u/Gemela12

After the employee was notified they were fired, they just stood up from the office and walked out. I told them they needed to sign papers to formally end the contract the next day.

I managed to make them sign the paperwork I hand on hand, but nothing important at all. The real paperwork was supposed to be signed the day after. (Process specified by the lawyer).

Higher ups are not releasing severance and liquidation until they sign the final paperwork.

The employee didn't show up the next day, formally the last day of work, and when trying established communications basically was told that they are crossing state lines and are not interested in any paperwork.

Multiple people are freaking out, despite being warned that this employee had a high chance of not showing up after that notification.

Now, I'm in hot water cause I followed what was asked from me by the lawyer, separating paperwork in two days, and that I should've signed everything the very day the employee was fired, especially after seeing how eager the employee was to leave after being notified.

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First of all, you guys were extremely kind and supporting on that post. Wished I was working with any one of you, y'all really came through when I needed it.

You guys, it was a pretty dark day when I made that post, and 5 months later, found myself in the same position. Reread you posts and felt better again.

Had to do a custom dress for a client, got COVID in the meantime and finally the peer made me cry in front of the client. Client was pissed because she tried on an incomplete dress 3 times. 3 times I tried to finish it on time, and 3 times peer meddled and delayed the delivery. Stayed at work till 3am for 5 days straight only for my peer to completely ignore the work I did, only for her to deliver almost the same pattern I did, but also the flaws of that pattern were my fault as well.

A week later, I told her and my boss that I'm no longer interested on working with this person. Only to get a 30 minute monologue from this person that I'm intelligent, but I don't know pattern making and that she will never trust my patterns ever until I "take proper classes". Didn't reply to any of her baiting questions which made her "disappointed" in me.

Boss is giving her a time out, while giving me an opportunity outside the business to see my work outside of my peers oppression and see if I can deliver something complete and to standard without her supervision.

I'm a fashion designer. In my country we have seamstresses, tailoring seamstresses, sample makers and me, a fashion designer.

I have to reject jobs constantly cause people either not understand or wilfully ignores what I do.

I do know how to sew, how to pattern and understand how a different garments are constructed.

People keep coming with made to measure "customs" where they bring their inspo pics. That's fine. I create an illustration of my interpretation of that garment with a few notes from them. Usually that gets approved.

Then these "customers" go into the first fitting and completely destroy the design because it doesn't look like the inspiration pics. In the first meeting before the illustration I say I don't make dupes or clones, that's a sample maker job. Since illustration is not photographic evidence they will interpret it to their convenience.

The drawing shows a circle skirt? Well one of the inspo pics showed an A-line, so they will insist that we agreed on an A-line. The drawing showed draping? The client will interpret pleating.

The drawing shows movement from the figurine? Well that apparently was a drape I promised.

The fittings should end in minor adjustments, always ending up in major pattern changes. Completely different dresses. Sample makers are way cheaper, I don't understand the need to manipulate me in order to create a dupe.

I'm closing shop in October to reevaluate how I run the studio and to add new terms in the service agreements, and to take a breather from these "customers"

A woman came by and directly asked me, "hey if I bring a picture of a dress, let's say a Carolina Herrera, can you make it???"

I said: "Can I make it? Yes. Will I make it? No, I don't make duplicates or perform plagiarism."

Less than a week ago my account was stolen, the X warning email went directly to spam so I'm finding out just now.

My account is still there and everything from my profile still says it's me, all my posts have been deleted.

I'm not worried about my posts since the account was 15+ years old with less than 10 posts in it's lifetime. But it follows a bunch of friends and acquaintances with private accounts.

Tried to recover the account but y'all know there is no account support, only bots.

The profile displays my work, and displays my name, should I just report as impersonation?

It displays my work, uses my name and it's following my social circle but it's not me anymore.

Poodle/or Bichon mix. 12 YO, 7kg, male.

TLDR: after 2 weeks I finally caught the damn flea, his skin is swollen, and some parts of the rash seem to have a white dot inside. Should I allow the swelling to subside or are the bites infected? 2 days ago he got washed with dermatological relief shampoo for allergies, so his itchiness has calmed down to some extent. I don't mind going to the vet, but there is an specific doctor I prefer but I have to wait a week for an appointment with him. If antibiotics are needed I don't mind going tomorrow, vet is drop in so no appointments needed.

Story time for the curious:

I noticed my dog started scratching itself on sunday June 27. He managed to grab some father's day butter cookies, at the same time his topical canned food had its formula changed, so he was in transition, and finally he got injected the Thursday before, an anaesthetic for his hip issues.

He usually bites his hind legs when he is in pain. Plus he has high food sensitivity problems.

We figured he got an allergic reaction from the cookie, and that he was targeting his most uncomfortable spot.

He kept scratching, but also was having a terrible stomach rejection to his new food. We focused on the food rejection first, went to the vet and told him about the problem with the food and the scratching.

He told us it was probably the food rejection showing on his skin as well. Plus he usually gets very itchy for 2 weeks after the hip injection cause the pain is getting numb. Vet was not worried.

Dog is really chill for the rest of the week, still rejecting food heavily and still scratching, not all the time but a session or 2 a day where he was biting really intensely. I try to inspect him thoroughly but he will cry and bite if you try to reach his belly and hind legs (ligament operation on each hind leg, one stomach obstruction operation and one gallbladder removal.)

Next Sunday afternoon I see a black dot moving. My flea senses awaken, but when I finally get the dog to lay on its side I don't see that black dot. There are many black dots on its legs due to daily debris. I removed them but I knew none were a flea. The dog gets intensely uncomfortable to the point of crying and trying to escape from me for looking for a flea none else has seen, family thinks I'm hurting the dog. I saw some rashes when looking for the flea. I asked my family to call for the groomer, but they asked me to wait.

Monday and Tuesday I keep looking for the flea, still no signs of it. Biting gets really bad those 2 days. I did see some black dust spots in his butt but nowhere near the rashes while begging my sister to call the groomer. It has been 2 weeks since his last bath, since he was a little yucky and his regular shampoo is a dermatological allergy treatment I was hoping we could give my boy some relief. On Wednesday we call the groomer and he gives us an express appointment, I tell him to look for the damn flea. After washing him, the groomer says he found none.

Hoped that the bath either washed away the flea or at least removed whatever dust was creating the rash. Dog calms down but still bites his hind legs. Family tells me that it is probably the hip injection.

Finally, today, Friday, I saw that the rash was redder than yesterday, plus some sections had white dots within. Tell the family that we should get the vet to seriously check the rash.

Later I was lying down next to my dog and saw a suspicious black spot again!!!! This time I get distracted for a little bit, but 2 hours later I am lying down next to my boy again with 2 of my family members next to me.

Well life gives to those who believe, and I see a fucking black dot moving!!!!!

I SEE THE FLEA! I scream that I found the flea and my two sisters see it as well while I'm hunting in with my fingers.

I got VINDICATED (I sent the Captain Holt gif to the family chat)

I'm still looking for more just in case but I think I got rid of the main culprit. This is the first time where I cannot catch a flea after it'st first sighting. Usually I catch the fleas in less than a day, that's why my family was sure there weren't any fleas on the dog.

I do believe the flea hopped on my dog when he was getting his hip injection.

Last year on "Deal" season my sister bought 2 columns of toilet paper, floor to ceiling. Not even in COVID we had that much toilet paper at home. Same happened with other cleaning products, 3 boxes of 10 kilos each of powder detergent, a pack of 100 cleaning rags, like 10 refills of Mr clean surface spray. Like 10 gallon floor cleaning liquid and a bunch of other stuff.

It's been a year and we haven't finished anything that was bought around that time.

It's Deal season again and she bought everything again. I think now it's even worse.

Storing that amount of product is a nightmare, we told her last year how embarrassing it was to have a big ass column of toilet paper packs right when you go upstairs, but she told us if she could put it away, she would. We told her that then she shouldn't have bought that amount. Of course she used a guilt trip about how everything was going to be used anyway and how it was a purchase for all of us.

I told her I could store it in my hobby room (that she also uses as a bonus closet for all her clothing and accessories that doesn't fit in her room), so we could place it somewhere while the pile went down.

I really thought she could see how unhinged that purchase was, cause even after I gifted a whole pack to rolls to the office bathroom 3months ago, we still had 1 full column of toilet paper.

We have 3 people less at home now than a year ago.

This year we have like 14 hand soap refill packets. 6 gallons of detergent and a bunch of other giant bottles on the floor.

Me and my other sis keep making digs at the hoarding monument she has created. My hobby room is 1/3 hobby, 1/3 Closet and 1/3 cleaning supplies. We told her that it is a wild amount.

Her response? It is cheaper this way, since all of the products were sold with 3x2 or 4x3 deals. And that is it a years supply. We told her that we could just buy all of this when needed, we are no way close to poor. But she told us it was to not waste money, since what she is buying are the expensive quality products.

IDK how serious this is.

Should we stage an intervention?? She is the best debater out of all of us and the one with the shortest fuze. This isn't going to be easy.

I see this employee 3 times a week. Last week they asked me to move a day for the week after making it a 2 day week with a 4 day week the one after.

The thing is, there were some national holidays. One of them is labours day, no banks or sindicates work so it turned into a national holiday. 4 days after we have another national holiday, it is an official holiday but in another state, not here. Falls on a Tuesday, but some institutions move it to Monday.

Employee asked me if I was going to apply the non official holiday , (making their 4 day week into a 3 day week) and I told them, "to my knowledge we don't have that day as a holiday, tho I believe on previous years they have announced that it turns into an official. I will let you know, but I'm treating it as business as usual, will let you know for sure tho.

The official day passes on Sunday afternoon I send them "Next week business as usual". They reply "Ok, Thank you"

Monday passes and they don't show up, I'm thinking here. Hmmmmm, maybe they understood business as usual on the week after this one, and they understood I'm applying the holiday. I'm like fine, I understand some miscommunication. We had a natural disaster warning that derailed the whole day, nothing was damaged and no one got hurt.

Tuesday comes and they do a no show again. All I can think is we didn't see yesterday because it was a holiday, and they are not showing up today because of the holiday again?? That is suspicious, but again some institutions did both days as a break cause people are going to miss it anyway.

Comes Wednesday. And they did a no show AGAIN! There is no excuses for today, except for a national disaster evacuation sim. (The same type of disaster that occured on Monday). Employee really gets unwell with all of the sirens when sims and actual disasters occured.

Before I blew up on their ear. Did my Sunday message could be interpreted as "See you until the week after this one?".

Edit: I got confused by some messages to not blowing up and to just explain things calmy. After reading my post again I see where that is coming from now. "Blew up on their ear" is local lingo for "a call that will stay in your ear all day". I wasn't going to scream at them.

This employee has been with me for years, this week was just super unusual.

I called them to check up on them. They did miss read the message, but got super defensive immediately. There indeed was a misunderstanding, but I do believe the employee tried to abuse it as well.

The call went as follows:

Me: "Hey****, how are you?"

Them:"Fine, you know, here working at home as always. What's up?"

M: "just checking up on you since I didn't heard from you Tuesday, nor Wednesday. Everything ok?"

T: *long silence.... "What do you mean, you sent me the message that next week is business as usual."

M: "yes I understand that my message could be misunderstood,Will I see you Thursday?"

T: "when you said next week, meant we had the official day, right?"

M:"No, I meant we would see each other this week as usual, I understand the official day situation was confusing this year, that was my mistake. Will I see you tomorrow?"

T: "but you have told me, see you on Monday I might have understood better. So you are saying there was no official day this week"

M: "I mean, yes but that's in the past, it was my mistake. I'm just asking if I will see you Thursday?"

T: *long pause "you know, I already planned my week. Your message said we work until next week. There is nothing about this week."

M: " you asked me to confirm if we had an official day break or business as usual for the week and I answered business as usual. I understand there was miscommunication. Am I seeing you Thursday?"

T: "I already planned my week, I can't make it Thursday."

M: "Great, I'm seeing you Monday right?"

T: "yes."

M: "it's going to be 4 days next week right, Monday through thursday?"

T:" yes..."

M: "perfect, see yah, have a nice day"

T:"bye."

i want to iframe my server in https://pict.chat

the following message shows up

"Firefox Can’t Open This Page

To protect your security, google.com will not allow Firefox to display the page if another site has embedded it. To see this page, you need to open it in a new window."

any idea on how to fix it? doesnt need any login, or password. it does ask for the creation of a username, which I guess is triggering the block.

EDIT: changed the source to https://paperchat.net/. it isnt keyboard friendly and doesnt have the rainbow pen, and doesnt let you choose the user color, but at least works.