u/GDreex

M25 Dumped after 3 years… I want her back so bad. No contact since she left me, now 11 days. Tomorrow will be her birthday and I won’t text her.
Will she move on faster thanks to summer holidays? I can’t even imagine her saying “hot girl summer” in my head that i feel so anxious, while I am here, suffering. She seems to have the time of her life on IG (my friends told me, just to help me “move on”… instead i am broken).

I don’t have IG, dating apps and the only thought of dating again in the future is killing me.

Please folks I need your support😞

M25, just dumped by a F24 after a 3 years relationship. Why? Because we are in two different phases of life.
I have a fulfilling job, good salary for a 25 y o, I enjoy my fitness and I had a very stable and fulfilling life. That means that I really enjoy weekends walking around, eating out, going to the movies and meeting friends. Nothing crazy.

She, on the other side, was still studying stuff she hated, making her very unsatisfied by her daily life. All she wanted to do was partying and drinking with her friends, and she wanted me to go partying as well.

Unfortunately, I wake up early and don’t drink, so I really don’t enjoy it. Throughout the months, she started losing respect for me not wanting to go to parties (or “deciding where to go”, here’s my bad).

Now she left me by telling me our relationship was too stable at the point of being boring and not making her attracted to me anymore, despite me being very driven and caring towards her. Never needy, but always reliable, giving advice and calming her during university anxiety.

Will she come back? I must admit I am not the funniest guy in the room, but I have been her backbone throughout the relationship. Why did she value the “nightlife” more than what I provided during the day?

I know no contact is primarily for healing and not a technique to get someone back. Still, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't hoping for a possible reconciliation one day.

I'm M25, she is F24. We were together for almost 3 years.

I have a good career, work hard, go to the gym consistently, don't drink, don't party much, and generally live a pretty structured life. Throughout the relationship I was very supportive, especially because she struggles with anxiety and was unhappy with parts of her university experience. I was always there for her.

The breakup wasn't caused by cheating, abuse, or constant fighting.

The issue, according to her, was that the relationship had become too static and predictable. We mostly saw each other to go out for dinner, watch movies, spend time with her friend group, or just hang out. Our sex life had become less frequent and, honestly, somewhat repetitive.

After finishing her last university exam, she told me she felt like we were already living as an "adult married couple." She said I was caring, supportive, stable, and her rock, but that she didn't feel enough excitement, spontaneity, or lightness anymore. She felt emotionally distant and decided to end the relationship.

One thing that stuck with me is that when she left she said something along the lines of:

"What if I change my mind? I'm scared to jump into the void."

I asked her not to say things like that because I knew it would keep me attached to hope.

We are now 10 days into no contact.

I'm suffering a lot. I miss her, I miss our routine, I miss the idea of spending the summer together.

I'm trying to focus on myself: seeing friends more, trying new activities, joining a running club, language exchange groups, things I probably should have done earlier.

My question is:

Has anyone experienced a breakup where the main reason was loss of excitement, novelty, and attraction rather than lack of love? If so, what happened later? Did your ex ever reconsider, or did the breakup ultimately confirm that the relationship had run its course?

Any coworking spaces close to Linea 1 stations? With power outlets and the possibility to do calls?

I read about wewe expat aperitivos, I find them very interesting. I am a local but work half remotely half in Spain, could I join the aperitivos?
Is 25 years old a suitable age? (I’m M25).

Any other suggestions to meet people around 25 years old would be great!

M25 looking for like-minded friends to go out for a coffee, sea, training, ping-pong.
I like computers (not gaming), have an engineering background, love self-improvement, deep conversations, stoicism. I don’t like drinking and smoking and I really don’t like the club environments, but I enjoy staying social, going for walks, cinemas, etc.

Lost friends due to my past relationships…