be getting worse.

I have had blood tests in the past which were ' normal ', the last one I had, probably 6 months ago, the doctor said my cholesterol was high, and prescribed a Statin medication, but I have read Statins arent very good ?

Would the high cholesterol be making me extra tired ?

Anyone else feeling like this ?

Its awful 😖

So, at the end of a get together ( we were out for my Granddaughter's birthday dinner , but my Granddaughter and her friends were off talking by themselves, she has just turned 13)

Anyway , I must have said something about being tired and was ready to head home, and ny SIL's friend says " you just need more sex, make sure to give ( husband) sex when you get home " I try to just laugh ot if, but he still goes on about it so I try to change the subject, saying something like "TMI "..even my niece iin her 40's, calls them vulgar( sort of half joking).

I mean, not that I told him,but my husband and I aren't having sex lately ( mutual problems), not that its something this person he needs to know.

Anyway, I 'm just curious, would you like it as an older woman, to be told this by your SIL's friend?

Im not upset, I just think it's weird?

I bought 6 chicken schnitzels on Saturday afternoon ( two days ago ), but changed plans so didnt use them that night , its Monday now, and would rather not waste them, but not sure how long its ok to have them ?

If it makes any difference, the staff member just opened a new bag of them ( after the tray in the cabinet was empty, he went to get a new pack )

Of course they dont have a ' use by ' date when buying from.the deli..

They were ' on special' ($ 2 each )if that makes a difference ?

My husband thinks that they will be fine to use?

Just thought I'd ask here?

Thank you

I usually would offer to watch them, but they live a 40 minute drive away, and I hate driving at night.

My daughter said its ok., she didn't have time to bring them here

Am I a bad Grandmother?

I guess Im stressing out about it

Ok, so I dont mean to sound unsympathetic, but EVERY time she rings, it's to tell me in detail why she's not happy with the doctor she has seen,blah blah.

She has had heart issues( which yes, is aworry), but after seeing multiple doctors, who give her advice, the latest doctor she saw, asked why she isn't she taking a certain medication ( I can't remember what irs called), and she basically isn't happy with his ' attitude '( but just complains about everything)

Anyway, after saying " oh dear, sorry to hear that' etc etc, and after an hour or so, I say " Well, I have to go".( I had already said I was needing to go out somewhere and had to go get ready) , she just keeps talking .

I' m in my 60's and she is 70..

I also have anxiety/ depression ( but dont tell her all about it), but she feels the need to tell me all the different symptoms one can have with anxiety because she feels I need to know ?( um thanks ?)

Its so exhausting 😩

I know it was released couple of years ago or so ( and saw it back then),but we happened to watch it again on Netflix the other night.

Its so sad that Colonel Parker basically worked him to his death ( if you haven't seen it, according to the movie, the Colonel originally signed Elvis up for 6 weeks at a big Hotel in Las Vegas ,and Elvis wanted to tour other countries, but Colonel Parker signed him up to entertaini longer at the Hotel and he didn't get a choice )

He was given drugs to ' keep going' even after collapsing..

Anyway , may Elvis RIP.( I realise its almost 50 years since he died)

I tried to make an effort to do something with my Grandchildren today,

They are in the last week if the school holiday, and saw on Facebook that there was a 'Flowerpot painting and after painting it they could plant a plant in the pot activity at a local venue earlier today , and thought it might be fun to go do it with them?

I asked my daughter if they wanted to come( thought we could all have lunch at the venue as well)

I didn't force them to come , I honestly didn't care, I just thought it might be a nice thing to do ?

Anyway, my daughter and Grandchildren ( aged 10 and 12) met me there, but when we went to the table to do the activity, my Grandchildren didn't want to .

I was like ok, we dont have to.., but my daughter tried to convince them to ( by this time Im like, why bother?)

My Grandson just started playing games on his mum's phone, whatever ..

Then I tried asking if they would like some lunch ( I wokd have ordered something), but just got sullen looks etc.

I ended up just telling my daughter Id just go home( after suggesting everything)

It was such a crap day.

Im more depressed now

I can never do anything right.

I dont actually believe that's the reason,

Another issue us he is completely addicted to ipads , screens etc.

I've seen him have a meltdown if my daughter won't hand her phone over to him to play games or whatever .or if he doesn't get his own way, he has a meltdown.

Even after his birthday party a few days ago at a ' game arcade place ' , when we were leaving, the escalator going up to where the car was wasn't working, so he was trying to run up the ' down' escalator .

I was worried he was going to fall,so told him to come back down, ( and we would just walk up)

By the time we were up to where the car was, he stood there and refused to move( because I assume he was annoyed we had told him not to run up the escalator)

We hadn't said anything angrily, he just gets angry if he doesn't get his own way.

My daughter had to coax him to eventually come to the car, then on the way home he wet himself (no big deal, but wonder if he did it on purpose and)

I actually worry what he's going to be like when he's a teenager when he doesn't get his own way..

In the early 70s ( maybe in the 60s too, but I only remember seeing the show in the 70s) when I was growing up, there was a variety show with singers,and dancers called 'The Black and white minstrels '.

Basically they were men with their faces painted black with bright white lips and other white make up.

I also remember a ' skit' on an Australian show ( Hey Hey its Saturday, which was a great show) where some men were pretending to be black ( with make up) , and I think it was a guest on the show saying how offensive it was.

Anyway, does anyone else remember the 'Black and white minstrels' ?( just curious, Im not suggesting it was a good idea. )

Does anyone know what I mean and why my phone isnt ' showing ' this now ?

Is it called' predictive text' or something like that ?

Does anyone know how to get it back ( if possible ?)

I just wouldnt want to be here if my husband died first.

Im 65 , and not only becsuse of this ( it might sound awful, but is one ofthe reasons )

Since we retired , my husband pays bills etc ec online from an account I know nothing about.

I know he has superannuation in this account which he transfers an amount fortnightly in to a joint account ( which I use for shopping or whatever, but if something hapoened to him , I have no idea how to access this other account ?

I have also hinted to him, that I think we should have some type if account that is for any funeral expenses, but he just says not to worry about it. He is 67 .

I mean I just dont know what to do if anything unexpectedly happens if you know what I mean.?

So consequently I hope I die first, because Id have no idea what to do, how to pay fir stuff etc ?

We own our house. So I know if something happened to both of us, our daughters would sell the house to cover expenses etc, I just dont know what I'd do ?

I dont mean ny husband is being ' secretive', I hae trief to tactfully bring it up, he just doesnt think its a big deal, but its just something I think about sometimes ?

I do have depression / anxiety ( not just about these issues), which doesnt help.

I dont even want to get out of bed most days.

I' m tired..

As the title says

Just wonderong if you might be able to suggest something please.

Thank you in advance

Obviously I know they wear designer gowns etc which are probably made especially for them , but do they actually go shopping for clothes ( or even food items or whatever occasionally ?)

Do the public ever see them in ' everyday' situations like this ? ( apart from public appearances I mean )

Just curious ?

I dont live in England