u/Gretal122

I usually would offer to watch them, but they live a 40 minute drive away, and I hate driving at night.

My daughter said its ok., she didn't have time to bring them here

Am I a bad Grandmother?

I guess Im stressing out about it

Ok, so I dont mean to sound unsympathetic, but EVERY time she rings, it's to tell me in detail why she's not happy with the doctor she has seen,blah blah.

She has had heart issues( which yes, is aworry), but after seeing multiple doctors, who give her advice, the latest doctor she saw, asked why she isn't she taking a certain medication ( I can't remember what irs called), and she basically isn't happy with his ' attitude '( but just complains about everything)

Anyway, after saying " oh dear, sorry to hear that' etc etc, and after an hour or so, I say " Well, I have to go".( I had already said I was needing to go out somewhere and had to go get ready) , she just keeps talking .

I' m in my 60's and she is 70..

I also have anxiety/ depression ( but dont tell her all about it), but she feels the need to tell me all the different symptoms one can have with anxiety because she feels I need to know ?( um thanks ?)

Its so exhausting 😩

I know it was released couple of years ago or so ( and saw it back then),but we happened to watch it again on Netflix the other night.

Its so sad that Colonel Parker basically worked him to his death ( if you haven't seen it, according to the movie, the Colonel originally signed Elvis up for 6 weeks at a big Hotel in Las Vegas ,and Elvis wanted to tour other countries, but Colonel Parker signed him up to entertaini longer at the Hotel and he didn't get a choice )

He was given drugs to ' keep going' even after collapsing..

Anyway , may Elvis RIP.( I realise its almost 50 years since he died)

I tried to make an effort to do something with my Grandchildren today,

They are in the last week if the school holiday, and saw on Facebook that there was a 'Flowerpot painting and after painting it they could plant a plant in the pot activity at a local venue earlier today , and thought it might be fun to go do it with them?

I asked my daughter if they wanted to come( thought we could all have lunch at the venue as well)

I didn't force them to come , I honestly didn't care, I just thought it might be a nice thing to do ?

Anyway, my daughter and Grandchildren ( aged 10 and 12) met me there, but when we went to the table to do the activity, my Grandchildren didn't want to .

I was like ok, we dont have to.., but my daughter tried to convince them to ( by this time Im like, why bother?)

My Grandson just started playing games on his mum's phone, whatever ..

Then I tried asking if they would like some lunch ( I wokd have ordered something), but just got sullen looks etc.

I ended up just telling my daughter Id just go home( after suggesting everything)

It was such a crap day.

Im more depressed now

I can never do anything right.

I dont actually believe that's the reason,

Another issue us he is completely addicted to ipads , screens etc.

I've seen him have a meltdown if my daughter won't hand her phone over to him to play games or whatever .or if he doesn't get his own way, he has a meltdown.

Even after his birthday party a few days ago at a ' game arcade place ' , when we were leaving, the escalator going up to where the car was wasn't working, so he was trying to run up the ' down' escalator .

I was worried he was going to fall,so told him to come back down, ( and we would just walk up)

By the time we were up to where the car was, he stood there and refused to move( because I assume he was annoyed we had told him not to run up the escalator)

We hadn't said anything angrily, he just gets angry if he doesn't get his own way.

My daughter had to coax him to eventually come to the car, then on the way home he wet himself (no big deal, but wonder if he did it on purpose and)

I actually worry what he's going to be like when he's a teenager when he doesn't get his own way..

In the early 70s ( maybe in the 60s too, but I only remember seeing the show in the 70s) when I was growing up, there was a variety show with singers,and dancers called 'The Black and white minstrels '.

Basically they were men with their faces painted black with bright white lips and other white make up.

I also remember a ' skit' on an Australian show ( Hey Hey its Saturday, which was a great show) where some men were pretending to be black ( with make up) , and I think it was a guest on the show saying how offensive it was.

Anyway, does anyone else remember the 'Black and white minstrels' ?( just curious, Im not suggesting it was a good idea. )

Does anyone know what I mean and why my phone isnt ' showing ' this now ?

Is it called' predictive text' or something like that ?

Does anyone know how to get it back ( if possible ?)

I just wouldnt want to be here if my husband died first.

Im 65 , and not only becsuse of this ( it might sound awful, but is one ofthe reasons )

Since we retired , my husband pays bills etc ec online from an account I know nothing about.

I know he has superannuation in this account which he transfers an amount fortnightly in to a joint account ( which I use for shopping or whatever, but if something hapoened to him , I have no idea how to access this other account ?

I have also hinted to him, that I think we should have some type if account that is for any funeral expenses, but he just says not to worry about it. He is 67 .

I mean I just dont know what to do if anything unexpectedly happens if you know what I mean.?

So consequently I hope I die first, because Id have no idea what to do, how to pay fir stuff etc ?

We own our house. So I know if something happened to both of us, our daughters would sell the house to cover expenses etc, I just dont know what I'd do ?

I dont mean ny husband is being ' secretive', I hae trief to tactfully bring it up, he just doesnt think its a big deal, but its just something I think about sometimes ?

I do have depression / anxiety ( not just about these issues), which doesnt help.

I dont even want to get out of bed most days.

I' m tired..

As the title says

Just wonderong if you might be able to suggest something please.

Thank you in advance

Obviously I know they wear designer gowns etc which are probably made especially for them , but do they actually go shopping for clothes ( or even food items or whatever occasionally ?)

Do the public ever see them in ' everyday' situations like this ? ( apart from public appearances I mean )

Just curious ?

I dont live in England

So , Im talking ten years ago .

I had taken a month or so off( ny husband waa having major heart surgery ( stressful time for him of course, and worrying for both of us).

Anyway , the first shift I had after going back was in the chaotic time when the whole store was being rearranged ( registers being moved to the centre, departments were in completely different places etc)

I was based in the fitting room, and even the phone system had changed , ( cant remember exactly, but different to what it had been wuth incoming calls etc )as well as the new earphone thing to communicate with other staff.( do they still have that, I hated it ) ?

I had to ask other staff where things were if a customer asked me ( because as I said, everyrhing was in rhe process of being moved)

It waa just so stressful that so many changes were happening.

To top it off, as if to 'test me' the department manager came to me and asked where the hangers were ?

I was a bit confused and thought she meant tbe box of hangers in the cupboard thing ( in the ftting room ), but no , she was ' testing' to see if I knew wherw they would be in the rearranged store ( I would have known in the past, but because I'd only been there an hour or so, I didnt know

I just left afrer the shift and never went back,

I went home and cried because I felt so awful, because I was so stressed out.

I know it sounds silly, but I had ( have) anxiety and it was just all too much..

We were out most of the day yesterday, came home around 6pm , had a light dinner( had been to a Grandchild's party in the afternoon , with snacks etc so wasnt very hungry )

Usually I'd be tired, went to bed around 10 pm.and its now 3.30 am , and I just cant sleep !

Ive taken the usual magnesium supplement which sometimes helps, but nope.

I'm in my 60'ss

So over it..

Ugh

I realise it was ' first in , first served', but thought it was strange that the display stand and everythng was gone at my local Woolworths today , and the staff member didnt know if points can still be redeemed?

Are there any staff members here who might know please ?

I only have 34 points, so might not have been able to get anything anyway ?

I did get the small frypan a month or ago.( which was 50 points)

I was just curious.

Thank you in advance

Lol, loved Dame Edna :)