First attempt with a meh dai after having used an oscha bairn for 10 months. Kid is 14 months and about 82cm tall. He was 10kg in January, not sure how heavy now. I know I need to tighten the straps more. What else needs fixing? He is too low, right?
I have read Katy Bowman’s Whole Body Barefoot and I understand the importance of taking it slow and doing the exercises and stretches. However with a small child I have limited time for dedicated exercise and I feel that just with the bit here and there it would take literally ages to transition. How bad would it be to start transitioning by using barefoot shoes (or going barefoot when possible) for a limited amount of time everyday plus stretches here and there, then gradually wear the shoes more and more when I feel ready? The prospect of months of exercise only is very discouraging. How did you all do it?
edit: thank you everyone for replying! You definitely encouraged me to go for it and listen to my body :) will let you know how it goes!
I’m looking for opinions and lived experience to decide how to space my kids.
I was always of the opinion that a bigger age gap (5-6 years) would be ideal. You get lots of time with your first when they need you most (0-3) and they are grown enough and able to understand better that the little one has different and sometimes non-deferrable needs when they arrive.
Now that I have my first, though, I find that maybe I would like to have three, which makes that big an age gap a bit tricky, as I am 30. My son is 13 months and I must be honest, I kinda already want to do it again but I will not before he’s three because I really believe he needs me 100% for this span. He is not in daycare and will go to preschool when he’s 3 and a half years old. I was thinking I’d have the second when he’s in preschool so I’d get at least a half day of one on one time with the youngest, but then I realized he’s probably going to be sick all the time that first year. Right?
I know I can’t give the second the same quality of care I’m giving my first, but I’d like to do my best so I need good enough conditions.
So my options are:
- About 3 year age gap, roughly first six months with both at home, then 1st goes to preschool and start bringing illness home when little one is about 6 months
- 3 and a half age gap, when first has just started preschool, so technically we’d be having a few hours of time without him immediately but not sure how often he’s going to be sick and inevitably get the newborn sick
- roughly 4 years age gap, 1st one will have almost completed his first year of preschool and hopefully be less sick, but it’s a longer gap so having a third is possible in another four years, but maybe a bit more difficult
Questions for you guys:
How often was your kid sick the first year of preschool or daycare (whichever they did first)?
What age gap did you go for and how did it work out for you?