u/General-Machine-6173

I’m looking for advice because I’m really concerned about my boyfriend’s seizures.
I’m not sure when they first started, but I remember the second time we ever met up (around late September 2025), he suddenly started speaking gibberish, had a blank stare, and his body became stiff. It lasted about 4 minutes. When it was over, he had no memory of it.
He’s even been in a car accident before because he had a seizure while driving.
This would happen 2–3 times almost every day I was with him, which was about 3–5 days a week. Now I stay with him everyday to make sure nothing bad happens to him while he’s having a seizure. We officially started dating in late November, and the seizures were still happening. Some days he would have 1–3 seizures a day. Sometimes he could still move parts of his body during them, and other times he would become completely stiff.
One day about 2 months ago I woke up to a loud boom sound and found him on the floor having a seizure. I was worried he had hit his head, but afterward he didn’t remember anything and refused to go to the doctor. He doesn’t have insurance.
He has always told me not to get scared, not to call anyone, don’t call an ambulance, and that it happens when he drinks alcohol or when he’s stressed or doesn’t get enough sleep. I’ve encouraged him many times to see a neurologist, but he refuses because he doesn’t have health insurance.
About two weeks ago, he had the longest seizure I’ve witnessed. We were sleeping, and it lasted around 8 minutes. This one looked different from the others. He still made strange vocal noises, but this time he had saliva/foam coming from his mouth, he became stiff, threw his arms into the air, shook his entire body, urinated on himself, he had a blank stare, it sounded like he couldn’t breathe properly and afterward he had absolutely no memory of what happened and his breathing was very heavy for like ten minutes after. I turned him on his right side and gave him space. When he regained awareness, he complained that his right side and chest were hurting, but he still refused medical care. Last night it happened again and lasted about 9 minutes.
My questions are:
What type of seizure does this sound like?
Is it normal for someone to have seizures this frequently and not seek treatment?
What should I do while he’s having a seizure? How can I best support him? I have no idea what I’m doing.
At what point should I call 911, even if he tells me not to?
How dangerous is it for seizures to last 8–9 minutes?
I’m really worried because this seems serious, and I don’t know what I can do to help him.

I (f26) lost a 15 year friendship in 2023 and I still think about it years later. I’m wondering if there’s any chance of reconnecting or if I should just let it go. I noticed today she unblocked me on Instagram. This was recent too because I remember still being blocked in November. The friendship ended after a really traumatic situation on Cinco de Mayo 2023. We went out to a club with friends. During the night, another friend became severely intoxicated and appeared to have alcohol poisoning. I felt I needed to get her medical attention and leave with her. I asked my friend to come with us, but she refused to leave because she was having fun. I told her we can come back, she still didn’t want to leave. I showed her pictures of my friend on the floor outside, she still didn’t want to leave. I spent around 30+ minutes going back and forth between outside and inside because my friend with alcohol poisoning was kicked out of the club and my other friend was outside with her waiting for me and my friend who didn’t want to leave. Later that night, she was sexually assaulted inside the club. Afterward, she seemed to blame me for leaving. From my perspective, I felt like I had to choose between staying to have fun and helping someone who was having a medical emergency. I went back to the club immediately to look for her but by then she had already left. I never intended for anything bad to happen to her, and I hate that it did. Instead of talking through what happened, she slowly distanced herself from me. She stopped inviting me out, stopped making plans with me, and started spending time with other friends whether at clubs or going on vacation or the gym or fun activities or dinner etc. We barely discussed the situation directly. About seven months later, she brought it up and told me she didn’t wanna go out with me when I invited her out, she said she didn’t trust me, and she felt like we were on different paths in life. That explanation made me angry because by that point she had barely been speaking to me. This is someone I spoke to daily for 10+ years. I felt like she had already decided to end the friendship without really giving me a chance to understand what she was feeling. Instead of handling my emotions well, I went on Instagram and posted negative things about how she decided to end our friendship and not communicate and blame me for something that could’ve 1000% been prevented if she just left the club with us. She eventually blocked me, and we haven’t spoken since. I regret how I reacted, I’m also still mad she blamed me when I was the one spending so much time trying to get her out of there because my other friends life was at risk. It was like she didn’t even care my other friend needed to go to the hospital. I also feel hurt that a 15 year friendship ended without an honest conversation.
My questions are:
Does it sound like she was grieving and blaming me for what happened that night?
Should I have stayed with her at the club and not leave with the friend who appeared to have alcohol poisoning?
Is there any realistic way to reach out after all this time, or would contacting her likely reopen old wounds?
If you were in her position, would an apology and acknowledgment of my social media behavior matter?
I’m looking for honest perspectives, even if they’re difficult to hear.