u/GabeDatDude

Hi everyone - I'm spending a little over two weeks in Vietnam for my birthday at the end of October (first time in Asia!). I'm coming from loud and exhausting NYC after a very difficult year and a half and landing in Ho Chi Minh 10/30. I desperately need a quaint seaside experience at a resort with daily massages and walking distance from the beach. I want to forget about city life for a bit.

In my research so far, I found the lovely looking Phan Thiet and a nice resort. However, I did see a good amount of people on here recommend Vung Tau. So my question is, are there any other places that I am missing that aren't too far from Ho Chi Minh that fit what I'm looking for? Any lesser known towns with way less people, particularly Americans?

Link to original: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1w8hs0t/found_out_that_current_woman_im_seeing_lives_with/

So, this post ended up getting a lot of traction and somehow became my most popular post of all time lol. I had left off saying that we were going on a date at a park in Brooklyn to ride the carousel and watch the sunset and I would eventually tell her. I decided to start with good vibes and ride the carousel, which of course was romantic. We then walk over to the spot and I say fuck it and tell her.

She was genuinely shocked. Did not take it well. She suggests that we just sit down, take in the sunset, and try not to think about it. Inevitably, we talk some more about it since our minds are racing. She tells me she's the jealous type and this would be really hard, but she may just need to think about it. In this moment, my gut just told me that I need to just tell her how I feel and that she can trust me. Maybe that'll show her it'll be ok. We end up having a long period of time where we just tell each other how strongly we feel about the other, stare into each other's eyes, make out, hold each other.

We leave the park and take a long walk to her train. She grabs my hand. We end up taking our minds off of it and having great conversation, stopping to make out hard some more. We reach her train and she asks if I can just giver her rundown of what happened, which I do. She says she might feel better but still needs some time to think about it. We have this super long goodbye at the station. We hold each other.

Last night, at work I get a voice message from her saying that she just can't do it and it's too much for her. Needless to say, I feel quite defeated. This one off thing from my past is literally the only thing getting in the way of something that could finally be great. I also feel silly for falling pretty hard after only a few dates, but, ya know, sometimes there's a feeling. It's crazy because from the responses here I felt like I was being ridiculous for even asking for advice. I think she's one of the rare instances of someone that just can't handle it like some people pointed out. Was really hoping everyone else was right.

I'll be ok. These things just start to sting more when you reach my age I guess. I could maybe grow up some more too. Thanks for being on my side fellow Redditors :)

35 and realized my upbringing really set me behind socially

Really struggling with making progress socially. I've always been introverted, very in my head, and for some reason people took that as an invite to be cruel and bully me throughout middle school, high school, and even into college. Hell, if I'm being honest, I've seen it seep into my adult years. I was physically bullied and received insults from even teachers and coaches.

All of this definitely left scars that I'm still dealing with. I have a hard time speaking up for myself and not mumbling because of being insecure about my voice. I feel people avoiding me after a certain time. I’ve been called awkward since high school.

I have felt periods of time where I’m confident and sort of in a “flow state” where talking to people is way easier and my mind quiets down, but over the last year or so those moments have been almost obsolete. People tell me I’m very attractive and kind. I’ve had relationships with awesome people. But a lot of the time I feel that I disappoint people because I don’t live up to how I look or somethin.

I feel like one of the last times I felt very confident and able to socialize well was on my birthday in 2023 when I invited grad school classmates to a party and they all showed up for me and people were loving talking with me. Something happened inside me in the last year or so and I just haven’t been able to get to that place mentally to work on my social skills. It’s made me quite sad.

I’ve discussed this in therapy but always told the same things: it’s a story I’m telling myself, those people’s opinions don’t matter. But I do care and I do want to improve my conversational skills and not come off as so nervous, boring. Because I am smart, I am interesting, I am passionate and kind.

I’ve been watching helpful videos on YouTube and trying to put myself out there but literally escaped a friend’s party last night and felt bad. Anyone else have this realization of giving off an energy and sliding backwards socially? Would a speech therapist help?

Title: Sorrow at Dave & Co.
Format: Short
14 pages
Drama/Comedy
Logline: Jay is going through it and just wants to survive his bar shift, but understaffing, a tall and handsome bro, and his own demons won’t make it easy for him.

Had a rough year after getting my MFA last May. Embarrassed but this is the first thing I've finished since then. This is about my NYC bartending experience over the years but especially this past year as I struggled with mental health, substance abuse, and burn out. It's a first draft, so far from what I think it can be. Concerns: Does it take too long for the conflict to start? Is there a real tension between Jay and Luke? Too much description? Does Jay's arc work and does the climax feel earned?

Thanks everyone. Happy I finally did some work :)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Ctg9u12-H4gVYRiZZhcyUSZVuU1FkkAl/view?usp=drive_link

Lee Chang-dong is best known for Burning it seems, which is understandable.

However, two films prior he dropped this banger of an exploration of grief and religion. This is Chang-dong at his most literary, thrilling, and my god heartbreaking. In my opinion this is the film that solidifies Chang-dong as a masterful storyteller. Also, I’ve just never seen a film confront religion so bluntly.

Not to mention it has what I believe to be the most massively underrated performance of the century. I mean, Jeon Do-yeon won best actress at Cannes but besides that her performance is never brought up in lead actress performance conversations. What she does here is on par if not better than Sean Penn and his depiction of grief in Mystic River. There’s one particular scene in a church that gives me chills just thinking about it.

Please watch I have literally nobody to talk about this movie with!

Hi lab lovers. Some context here. 35 (male) that lives alone in Brooklyn, NY. Had a very loving cat that became my first real pet over a long period of time but she sadly passed from cancer a few months ago. Realizing that I would love a loyal companion that will keep me active and help with my mental health. However, in my 20s I rescued a really crazy dog that ended up attacking me and sending me to the hospital. Still kind of traumatized by that lol.

I'm doing research and have always loved blue heelers, but just found out they are too crazy. I'm hoping to get a pup that will be great for trips upstate for hiking, is not super loud, and has a friendly disposition. Labrador retriever keeps popping up. Any owners here? Would you say they're good city dogs?

Thanks!

Hi lab lovers. Some context here. 35 (male) that lives alone in Brooklyn, NY. Had a very loving cat that became my first real pet over a long period of time but she sadly passed from cancer a few months ago. Realizing that I would love a loyal companion that will keep me active and help with my mental health. However, in my 20s I rescued a really crazy dog that ended up attacking me and sending me to the hospital. Still kind of traumatized by that lol.

I'm doing research and have always loved blue heelers, but just found out they are too crazy. I'm hoping to get a pup that will be great for trips upstate for hiking, is not super loud, and has a friendly disposition. Labrador retriever keeps popping up. Any owners here? Would you say they're good city dogs?

Thanks!